Sad girl
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He was the brother of my housekeeper at the time, not really a friend. I think that was about a year and a bit ago, you've got an excellent memory.
I did a nice thing for a friend's family - but I don't socialise with single, young Cambodian men and I'm not qualified to comment on their issues.
I did a nice thing for a friend's family - but I don't socialise with single, young Cambodian men and I'm not qualified to comment on their issues.
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The ladies just post those sad crying photos for the attention it brings. I don't think they are actually going through any mental breakdowns, well I suppose some of the women are more hormonal and overreact like that.
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Do you think all of the organizations working in Cambodia are doing a good job, and using donations wisely?AndyKK wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 5:32 pm What would it matter if it is of young khmer men or women, if he or anyone would like to help these people out. Don't you think it would be better too approach an organisation that have trained professional people doing the job, that would distance oneself, also, with the persons donations they would be helping so many.
Do you think the only way to help people is by giving money?
Do you think you can improve the life of the girl in the first post?
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explorer wrote: ↑Mon Jul 27, 2020 11:11 am If you look at the Facebook pages of Cambodian girls, you will see some who say they are sad. Some also post pictures of girls crying.
Some also post pictures of slashed wrists, and a girl with a noose who could hang herself.
In some cases, the girls may be being light hearted, or they may be concerned about something which is not really very serious.
I recently dropped in on a family I had met in the past. I said, how are you? The daughter said in English, I am not happy. Then she said, my family doesn't love me. (Her family cannot understand English, and don't know what she said.) My first impression was, she is probably a bit immature, and overreacting to something which is not a big deal. A little while later, her older sister told me, with her listening, that she was lazy. Later on, her mother said, with her listening, they are poor, and don't have enough money to look after this daughter. She could have said, they don't have enough money for everything they want. But this daughter was the problem. To me that is sad. That was only in the short time I was there. I don't know what else have they said?
What is the real problem? It is partly the difficulty in making money in Cambodia. It is partly the fact that many Cambodians work enough to get enough money to live, they lie around doing nothing the rest of the time. It is partly because the father does some work, but not a lot.
If a job came up in a factory, she would probably be rushed off to work there.
If someone came along and said they wanted to marry her, she would probably say yes, how quick can we do it?
On the rare occasions that I might see her, I will try to encourage her.
She is too poor to have a phone or Facebook account.
You also realize some of the simpler Cambodians are not very smart at handling real life situations. In this case, I am thinking of her mother and sister.
I have a 100% success rate of stopping girls crying.
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Rozzie- I get the gist of your point as to why men don't discuss khmer guy issues more on here. I dunno why, probably coz we are a male heavy membership and hence the focus is more on the opposite sex.
Explorer has chosen to start a topic about khmer girl issues on this occasion. I dunno exactly why...probably I suspect coz like him I see a lot of crying khmer pics on khmer facebook and also those khmer youtube music videos often show the same with the usual scenario of khmer boyfriend finds another girl. It's a common parody here from what I can tell.
What I don't get is why are you picking on explorer specifically as to why he is posting on girl and not boy issues. I think you'd agree we're getting into a dangerous place telling OP's what topics they should and shouldn't post on? I'm wondering whether you have another agenda in your line of questioning?
If I'm reading it right, you seemingly don't like the topic coz the focus is on girls rather than boys. So, anyone including yourself can start a topic on boy issues. Also, and correct me if I read it wrong, but when you say 'I'm a woman, I tend to stick to what I know. You should do the same', are you suggesting one should only talk about and raise topics depending on their gender? Surely that can't be right..explorer may know more about khmer women in the same way you may know more about men.
I might add by the way, saying 'You should do the same' comes over as condescending..sure, he 'could' have but not 'should'..just saying.
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Young men pull this shit too, putting up sad memes and pictures of themselves looking weepy. Often it seems it's because they like the melodrama and other times they might actually be feeling troubled. It's just emotional immaturity, not helped by the soppy TV shows and songs people go for.
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I would say for the first two questions you know the answer the same that I also know, so I would agree with your appreciation with such organisations, but in saying this there are those of a good causes, one for example is halo trust.explorer wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 6:04 pmDo you think all of the organizations working in Cambodia are doing a good job, and using donations wisely?AndyKK wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 5:32 pm What would it matter if it is of young khmer men or women, if he or anyone would like to help these people out. Don't you think it would be better too approach an organisation that have trained professional people doing the job, that would distance oneself, also, with the persons donations they would be helping so many.
Do you think the only way to help people is by giving money?
Do you think you can improve the life of the girl in the first post?
https://www.halotrust.org/where-we-work ... /cambodia/
I also don't believe in the only way to help is by handing monies out, but it does depend more on the situation and what care is needed, that being in many cases cannot be avoided. It maybe like the above organisation that certainly could not of managed their long term achievements without donations and support.
Your final question to me, firstly I don't know the family nor girl, or the problem, unlike yourself. I see from that first post, that of a tearful teen, maybe going into womanhood, mixed up with emotions being new to her, but there could be many underlined reasons for her sadness.
I know you wish to help people with reading previous posts, I suppose it's not my place, to say too you, just be careful out there.
I am kind of busy myself caring for that of my partner, and her illness.
the photo is of a old friend many moons ago.
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On a free and open forum like this one that is for the most part dominated by male testosterone; female opinion, (which may invariably differ from our male counterparts) should be welcome and given due consideration.clutchcargo wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 6:10 pmRozzie- I get the gist of your point as to why men don't discuss khmer guy issues more on here. I dunno why, probably coz we are a male heavy membership and hence the focus is more on the opposite sex.
Explorer has chosen to start a topic about khmer girl issues on this occasion. I dunno exactly why...probably I suspect coz like him I see a lot of crying khmer pics on khmer facebook and also those khmer youtube music videos often show the same with the usual scenario of khmer boyfriend finds another girl. It's a common parody here from what I can tell.
What I don't get is why are you picking on explorer specifically as to why he is posting on girl and not boy issues. I think you'd agree we're getting into a dangerous place telling OP's what topics they should and shouldn't post on? I'm wondering whether you have another agenda in your line of questioning?
If I'm reading it right, you seemingly don't like the topic coz the focus is on girls rather than boys. So, anyone including yourself can start a topic on boy issues. Also, and correct me if I read it wrong, but when you say 'I'm a woman, I tend to stick to what I know. You should do the same', are you suggesting one should only talk about and raise topics depending on their gender? Surely that can't be right..explorer may know more about khmer women in the same way you may know more about men.
I might add by the way, saying 'You should do the same' comes over as condescending..sure, he 'could' have but not 'should'..just saying.
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Having said my piece, I think this sad girl posture is a projected emotional response from young immature girls. (Obviously cultural and accepted) FB gives them a platform to express their mixed up feelings and then receive support from their friends.
Very dramatic.
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"Well that didnt go as planned".
"Well that didnt go as planned".
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AndyKK
The key point is, she is not happy because her family says some terrible things about her, and she believes they don't love her. Which is different to some girls with small problems, which may be big in their mind.
But if you think about what you can do for her, it is probably very little. Maybe getting her a job in a factory would help, as she could get money, and not have to listen to her family say terrible things about her every day. Some people you can feel sympathy for, but you can't always improve their life. On the rare occasions that I might see her, I will try to encourage her. Sometimes just someone caring makes them feel happy.
The key point is, she is not happy because her family says some terrible things about her, and she believes they don't love her. Which is different to some girls with small problems, which may be big in their mind.
But if you think about what you can do for her, it is probably very little. Maybe getting her a job in a factory would help, as she could get money, and not have to listen to her family say terrible things about her every day. Some people you can feel sympathy for, but you can't always improve their life. On the rare occasions that I might see her, I will try to encourage her. Sometimes just someone caring makes them feel happy.
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Cambodian girls can be very dramatic, for the purpose of being manipulative.
But there is another aspect people are overlooking. Simple people think about life in a simple way. They have no idea what to do when difficulties do occur. So you will see a lot of Cambodians doing crazy things, like jumping off bridges, for example.
But there is another aspect people are overlooking. Simple people think about life in a simple way. They have no idea what to do when difficulties do occur. So you will see a lot of Cambodians doing crazy things, like jumping off bridges, for example.
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