68 year-old Croatian seeks advice when asked to pay $25,000+ to the mother of his 19 year-old Cambodian fiancee

Stravaiger · Post by **Stravaiger** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:14 am

CorradoAmaradio wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 5:22 pm It’s not that I want to marry a Cambodian girl specifically because she’s Cambodian. It’s just that, while plans do change, I plan on staying here—not only because I enjoy the country but also because of business opportunities. I have something coming together, and Cambodia fits the criteria I need to get it off the ground. If I plan to stay here, go through the process of buying land, building a house, and setting up and running a business, the chances of me meeting and marrying a Cambodian girl are naturally quite high.

You are only 19. Sow your wild oats and work on building your wealth - you can get married when you are 68.

I strongly recommend that you read this

https://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Wealth-F ... 0593714024

Getting married in your early twenties only makes sense in the context of a plan to be married several times through your life, serial monogamy, which is fine but usually only an option for the well-off.

Why do divorces cost so much ? As they say, because they are worth it. Getting married while planning to protect your assets in the event of a divorce is like shooting yourself in the foot because you can afford to go to hospital afterwards. Just don't pull the trigger.

CorradoAmaradio · Post by **CorradoAmaradio** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:47 am

Stravaiger wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:14 am
CorradoAmaradio wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 5:22 pm It’s not that I want to marry a Cambodian girl specifically because she’s Cambodian. It’s just that, while plans do change, I plan on staying here—not only because I enjoy the country but also because of business opportunities. I have something coming together, and Cambodia fits the criteria I need to get it off the ground. If I plan to stay here, go through the process of buying land, building a house, and setting up and running a business, the chances of me meeting and marrying a Cambodian girl are naturally quite high.
You are only 19. Sow your wild oats and work on building your wealth - you can get married when you are 68.

I strongly recommend that you read this

https://www.amazon.com/Algebra-Wealth-F ... 0593714024

Getting married in your early twenties only makes sense in the context of a plan to be married several times through your life, serial monogamy, which is fine but usually only an option for the well-off.

Why do divorces cost so much ? As they say, because they are worth it. Getting married while planning to protect your assets in the event of a divorce is like shooting yourself in the foot because you can afford to go to hospital afterwards. Just don't pull the trigger.

Nice, I love reading. I have 8 books lined up for next month and will line that one up for Jan.

HaifongWangchuck · Post by **HaifongWangchuck** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:48 pm

Alex wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 8:50 am
Tommie wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 8:20 pm Many years ago I was told by a reputal drunk in a bar in Sihanoukville that there is an equation on how young a girl can be for the relationship to be accepted in SAE. It goes something like this:
Divide your age in half + 7 years. So if the guy is 68 years old the girl must be minimum 34 + 7 years old = 41.
I don't think this "rule" is what's "accepted in Southeast Asia". It's a rule expats in SEA have come up with, nothing to do with what the locals find acceptable. It does produce sensible numbers though.

Has anyone ever actually heard of a marriage or relationship being rejected by Khmer people because of an age gap? It's not that usual, but it's not entirely common to see even Khmer men in in their 30s or 40s dating teenage girls, and certainly no one will object if their families don't: In fact, just today my Tuktuk driver was a man of 41 married to a girl who is almost 17; they told me their friends joke but everyone (including their families) has been supportive, with only strangers ever making rude comments:

So again, people really seem to be more offended by gay or interracial (though it's a magnitude worse for gay relationships) than large age gaps, and I'd argue they are completely normal in the sense that absolutely no one gives a shit.

CorradoAmaradio · Post by **CorradoAmaradio** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:57 pm

HaifongWangchuck wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:48 pm
Alex wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 8:50 am
Tommie wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 8:20 pm Many years ago I was told by a reputal drunk in a bar in Sihanoukville that there is an equation on how young a girl can be for the relationship to be accepted in SAE. It goes something like this:
Divide your age in half + 7 years. So if the guy is 68 years old the girl must be minimum 34 + 7 years old = 41.
I don't think this "rule" is what's "accepted in Southeast Asia". It's a rule expats in SEA have come up with, nothing to do with what the locals find acceptable. It does produce sensible numbers though.
Has anyone ever actually heard of a marriage or relationship being rejected because of an age gap? It's not that usual, but it's not entirely common to see even Khmer men in in their 30s or 40s dating teenage girls: In fact, just today my Tuktuk driver was a man of 41 married to a girl who is almost 17; they told me their friends joke but everyone (including their families) has been supportive, with only strangers ever making rude comments:

So again, people really seem to be more offended by gay or interracial (though it's a magnitude worse for gay relationships) than large age gaps, and I'd argue they are completely normal in the sense that absolutely no one gives a shit.

Mabey concerning about age is more of a recent (recent in a macro sence say in the hundreds of years) western thing. In the past age materd less in the western world from what I know, so mabey the social concern about age did not evolve as much as it did in other contries.

xtreme · Post by **xtreme** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:40 pm

Stravaiger wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:14 am
CorradoAmaradio wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 5:22 pm It’s not that I want to marry a Cambodian girl specifically because she’s Cambodian. It’s just that, while plans do change, I plan on staying here—not only because I enjoy the country but also because of business opportunities. I have something coming together, and Cambodia fits the criteria I need to get it off the ground. If I plan to stay here, go through the process of buying land, building a house, and setting up and running a business, the chances of me meeting and marrying a Cambodian girl are naturally quite high.
You are only 19. Sow your wild oats and work on building your wealth - you can get marr
Getting married in your early twenties only makes sense in the context of a plan to be married several times through your life, serial monogamy, which is fine but usually only an option for the well-off.

Why do divorces cost so much ? As they say, because they are worth it. Getting married while planning to protect your assets in the event of a divorce is like shooting yourself in the foot because you can afford to go to hospital afterwards. Just don't pull the trigger.

marriage is not abt monogamy or wealth.
it's about having and raising children

CorradoAmaradio · Post by **CorradoAmaradio** » Thu Nov 28, 2024 12:06 am

xtreme wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:40 pm
Stravaiger wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 11:14 am
CorradoAmaradio wrote: ↑Tue Nov 26, 2024 5:22 pm It’s not that I want to marry a Cambodian girl specifically because she’s Cambodian. It’s just that, while plans do change, I plan on staying here—not only because I enjoy the country but also because of business opportunities. I have something coming together, and Cambodia fits the criteria I need to get it off the ground. If I plan to stay here, go through the process of buying land, building a house, and setting up and running a business, the chances of me meeting and marrying a Cambodian girl are naturally quite high.
You are only 19. Sow your wild oats and work on building your wealth - you can get marr
Getting married in your early twenties only makes sense in the context of a plan to be married several times through your life, serial monogamy, which is fine but usually only an option for the well-off.

Why do divorces cost so much ? As they say, because they are worth it. Getting married while planning to protect your assets in the event of a divorce is like shooting yourself in the foot because you can afford to go to hospital afterwards. Just don't pull the trigger.

marriage is not abt monogamy or wealth.
it's about having and raising children

I don’t disagree. Though there’s certainly no issue with being married for an extended period before having kids. In fact, that might be the better approach—if you rush into having children and later realize the marriage isn’t working, you end up in a difficult position. You wouldn’t want to stay with someone you’re incompatible with, but at the same time, you wouldn’t want to put your kids through the hardship of a divorce.

BklynBoy · Post by **BklynBoy** » Thu Nov 28, 2024 4:48 am

Issue w/ the money part. When buying land or a condo/house you never put the whole amount. You pay it off monthly w/ an initial investment.

Would that be a possibility? as a matter of fact I think westerners who want to be respectful can go above and beyond-- the language barrier also helps the locals because it may be difficult to explain that concept. Locals buy phones and motos all the time with putting down partial payment and monthly payments

You dont' have to ask if they would accept it- the family. You offer it and its the best you can do. 25k is friggin over the top laughable. say its 10k.

Put down 2k and pay off monthly. or am i out of touch?

scott61 · Post by **scott61** » Thu Nov 28, 2024 6:02 am

HaifongWangchuck wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:48 pm

Has anyone ever actually heard of a marriage or relationship being rejected by Khmer people because of an age gap? It's not that usual, but it's not entirely common to see even Khmer men in in their 30s or 40s dating teenage girls, and certainly no one will object if their families don't: In fact, just today my Tuktuk driver was a man of 41 married to a girl who is almost 17; they told me their friends joke but everyone (including their families) has been supportive, with only strangers ever making rude comments.

I agree. The concept of age gap is not an issue here. She is an adult at the age of 19, and so any age is appropriate. People in the West who find it gross or weird, have developed within a culture in which there is a long period called adolescence lasting from puberty up to as late as age 24. In South-East Asia and most parts of the world, those we class as adolescents, and even children, are not seen as precious, and may well be sent out to work.

Bluejeanbaby · Post by **Bluejeanbaby** » Thu Nov 28, 2024 6:51 am

scott61 wrote: ↑Thu Nov 28, 2024 6:02 am
HaifongWangchuck wrote: ↑Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:48 pm

Has anyone ever actually heard of a marriage or relationship being rejected by Khmer people because of an age gap? It's not that usual, but it's not entirely common to see even Khmer men in in their 30s or 40s dating teenage girls, and certainly no one will object if their families don't: In fact, just today my Tuktuk driver was a man of 41 married to a girl who is almost 17; they told me their friends joke but everyone (including their families) has been supportive, with only strangers ever making rude comments.

I agree. The concept of age gap is not an issue here. She is an adult at the age of 19, and so any age is appropriate. People in the West who find it gross or weird, have developed within a culture in which there is a long period called adolescence lasting from puberty up to as late as age 24. In South-East Asia and most parts of the world, those we class as adolescents, and even children, are not seen as precious, and may well be sent out to work.

https://medicalxpress.com/news/2018-01- ... cence.html

7 Doctors at the Royal Children's Hospital in Australia called for the change from 19 to 24. Something to do with wisdom teeth, the World Health Organization still considers adolescence to end at 19.

To suggest that children or adolescents are not considered precious by their parents in SE Asia or in most parts of the world because they may be sent to work is laughable, however poverty is not.

In America it is common for adolescents to have a part time job, it is something most parents are proud of, that their children take the initiative to start to plan for their future.

The equivalent in the UK would be your child going to the bookie or liquor off sales for the first time.

phuketrichard · Post by **phuketrichard** » Thu Nov 28, 2024 7:59 am

growing up, every friend of mine in the states had a job from at least 16, if not 15 on
how else where we to pay for our cars & fun?

In much of the non western world
Many kids start working, helping out at 6-7 years old.......... poverty............
Just cause their working does not make them an adult

that article is sheer nonsense

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