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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by stupid-barang » Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:19 am

explorer wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 8:08 am
It is smart to get to know a girl for a significant amount of time before making any long term commitments. Some girls can be so nice when you meet them. But as time goes on things become clearer. If there is something about her you cant accept, you find out over time. If she is a genuinely good girl, you find out over time.
I disagree, jump in head first, start to live together. This way after a short while you will know since you have been playing 'house'.
If you wait a year and it turns to shit, you gonna say shit, I wasted all this fucking time.
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Phnom Poon » Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:24 am

seems very sketchy to me though it's not clear if the family room is intended for just the two girls or for the client too
or this could just be an advert for the app, I'll bet it's had a lot of downloads since this topic

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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Pedroviera » Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:26 am

Tarndog wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 7:45 am
I have known a few girls who are 'tour guides'. For those wanting and hoping to believe they are simply that, read on.

My 'tour guide' friend kept telling me she was meeting her clients because her other friend could not. She went to hotels for the weekend or several days, fun range, dinners, and places she even had no real knowledge about.

The kicker happened after a couple (let's call them) hookups was when she told me she was going to Vietnam for her tour guide business, but admitted that she had never been to Vietnam before. When I asked her how she can be a tour guide in a place she had absolutely zero prior experience or knowledge with, the story began to unravel.

Turns out she got her visa and (ORIGINAL brand new) passport paid for by one of these clowns who dumps a shitload of money on a goodlooking broad, just to elevate his feeling of self worth.

She is now traveling to Singapore and Malaysia as part of her tour guide profession. Obviously there are desperate people all over the world who can't attract women without offering several hundreds of dollars a day to have a buddy.

It is the newest term being used for prostitution. And women will do anything for money, most certainly lie to someone that they're in a relationship that is not providing them with the same immediate financial windfall and travel opportunities.
What country in the world (especially poor countries ) offers this tour guide service without at least an option of more that's not advertised? Assuming the employer is rich, handsome, a good catch, whatever.... It is an ideal situation for local woman to test the waters with a single man traveler without committing to more and if so only by choice.... The shared room thing is the end of the road, she's likely giving you angles and half lies to keep her own conscious clear....Give her ultimatum (quit job) and test the waters and reaction if you choose
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Kammekor » Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:35 am

OP, working as a one-on-one tourguide through this app doesn't seem a good idea, especially in Cambodia where the (financial) gap between the guide and the client might be very large. Even if her intentions are good, I'm pretty sure she will end up with some bad experiences while doing this work. And I'm pretty sure the fact she's out working with male clients (sometimes for days) one on one is not going to do any good to your relationship with her.

I would ask her to drop the app work, for her own safety and for my peace of mind. The fact she's considering a night in a 'family room' with a guest shows she's not suitable for the job.
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by simon43 » Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:55 am

I would ask her to drop the app work...
It's her choice to do that job, and IMHO, by the sound of her plans, she's angling to see how much fun she can have and still keep you on the hook.

Let her keep the new job, but you should drop her like a stone....
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Freightdog » Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:20 am

phuketrichard wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:05 am
staying with a client in HIS room is far and beyond the call of a tour guide and borders on being an escort.
Absolutely.
But is that an entirely ‘western’ perception? Does her perception of what is expected of the job have a completely different foundation? SWMBO’s family home is fairly large, but entirely open plan. At night, it’s a big dorm.

It may simply not raise alarm bells for her if she doesn’t appreciate that the ‘client’ may have other thoughts.

One or two mentions of ‘good girls’, and stating that good girls wouldn’t do this, and their naïveté, but then little credit given for naive decisions.
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Queef » Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:41 am

Equinix wrote:
Sun Dec 08, 2019 6:02 pm
Hi everyone...

I have a question for you all.

My Khmer gf recently received her licence to be a tourguide in Phnom Penh.

She started mostly freelancing through the app "showaround".
What your post really screams is: I don't know her and trust her that much.

Has she ever pulled something like this before? Has she ever disappeared for hours/ days at a time without telling you what she was up to? I'm asking that because chances are, you won't hear much from her once she leaves town.

How much money has she been making monthly since you met her? How much money (if any) were you giving her between the time you started dating and now? How much is she earning from that tour guide gig? Does she have any family obligations (sick aunt, deadbeat brother, three-legged buffalo)?

From my personal experience, I don't know a single Cambodian woman that would willfully stay in some dude's room overnight because "it's part of the job." It doesn't matter if "her friend" is tagging along. If anything, the friend thing could just be a smoke screen. "Bad" girls will spend the night for a quick buck. "Good" girls would do it as a indication that you've been replaced.

Don't confront her. She will likely say that you look down on her or whatever. Try to find a more subtle approach. An approach that would encourage her to communicate.

That's a fucked up situation OP. Good luck.
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by angkorjohn2 » Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:44 am

Freightdog wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:20 am
phuketrichard wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 10:05 am
staying with a client in HIS room is far and beyond the call of a tour guide and borders on being an escort.
Absolutely.
But is that an entirely ‘western’ perception? Does her perception of what is expected of the job have a completely different foundation? SWMBO’s family home is fairly large, but entirely open plan. At night, it’s a big dorm.

It may simply not raise alarm bells for her if she doesn’t appreciate that the ‘client’ may have other thoughts.

One or two mentions of ‘good girls’, and stating that good girls wouldn’t do this, and their naïveté, but then little credit given for naive decisions.
I think a savvy, university educated Phnom Penh resident in her 20s as described by the OP is well aware of boundaries and how it would look. It is one thing with family in the province a entirely different prospect to stay with a western stranger in their room even with a friend. It puts one in a potentially compromised situation , how many bathrooms are there for example? How are the locks on the bathroom. I think she would be savvy enough to know how it looks. I think even a province girl following chbab srey would be aware of the damage to reputation and loss of face regardless of how innocent it sounded.

On a side note I looked at the showaround app, none of them are pros, a majority just young kids wanting some cash or to practise english, including disturbingly a 14 yo girl.

If I was a western male solo travelling and asked one of the attractive girls on there (who were 21+) if they'd show me their country but I insist they share my room, "separate beds " of course, and they agreed, I'd know that I was definitely in with a good chance of a good time as no normal tour guide woukd ever do that, but these aren't professional tour guides, potential grey girls maybe. I certainly would not accept it as normal and I would be surprised if the girl would once concerns explained. Unless of course she had plans to earn additional funds behind my back....
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by Anchor Moy » Mon Dec 09, 2019 12:00 pm

Queef wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:41 am
Equinix wrote:
Sun Dec 08, 2019 6:02 pm
Hi everyone...

I have a question for you all.

My Khmer gf recently received her licence to be a tourguide in Phnom Penh.

She started mostly freelancing through the app "showaround".
What your post really screams is: I don't know her and trust her that much.
Yes, if you trust your girlfriend and have an equal relationship, then talk to her. Don't issue ultimatums, just listen to how she sees the situation and tell her your concerns. Have a calm discussion and see where that gets you. If she shuts down, or refuses to talk about it, then that is already telling you something. But if you want to stay together, somewhere along the line you have to trust each other.
Btw, I have rented "family rooms" before that were in fact two separate bedrooms connected with shared bathroom, or otherwise separated sleeping spaces. If the hotel is very upmarket, then it could well be a large suite. Why not check out the hotel online and take a look ?
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Re: My girlfriend is a tourguide.

Post by explorer » Mon Dec 09, 2019 12:08 pm

Freightdog wrote:
Mon Dec 09, 2019 11:20 am
But is that an entirely ‘western’ perception?
Cambodians are more conservative than Westerners. In Cambodian culture, if a girl stays in a hotel room with a man, she is either his wife or a prostitute.
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