Why do Men Insist on Solving Imaginary Problems?

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Re: Why do Men Insist on Solving Imaginary Problems?

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Duncan wrote: Mon Jun 01, 2020 3:19 pm
Cambo Dear wrote: Mon Jun 01, 2020 2:51 pm .....she asks, having sought advice on a forum about the imaginary problem of a neighbour giving advice on exercising properly. If my female neighbour leaned out of the window and told me my lifting technique was incorrect, I'd probably say 'thanks'. Problem solved.

And if the female neighbour leaned out the window and told you your wanking technique was incorrect,,, would you still say thanks . Problem solved ?
No I'd invite her over to give me a hand.
You asked for that Dunc
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Why do Men Insist on Solving Imaginary Problems?

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Last night I was sitting minding my own business when a man I’ve never met decided I needed a big hug.

I told him no, I did not need anything from him.

He argued with me, all the while approaching me to hug me.

It took another man telling him to stop, before he stopped.

Why wasn’t my voice enough?
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rozzieoz wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 7:30 pm Last night I was sitting minding my own business when a man I’ve never met decided I needed a big hug.

I told him no, I did not need anything from him.

He argued with me, all the while approaching me to hug me.

It took another man telling him to stop, before he stopped.

Why wasn’t my voice enough?
Captain Bonez wrote: Sat Jul 13, 2019 7:44 pm
rozzieoz wrote: Sat Jul 13, 2019 12:55 pm
Men are not the victims in this country so put the violin away.

You have actually grabbed my friend's ass before in Oscar's. Neither of you know each other.
rozzieoz wrote: Sat Jul 13, 2019 7:51 pm If he had been offended I would have apologized and not touched him again.
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Most times I'm in a bar the young ladies try putting their arms around me or start rubbing my leg, I have to tell them to go away, why do they do that?
Roz maybe your voice isn't stern enough the first time.
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There’s a big difference between tapping someone on the arse as you walk past and launching at someone demanding a bear hug without their consent.

Before I said no, sure, he didn’t know and maybe made assumptions. I’ve unintentionally offended people and apologised and stopped.

But once I said no, he kept going until a man told him to stop. Why did it need a man to step in?
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atst wrote:Most times I'm in a bar the young ladies try putting their arms around me or start rubbing my leg, I have to tell them to go away, why do they do that?
Because it’s their job.


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rozzieoz wrote: Mon Jun 15, 2020 8:14 pm There’s a big difference between tapping someone on the arse as you walk past and launching at someone demanding a bear hug without their consent.
Ahhh, so Rozz is the arbiter of good vs bad touch.

An unwanted touching is an unwanted touching. Doesn't matter to what degree in the eyes of the law.

And Rozz I'm pretty damn sure that if I waltzed past you and "tapped you on the arse", you'd be on CEO within the hour crying victim.

@Captain Bonez has already documented an incident in which you, without consent, "grabbed" a mans ass, who was unknown to you and you to him.

You've got to admit that it takes some cheek to have commited the very same act that you now come to CEO and complain about.
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A tap on the ass is sexual a hug more of a greeting
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double standards?
i don't believe it

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From another topic:
It's disappointing that across many expat boards male bitterness, misogyny and contempt of women lurks not that far beneath the surface.
Seems we are getting it in reverse here.
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