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RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:16 pm
by CEOCambodiaNews
A veteran’s ashes are in limbo in Cambodia
1 November 2017
- Nonpayment of funeral expenses has left an American veteran’s remains in limbo nearly two years after his death in Cambodia.
Jimmie Herschal Sillavan, who served with the Air Force in the Pacific from 1959 to 1963, died of a heart attack at his home in Phnom Penh on Dec. 21, 2015. He was given a traditional Buddhist funeral; however, his cremated ashes have been held by a local funeral home since then because nobody has paid the $1,270 cremation fee, said Michael Estep, a fellow Air Force veteran living in Cambodia.

“The body was released (to the funeral home) without the U.S. Embassy checking to make sure funds to cover the cost of the cremation were deposited in a Phnom Penh bank account or with the embassy as required under the Foreign Affairs Manual,” he said in an email.
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Sillavan’s survivors in Cambodia — he left behind a local national wife, Thavy Chevy, and a 4-year-old son, Hemmie Jimmie Sillavan — can’t afford to retrieve the ashes, said Estep, who added he tried but failed to contact the man’s extended family in the United States.
“Jimmie has never received any of the respect/honors given to honorably discharged veterans,” Estep said. “Thavy and her son have not received a burial flag or any other of the honors owed to the immediate family of a deceased honorably discharged veteran.”

Correspondence provided by Estep suggests Sillavan was receiving Social Security and veteran benefits at the time of his death, and there may be other benefits that his wife and child are entitled to, he said. U.S. officials in Phnom Pehn declined to comment on the case, citing privacy concerns.

Roy Day, commander of the Phnom Penh Veterans of Foreign Wars post, said members are looking for ways they can help recover Sillavan’s ashes.
Day said he wants to find out if there are survivor benefits and other things that Sillavan’s son is eligible for and help him obtain a U.S. passport.
https://www.stripes.com/news/a-veteran- ... p-1.495717

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:34 pm
by vladimir
Beats me why people still sign up when they and their families get treated like dirt when the chips are down.

Shameful.

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:43 pm
by Kuroneko
"because nobody has paid the $1,270 cremation fee" But its only about $30 for a cremation. I once helped a family out for a funeral for their son. I gave them $500 and it was a very palatial affair, wagon to take the body to the wat, cremation, Large marquee, food for guests etc. Not forgetting the loud annoying music. :D Seems a bit of a rip off.

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:47 pm
by John Bingham
It seems pretty irresponsible fathering a kid in your 70s.

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:49 pm
by vladimir
Unless he felt/knew they were entitled to support from the US...

If so, why not?

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:56 pm
by taabarang
Kuroneko wrote: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:43 pm "because nobody has paid the $1,270 cremation fee" But its only about $30 for a cremation. I once helped a family out for a funeral for their son. I gave them $500 and it was a very palatial affair, wagon to take the body to the wat, cremation, Large marquee, food for guests etc. Not forgetting the loud annoying music. :D Seems a bit of a rip off.
This is spot on.

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 8:09 pm
by vladimir
Kuroneko wrote: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:43 pm "because nobody has paid the $1,270 cremation fee" But its only about $30 for a cremation. I once helped a family out for a funeral for their son. I gave them $500 and it was a very palatial affair, wagon to take the body to the wat, cremation, Large marquee, food for guests etc. Not forgetting the loud annoying music. :D Seems a bit of a rip off.
Kuroneko, I see a business oppo...

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 8:52 pm
by Kuroneko
vladimir wrote: Tue Nov 07, 2017 8:09 pm
Kuroneko wrote: Tue Nov 07, 2017 7:43 pm "because nobody has paid the $1,270 cremation fee" But its only about $30 for a cremation. I once helped a family out for a funeral for their son. I gave them $500 and it was a very palatial affair, wagon to take the body to the wat, cremation, Large marquee, food for guests etc. Not forgetting the loud annoying music. :D Seems a bit of a rip off.
Kuroneko, I see a business oppo...
Good idea i'm just dying to start :D

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 8:55 pm
by vladimir
I hear lots of deadwood in Takhmao, maybe we can start gathering fuel there

Re: RIP ? US veteran's ashes held for non-payment by funeral home

Posted: Tue Nov 07, 2017 9:01 pm
by Anchor Moy
The US Embassy took charge of a US citizen's body and gave it to a funeral parlour in PP (I presume) for cremation. Surely they are responsible for getting the body released, or am I totally wrong here ?
What about the Cambodian family ? It seems like the man's life was here and not in the US. Looks fked up, but please enlighten me.