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hi im wondering if anyone has had the same situation and what rights do i have? i have a new born child with a khmer girl we have split and she refuses to let me see my kid im on both birth certificates and also i have both would i be able to do anything legally to see my child?

What I would do:

I would say, I would like to help with money for food and education, etc. But if you don't let me see my child, why should I give money? Then when she wants money, it is conditional on you spending time with the child.

Let her know, you want to work together so the child has the best possible upbringing.

https://bit.ly/2WeLbwh

An interesting read about family law, it may help you, especially beginning at article 90.

Best of luck, it's especially difficult when a mother doesn't let the father see the child.

Off topic but I found this interesting:
Article 6:
A marriage shall be prohibited as to:
x a person whose sex is the same sex as the other;
x a person whose penis is impotent;
a person who has leprous, tuberculosis, cancer or venereal diseases which are not completely cured;
x a person who is insane, and a person who has mental defect;
x a person who was bound by prior marriage which is not yet dissolved

explorer wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 9:41 am What I would do:

I would say, I would like to help with money for food and education, etc. But if you don't let me see my child, why should I give money? Then when she wants money, it is conditional on you spending time with the child.

Your suggestion seems to be based upon the belief Cambodians will do anything for money.

What if she has already found a man who is supporting her and the child? Does she have any grounds for not allowing visitation? Doesn t a father have an obligation to feed and clothe his child regardless if he sees the child or not?

Anthony's Weiner wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 10:08 am Your suggestion seems to be based upon the belief Cambodians will do anything for money.

What if she has already found a man who is supporting her and the child? Does she have any grounds for not allowing visitation? Doesn t a father have an obligation to feed and clothe his child regardless if he sees the child or not?

Many people take an adversarial approach. I would take a 'lets work together' approach. Let's do what's best for the child.

If she cooperates, genuinely do what is best for the child.

explorer wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 10:15 am

Anthony's Weiner wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 10:08 am Your suggestion seems to be based upon the belief Cambodians will do anything for money.

What if she has already found a man who is supporting her and the child? Does she have any grounds for not allowing visitation? Doesn t a father have an obligation to feed and clothe his child regardless if he sees the child or not?

Many people take an adversarial approach. I would take a 'lets work together' approach. Let's do what's best for the child.

If she cooperates, genuinely do what is best for the child.

Then why give advice that is not aligned with your own beliefs?
Doing what is best for the child by withholding money until she complies with your wishes may not be in the best interests of the child.

Anthony's Weiner wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 10:08 am

explorer wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 9:41 am What I would do:

I would say, I would like to help with money for food and education, etc. But if you don't let me see my child, why should I give money? Then when she wants money, it is conditional on you spending time with the child.

Your suggestion seems to be based upon the belief Cambodians will do anything for money.

What if she has already found a man who is supporting her and the child? Does she have any grounds for not allowing visitation? Doesn t a father have an obligation to feed and clothe his child regardless if he sees the child or not?

Before you derail this sensitive thread with the typical endless semantic back and forth betwixt you and explorer....

....do you have any constructive thoughts for the OP? Thanks pal.

on a side note:
OP uses the phrase " we have split " .... this would infer a mutually agreed separation. If so why the animosity from the "girl". Calling the mother of your child a "girl" is also telling tbh.

(there was more to this post but it was pure speculation and so we'll let it run and see where it goes before i comment again)

explorer wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 9:41 am What I would do:

I would say, I would like to help with money for food and education, etc. But if you don't let me see my child, why should I give money? Then when she wants money, it is conditional on you spending time with the child.

Let her know, you want to work together so the child has the best possible upbringing.

explorer wrote: ↑Sat Oct 26, 2019 10:15 am Many people take an adversarial approach. I would take a 'lets work together' approach. Let's do what's best for the child.

If she cooperates, genuinely do what is best for the child.

What actually happens as time goes on, depends on how she responds. I would do what is best for the child. But if the mother makes it very difficult, there is a limit to how much you can do.

If you don't turn adversarial or hostile, she may respond negatively at first, but after thinking about it, she may want you in the child's life.