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"Hello all, I wonder if anyone can help us? My friends are currently in the process of trying to reunite a Khmer/French girl living in HCMC with her long lost French father. They have managed to locate the friend of the father, but unfortunately he has no recollection of a man named Bourdy. Is there anyway of finding out which French nationals were registered to be living in PP in 1993? see below for details. Thanks"

They have managed to locate the friend of the father, but unfortunately he has no recollection of a man named Bourdy.

If the "friend" they tracked down doesn't remember this Bourdy person in question, why do they bother mentioning him at all? Doesn't sound like a friend to me so that info is probably erroneous and therefore unimportant. It's like saying "I've talked to an eye witness to the incident who says they don't recall seeing anything". Pointless.

so french bloke knocks up a hooker and buggers off?

yeah good luck with that love.

SinnSisamouth wrote:so french bloke knocks up a hooker and buggers off?

yeah good luck with that love.

So are you blaming the daughter cause her mother was a hooker, or are you blaming the daughter cause her father had a one night stand after getting drunk on French wine.

It's a delicate one. The guy lived with the woman for a short period of time 23 years ago. He went back to France and presumably got on with his life. If the woman was only 2 months pregnant, he may not even know that he is a father (taking the mother's word for it that he is.)

The man that is being looked for may be over-joyed to find he has a daughter he never knew and be happy to be reunited. He may also be a grand-dad in France, who's worst nightmare is his youthful indiscretions will be back to haunt him in the form of a long-lost daughter from his soldier days in SEA.

I hope that the people who encouraging this girl to look for her father have thought about the possible consequences of outing him on social media. As for the ethics, I'm torn between the girl who wants to find her dad, and the right to have a private life. (Worst of all, even if she tracks him down, the guy could well be an arsehole, who will reject his daughter and break her heart. ) Be careful what you wish for.


And think hard before casting stones, all you guys out there. Are you all sure that your daughter is not out there somewhere looking for you on Fb ? Scary huh.

Duncan wrote:

SinnSisamouth wrote:so french bloke knocks up a hooker and buggers off?

yeah good luck with that love.

So are you blaming the daughter cause her mother was a hooker, or are you blaming the daughter cause her father had a one night stand after getting drunk on French wine.

chill out there sister

not blaming anyone just giving an opinion

Anchor Moy wrote:It's a delicate one.

Yeah. If they do find him, I fear it will end in heartbreak.

Sounds like he's nothing more than an accidental sperm donor.

And they found his friend who said, I can't really remember." I think he's just looking out for his friend.