AndyKK wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 5:32 pm What would it matter if it is of young khmer men or women, if he or anyone would like to help these people out. Don't you think it would be better too approach an organisation that have trained professional people doing the job, that would distance oneself, also, with the persons donations they would be helping so many.

explorer wrote: ↑Mon Jul 27, 2020 11:11 am If you look at the Facebook pages of Cambodian girls, you will see some who say they are sad. Some also post pictures of girls crying.

Some also post pictures of slashed wrists, and a girl with a noose who could hang herself.

In some cases, the girls may be being light hearted, or they may be concerned about something which is not really very serious.

I recently dropped in on a family I had met in the past. I said, how are you? The daughter said in English, I am not happy. Then she said, my family doesn't love me. (Her family cannot understand English, and don't know what she said.) My first impression was, she is probably a bit immature, and overreacting to something which is not a big deal. A little while later, her older sister told me, with her listening, that she was lazy. Later on, her mother said, with her listening, they are poor, and don't have enough money to look after this daughter. She could have said, they don't have enough money for everything they want. But this daughter was the problem. To me that is sad. That was only in the short time I was there. I don't know what else have they said?

What is the real problem? It is partly the difficulty in making money in Cambodia. It is partly the fact that many Cambodians work enough to get enough money to live, they lie around doing nothing the rest of the time. It is partly because the father does some work, but not a lot.

If a job came up in a factory, she would probably be rushed off to work there.

If someone came along and said they wanted to marry her, she would probably say yes, how quick can we do it?

On the rare occasions that I might see her, I will try to encourage her.

She is too poor to have a phone or Facebook account.

You also realize some of the simpler Cambodians are not very smart at handling real life situations. In this case, I am thinking of her mother and sister.

rozzieoz wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 4:32 am

explorer wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 3:55 am

rozzieoz wrote: ↑Mon Jul 27, 2020 8:46 pm Why don't you post about the issues facing young Khmer men?
I'd love you men to actually discuss 'men's issues' once in a while.

You could start the discussion.

I'm a woman, I tend to stick to what I know. You should do the same.

explorer wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 6:04 pm

AndyKK wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 5:32 pm What would it matter if it is of young khmer men or women, if he or anyone would like to help these people out. Don't you think it would be better too approach an organisation that have trained professional people doing the job, that would distance oneself, also, with the persons donations they would be helping so many.

Do you think all of the organizations working in Cambodia are doing a good job, and using donations wisely?

Do you think the only way to help people is by giving money?

Do you think you can improve the life of the girl in the first post?

clutchcargo wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 6:10 pm

rozzieoz wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 4:32 am

explorer wrote: ↑Tue Jul 28, 2020 3:55 am

rozzieoz wrote: ↑Mon Jul 27, 2020 8:46 pm Why don't you post about the issues facing young Khmer men?
I'd love you men to actually discuss 'men's issues' once in a while.

You could start the discussion.

I'm a woman, I tend to stick to what I know. You should do the same.

Rozzie- I get the gist of your point as to why men don't discuss khmer guy issues more on here. I dunno why, probably coz we are a male heavy membership and hence the focus is more on the opposite sex.

Explorer has chosen to start a topic about khmer girl issues on this occasion. I dunno exactly why...probably I suspect coz like him I see a lot of crying khmer pics on khmer facebook and also those khmer youtube music videos often show the same with the usual scenario of khmer boyfriend finds another girl. It's a common parody here from what I can tell.

What I don't get is why are you picking on explorer specifically as to why he is posting on girl and not boy issues. I think you'd agree we're getting into a dangerous place telling OP's what topics they should and shouldn't post on? I'm wondering whether you have another agenda in your line of questioning?

If I'm reading it right, you seemingly don't like the topic coz the focus is on girls rather than boys. So, anyone including yourself can start a topic on boy issues. Also, and correct me if I read it wrong, but when you say 'I'm a woman, I tend to stick to what I know. You should do the same', are you suggesting one should only talk about and raise topics depending on their gender? Surely that can't be right..explorer may know more about khmer women in the same way you may know more about men.

I might add by the way, saying 'You should do the same' comes over as condescending..sure, he 'could' have but not 'should'..just saying.