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I have had a empty chair and a space beside me in my bed for quite a while now, and I am always looking for the perfect girl that is not a '' bargirl '' or a Wat Phnom reject to share, what is left of my life. So just recently, a Khmer friend left this village girl from the outbacks of Snuol with me because she did not have a place to stay or have family or friends here in PP, and caring for her safety he thought my apartment would be a safe place for her.[ wrong ] The only job in her 21 years of life has been looking after a few cows on her parents rice farm, does not read or write Khmer [ or English ] and is very shy. Her having spent all her life in the countryside where there are very few people, she does not like crowds, bars, even schools have to many people.
I want to keep that chair and space beside me in my bed vacant incase the perfect partner for me comes into my life, so what does one do with a village girl to help her on her way in life.

Duncan wrote:I have had a empty chair and a space beside me in my bed for quite a while now, and I am always looking for the perfect girl that is not a '' bargirl '' or a Wat Phnom reject to share, what is left of my life. So just recently, a Khmer friend left this village girl from the outbacks of Snuol with me because she did not have a place to stay or have family or friends here in PP, and caring for her safety he thought my apartment would be a safe place for her.[ wrong ] The only job in her 21 years of life has been looking after a few cows on her parents rice farm, does not read or write Khmer [ or English ] and is very shy. Her having spent all her life in the countryside where there are very few people, she does not like crowds, bars, even schools have to many people.
I want to keep that chair and space beside me in my bed vacant incase the perfect partner for me comes into my life, so what does one do with a village girl to help her on her way in life.

Just see what comes naturally? Fall in love, have loads of kids and live happily ever after, maybe. It does happen.
The least you can do is feed her up and try to teach her a bit of English and how to swim. Slowly, slowly. Sounds like she is still young enough to learn. Everyone that moves from the country to a place with a lot of people takes a while to adjust. Give her time to acclimatize to her new surroundings.

how come she has had to leave home?

Jamie_Lambo wrote:how come she has had to leave home?

[ communication problems ],,,, I guess if I could find out, it would be the fact that there is no future in a rice field, one thousand miles from nowhere, for a girl of marriageable age.
I'll try to put her in the right direction for a job but with no skills I think she will end up in the usual industries , clothing factory or ? unless she gets training fron a NGO.

If her parents let her stay with you? Be careful when you help someone, you might be accused a human trafficker.
BTW she seems doesn't know anything to help herself. People change when they know everything. You should give her the time to learn and help herself then if she decides to be your long romantic partner, let's go for it. good luck.

This is really weird to leave her with someone she doesn't know or have no idea of before. Not to mention, she hardly read khmer and how is she going to talk to you. One more thing is that you are a foreigner and as you mentioned she spent of most her time in the countryside looking after her parents cattle. I wonder if she ever saw a white-face person before.

Out of curiosity, what was happening with her parents and why did they need to send her to the city while they have no relative here and her daughter is f*cking clueless about the city.

BTW, i think little salary has got a point. Have you ever thought that it is your friend plan to rob you. Dump a young country girl with you and go to police say you kidnapped her, illegally detained her and raped her ?

Samouth wrote:This is really weird to leave her with someone she doesn't know or have no idea of before. Not to mention, she hardly read khmer and how is she going to talk to you. One more thing is that you are a foreigner and as you mentioned she spent of most her time in the countryside looking after her parents cattle. I wonder if she ever saw a white-face person before.

Out of curiosity, what was happening with her parents and why did they need to send her to the city while they have no relative here and her daughter is f*cking clueless about the city.

BTW, i think little salary has got a point. Have you ever thought that it is your friend plan to rob you. Dump a young country girl with you and go to police say you kidnapped her, illegally detained her and raped her ?

That's going to make a great movie. But your right, she cannot read Khmer, too shy to talk to me, too uneducated to learn. In the end I will probably find out that her parents are multi millionaires.

But the good news is, [ just received ] she has just been promised a job cleaning in a hotel for $100 pm starting on 13 of December.

Why do I have this sense of foreboding?

Duncan wrote:

Jamie_Lambo wrote:how come she has had to leave home?

[ communication problems ],,,, I guess if I could find out, it would be the fact that there is no future in a rice field, one thousand miles from nowhere, for a girl of marriageable age.
I'll try to put her in the right direction for a job but with no skills I think she will end up in the usual industries , clothing factory or ? unless she gets training fron a NGO.

yeah its a strange set up, as others have mentioned, but at least shes got a job sorted hopefully, i have heard similar stories before but the girl hasnt been left with a barang stranger, good luck though

it is a bit unusual that she has to leave her village and stay with a unknown man in PP
is she divorced ? or maybe she was engaged and the guy disappeared

I think you can do something good for her and have some amusement with her (not in the sexual way). It is great to show her slowly the city way of life, but always respecting her. I remember a village woman the first time in the elevator, maybe she had seen just on the TV.

Maybe you could teach her some English.