Does being nice to chaperone get better results?

Swaize · Post by **Swaize** » Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:13 pm

Reading up on Khmer (good girl) dating is wild for me as someone in the west. How long am I expected to be chaperone dating? Will treating the chaperone help with building rapport and hopefully get me solo dates?

If I hit it off with my match, I fully expect my parents will get involved with hers (they are friends from childhood) and an engagement will be set.

Is visiting too often seen a bad thing? I just wanna take my date to the movies/lunch/breakfast with the limited time I have.

Bluenose · Post by **Bluenose** » Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:39 pm

On your other posts you say you are "100% Cambodian" with Cambodian family so why are you asking questions on a website for expats - that's non-Cambodians?
Just to be clear, this forum is aimed at expats in Cambodia, not Cambodians living as expats

Alex · Post by **Alex** » Tue Aug 01, 2023 11:17 pm

Treating the chaperone anything else but nice surely wouldn't be well received, isn't that a no-brainer?

Spigzy · Post by **Spigzy** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 12:29 am

There are plenty of "good girl" women here who don't need a chaperone, are you dating somebody from the 1970s? You should just come here & look around, no need to go the arranged route for a good partner. The country has changed immensely even in just the last 10 years, unless you're aiming for the King's daughter (ahem), I think you should snoop around - you might just surprise yourself & save yourself a heap of hassle with any families that think things still run like the 70s.

violet · Post by **violet** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 2:02 am

Bluenose wrote: ↑Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:39 pm On your other posts you say you are "100% Cambodian" with Cambodian family so why are you asking questions on a website for expats - that's non-Cambodians?
Just to be clear, this forum is aimed at expats in Cambodia, not Cambodians living as expats

You’re a real douche, aren’t you.

A Cambodian from the USA is as much an expat / forum participant as an Indian, Korean, second generation white fella Californian.

Pull your head in. You seem personally affected by the poster’s declaration and choice to post here.

DeparRudeAnts · Post by **DeparRudeAnts** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 6:37 am

Bluenose wrote: ↑Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:39 pm On your other posts you say you are "100% Cambodian" with Cambodian family so why are you asking questions on a website for expats - that's non-Cambodians?
Just to be clear, this forum is aimed at expats in Cambodia, not Cambodians living as expats

Yeah, what we need on this forum is less posters.
Start the cull..

newkidontheblock · Post by **newkidontheblock** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:07 am

Sounds more like KhmerAmerican culture from the East Coast. Much more conservative and less likely to change.

If the family arranges it, expect a chaperone. And all the cultural baggage that goes along with it. And they will pick a more conservative girl, of course.

A lot of Khmer fled during the war and then the Khmer Rouge, so expect traditions to be stuck in 1970s or so.

However if you find a Khmer girl on your own, then you are free to pick the one best for you.

If you turn down enough of their picks, you are also free to chose your own as well.

Good luck!

DeparRudeAnts · Post by **DeparRudeAnts** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:19 am

You wouldn't catch me asking my parents to find me a wife.

I can make my own bad choices thanks

Bluenose · Post by **Bluenose** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:21 am

violet wrote: ↑Wed Aug 02, 2023 2:02 am
Bluenose wrote: ↑Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:39 pm On your other posts you say you are "100% Cambodian" with Cambodian family so why are you asking questions on a website for expats - that's non-Cambodians?
Just to be clear, this forum is aimed at expats in Cambodia, not Cambodians living as expats
You’re a real douche, aren’t you.

A Cambodian from the USA is as much an expat / forum participant as an Indian, Korean, second generation white fella Californian.

Pull your head in. You seem personally affected by the poster’s declaration and choice to post here.

Whaaaaaaaateveeerrrrrrr.......

Kammekor · Post by **Kammekor** » Wed Aug 02, 2023 7:41 am

Swaize wrote: ↑Tue Aug 01, 2023 8:13 pm Reading up on Khmer (good girl) dating is wild for me as someone in the west. How long am I expected to be chaperone dating? Will treating the chaperone help with building rapport and hopefully get me solo dates?

If I hit it off with my match, I fully expect my parents will get involved with hers (they are friends from childhood) and an engagement will be set.

Is visiting too often seen a bad thing? I just wanna take my date to the movies/lunch/breakfast with the limited time I have.

Things have changed, fast, over the last decade. The odds of you ever dating with a chaperone in tow aren't that big I guess.

Having said that, it is a kind of a no brainer how to treat the chaperone. If you want to come across as a nice person to the girl you're dating being rude to the chaperone isn't going to help, is it? But you don't have to treat the chaperone like a princess either. After all, she's not the one you're after.

Parents involved: yes. At a certain point. But not before a (estimated) 6 months period of meeting each other.

Visiting too often? What's too often? Converse with your girl. She can tell you about the specific feelings about you in her family. We can't.

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