Kung-fu Hillbilly wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2019 4:42 pm
Chiarashine Photography The author and her fiancé.

Tria Chang
2/2/2019

I learned to think of all Asians as less desirable and to be turned off by people who were turned on by me.

"As I started to consider lifting my relationship ban, that old white ghost came back again: the whispers of Asian fetish. He has a pattern of dating Asian women. Do you know how many Asian girlfriends he’s had? He just might have an Asian fetish."

"I couldn’t be the girlfriend of someone who had an Asian fetish because that would make me complicit in a pattern that was rooted in violence and colonization."

"Despite his tendency to be defensive (is that one of those hot white guy traits?), he took my request to step outside himself seriously. He asked me questions, and he listened to my answers. We delved into not only the dynamic between Asian females and white males but also unfair portrayals of Asian men throughout history, and the backlash that public figures like Constance Wu and Chloe Kim have contended with for dating white men"

"“You can rationalize your dating history all you want,” I said one night in bed. (Do Asian women have a reputation for being good at pillow talk by the way? Because I feel like I’m killing it.) “But you can’t deny how it looks from the outside. And most importantly, you have to consider how it makes the women you’ve dated feel. Think about how it feels to be one in a line of many women who look like you. How replaceable must that make one feel? How demeaning is that?”

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hunter8 wrote: ↑Thu Mar 05, 2020 11:27 am I am a white man bearing a sex tourist stigma. Should I fight it or accept the fate and simply be such as any white man is perceived by locals, a sex tourist?