Hello,

I’m a bit of a unique one since I am actually 100% Cambodian (naturalized in the USA). Grew up in a Cambodian household (everyone of my siblings and parents have fluency) and I have fluency in the language.

I’m kind of done dating in the west. Too much baggage, too much casual hook ups has left a huge swathe of women undateable.

How would I be perceived over there in Cambodia? I have a good job over here and a good career. Would I be treated as Barang or would my brides parents be fine with me?

How would I even start? I have cousins and aunts over there as well as my own parents, should I ask them to play matchmaker for me? I’m not interested in working girls, just looking for a girl who comes from a good background that got momma seal of approval.

I know most marriages in Cambodia are arranged and I’m 28 so I’m def in the older category.

Nothing to lose - if you''re bringing in the bacon and "a top bloke" I would imagine most Cambodians would be totally cool with it, from poor families (100%), through to top end I honestly cannot see you having any problem whatsoever. You may struggle perhaps only if looking at the real top Okhna/Chum Teav, government families, royality, etc perhaps could be a bit more choosy that you're not 100% "Khmer" (although you are).

The bigger question is how you intend to pickup said Mrs Swaize, there's a pile of other threads on Khmer women & where the various levels hang out. I won't dig into those as it is very much personal what type of woman you are after, but suffice to say it isn't all just old white guys and bar girls, so aim high. (no offence to old white guys & bar girls, if they're happy they're happy!)

I met my wife through friends in Cambodia, but that was not a setup or arranged and rather by chance. I wonder if something like that could work for you when visiting your family in Cambodia? Not a fan of a formal setup though.

Are you able to stay in Cambodia a while? If so I’d say just come here and it will happen naturally.

I didn't know Khmerican dudes needed to ask Cambodian relatives to play matchmaker.

I thought it was just done automatically.

It's funny you find USA women undateable but consider getting an arranged marriage. Aren't those women the literal definition of undateable?

I'm almost certain most marriages aren't arranged, I don't even think the hill tribes do that anymore.

If you have trouble dating in the west then I can promise you, it won't work here. Sounds like you want to marry some yokel girl and whisk her away to the states.

I would imagine that you would be considered 'a good catch' by the local women given you're Cambodian, speak Cambodian, have family there so presumably you are aware of local customs etc, have a good job & career in the US. Plus you want a wife..not a just a GF.

Like anywhere, the trick is to find a suitable partner. Others above have posted good suggestions on how you could approach it. In particular, and from personal experience, I also recommend GMJS-CEO's quote

Are you able to stay in Cambodia a while? If so I’d say just come here and it will happen naturally.

Only way to really get to know a girl properly...seen too many 'met on holidays/internet' relationships go sour. Just my humble opinion. Good luck!

Sounds like an incel tbh