luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod

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luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod

Post by kocdim » Sat Jan 13, 2018 1:44 pm

I was considering to get married in Cambodia. I read the first option there is sin sod payed to the bride parents and also monthly support to the parents. The second option is much higher sin sod and no monthly support to the family. Any feedback/experience with this?
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Re: sin sod

Post by phuketrichard » Sat Jan 13, 2018 2:22 pm

lol
and dont forget u will be required to replace the dying buffalo, brothers education and dads second wife
In a nation run by swine, all pigs are upward-mobile and the rest of us are fucked until we can put our acts together: not necessarily to win, but mainly to keep from losing completely. HST
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Re: sin sod

Post by Kuroneko » Sat Jan 13, 2018 2:46 pm

phuketrichard wrote:
Sat Jan 13, 2018 2:22 pm
lol
and dont forget u will be required to replace the dying buffalo, brothers education and dads second wife
:lol:
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Re: sin sod

Post by kocdim » Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:37 pm

phuketrichard wrote:
Sat Jan 13, 2018 2:22 pm
lol
and dont forget u will be required to replace the dying buffalo, brothers education and dads second wife
mmm I was looking for some serious feed back from people with some experience with all this. But I have to admit it was little funny.
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Re: sin sod

Post by John Bingham » Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:46 pm

What the hell is sin sod?
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Re: sin sod

Post by Kammekor » Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:49 pm

OP,

first of all it's not called sin sot. Why do you call it this?

In Cambodia a casual term for it is 'luy tuk doh'. Literally that means 'money for the breast milk'. It's an amount of money paid by the man to the parents of the girl for her first marriage. This means - if she's a virgin. It's not common to pay this money for second or third marriages.

What's done with this money - and the exact amount, depends on a load of factors. Some families agree to just display the money, after which it's given back to the couple to buy land or build a house for instance. Sometimes the money is used to pay for all the wedding rituals and the bride will offer all the revenues from the wedding to the parents. Sometimes (a part of) the money will be transferred into gold - for the girl. But in all the cases I know the 'luy tuk doh' was somehow used to increase family wealth. I have never just seen the money being returned to to guy, but my experience is limited.

About caring for the family - yes, in Cambodia people care for each other hen inside a family, since there's hardly anything like like insurance. This means you might be asked for support in certain situations.
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Re: sin sod

Post by Anchor Moy » Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:52 pm

Why not talk to your prospective wife ? Ask her what the family will expect, and what she thinks you should do.
If you don't trust your wife, then ask yourself some more questions before you go any further.

Plenty of posters here are married to Cambodians, so will have advice for you, but I think it's very much a case by case thing you need to work out with your particular family. Ask your g/f.
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Re: sin sod

Post by phuketrichard » Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:11 pm

1. how old are you and she?
2.is she from the city or country?
3. is/was she a working girl?
4.is she and/or her family educated?
5.do they own a car

these will affect asking price

sorry ,forgot one

6.is/was she a virgin when u met her?
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Re: sin sod

Post by pczz » Sat Jan 13, 2018 5:08 pm

if the village or anyone in it need something they will go your wifes family and ask her to get you to help. Then it gets tricky and you can wind up being an ATM for the entire village if you are not careful
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Re: sin sod

Post by Takmav » Sat Jan 13, 2018 5:42 pm

John Bingham wrote:
Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:46 pm
What the hell is sin sod?
Thai language. Nowadays only paid for hiso virgin brides
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