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Phnom Penh Pal wrote: ↑Mon Jun 21, 2021 8:29 pm There's a lot to be said for long term relationships between a westerner and a South East Asian.  Please have your say below.

I believe that the majority of these relationships dissolve and disappear quicker than Pol Pot's toupee in a rainstorm. The main reason for this is not the cultural or language barriers, but the woman's temperament, inability to adapt and flourish and their ability to be overly jealous. They can be nasty at times with over the top childish put downs and quite rebellious or a bit of a saboteur as can men, however females are like archaeologists -  due to their natural ability to dig up the past. Also more than a few have that me, me, me attitude and are also unwilling to look at the big picture, often taking a dime now when given the choice between a quick reward and long term substantial gain. 

It would be fair to say we are no angels either, probably pirates would be a better description due to our travelling and promiscuous ways. Some of us western men lack tact or experience when dealing with these women and have quick tempers too, especially when tired, stressed or in drink. The type of Western bloke that goes for an Asian woman may not have great skills with Western women, they may just prefer the Asian look or they may not be attractive to the normal girls. Perhaps we just want a young girl on our arm to make us feel younger.

Few of these mixed cultural relationships work when you remember that the woman will almost certainly not want to study or work. Some will be eager to work, whereas some will be told not to. You've got to remember that these SE Asian girls need security, so if they think that your job is not stable or the future looks bleak money wise they may jump ship. They'll also be those folk who are minted and the girl will put up with next to anything. 

There are many tactics we can use to resolve these issues or regular clashes. I use these methods listed below;

* walk away when confronted with aggressive behavior.
* agree to disagree.
* offer to help if it's about housework or the kids. Offer to pay if it's about money.
* buy her calming materials such as canvas and paint, beer and a curry, flowers or arrange to have a break either by herself or just us without the kids.
* Revisit sticking points later in a more tactful way or at a better time.

You can keep them sweet, but when they run out of problems they'll more than likely start to jump and attack shadows. Still manage it as best as you can, or you could leave.

Phnom Penh Pal wrote: ↑Mon Jun 21, 2021 8:29 pm ....
There are many tactics we can use to resolve these issues or regular clashes. I use these methods listed below;

* walk away when confronted with aggressive behavior.
* agree to disagree.
* offer to help if it's about housework or the kids. Offer to pay if it's about money.
* buy her calming materials such as canvas and paint, beer and a curry, flowers or arrange to have a break either by herself or just us without the kids.
* Revisit sticking points later in a more tactful way or at a better time.

* spend some time reflecting on how you may have contributed to or instigated the aggressive behaviour
* listen, discuss and seek resolution prior to aggressive behaviour
* consider that a raised voice is not aggression, but rather frustration
* stop considering the female has the problem while being blind to the problematic behaviour you may have that comes before her frustration