When Two Wives Meet...

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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by Phnom Poon » Wed Jul 22, 2020 8:44 pm

i'm also poly-amorous
not promiscuous
no, not at all

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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by rozzieoz » Wed Jul 22, 2020 8:47 pm

Phnom Poon wrote:
Wed Jul 22, 2020 8:44 pm
i'm also poly-amorous
not promiscuous
no, not at all
No slut shaming please.
What does it matter how many partners someone has?
If they are not lying to anyone, not sneaking around behind anyone's back and not hurting anyone, the Maths really doesn't matter a jot.
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by hunter8 » Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:09 pm

There is so much individual insecurity about people who poke their noses and judge what others should be happy with. Everywhere one looks there is a cocktail of herd mentality and jealosy. “We cannot afford to be non-conformant and to not care what others think, and you should be like us.”
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by Phnom Poon » Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:12 pm

lol, i'm shaming myself

poly-amory is fine in theory
but we're not designed that way
and it always shows eventually
but carry on

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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by rozzieoz » Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:14 pm

Phnom Poon wrote:
Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:12 pm
lol, i'm shaming myself

poly-amory is fine in theory
but we're not designed that way
and it always shows eventually
I am designed that way, you may not be - but millions of people are.
What do you mean - it always shows?
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by Phnom Poon » Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:27 pm

rozzieoz wrote:
Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:14 pm
What do you mean - it always shows?
would you give your life for your partner(s)
which ones?

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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by rozzieoz » Wed Jul 22, 2020 9:31 pm

Give my life?
For what?
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by Yerg » Wed Jul 22, 2020 10:02 pm

Well, this escalated quickly...
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by newkidontheblock » Thu Jul 23, 2020 4:01 am

rozzieoz wrote:FYI.... I was the sole provider in my last polyamorous relationship.
I supported my ex and his girlfriend so he had a tremendous amount to gain - he had me to provide for him, and he had her for other stuff.
The wonderful thing about polyamory is that there isn't the pressure to be someone's whole world - you don't have to be perfect.
If there is something they need that you can't provide, they are free to pursue that.
It sounds so perfect....

So why was it a past tense thing?

I’m confused by the whole notion.
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Re: When Two Wives Meet...

Post by rozzieoz » Thu Jul 23, 2020 5:31 am

newkidontheblock wrote:
Thu Jul 23, 2020 4:01 am
It sounds so perfect....

So why was it a past tense thing?

I’m confused by the whole notion.
My ex and I were together for eight years, for two of those we had a mutual girlfriend, many forum members from SNV were very used to seeing the three of us together as a ''throuple.''

Then he met someone else who is not polyamorous or bisexual or a very nice person.
She did everything she could to push me out. I was paying the rent on their apartment and all other living expenses and she couldn't be mature enough to be polite to me.
By the end, his sense of entitlement far exceeded my income. He was verbally and financially abusive and I decided I'd rather be alone than deal with his shit.

I am, and always will be polyamorous though.
Anyone entering my life knows the score, it's their choice to stay or go.
Once you've read the dictionary, every other book is just a remix.
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