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The Fatherless Generation.

Some startling and revealing stats: (USA)
Statistics
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
Father Factor in Education – Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school.

Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school.
Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.
75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.
Father Factor in Drug and Alcohol Abuse – Researchers at Columbia University found that children living in two-parent household with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink, or use drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households. Teens in single mother households are at a 30% higher risk than those in two-parent households.

70% of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988)
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)
Father Factor in Incarceration – Even after controlling for income, youths in father-absent households still had significantly higher odds of incarceration than those in mother-father families. Youths who never had a father in the household experienced the highest odds. A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only households. Approximately forty-six percent of jail inmates in 2002 had a previously incarcerated family member. One-fifth experienced a father in prison or jail.

Father Factor in Crime – A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys, in single-parent families were at higher risk of status, property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students attending schools with a high proportion of children of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent

Father Factor in Child Abuse – Compared to living with both parents, living in a single-parent home doubles the risk that a child will suffer physical, emotional, or educational neglect. The overall rate of child abuse and neglect in single-parent households is 27.3 children per 1,000, whereas the rate of overall maltreatment in two-parent households is 15.5 per 1,000.

Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.

Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.

43% of US children live without their father [US Department of Census]
90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes. [Criminal Justice & Behaviour, Vol 14, pp. 403-26, 1978]
71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father. [U.S. Department of Health and Human Services press release, Friday, March 26, 1999]
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. [US D.H.H.S., Bureau of the Census]
85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. [Center for Disease Control]
90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live with only their mother. [Wray Herbert, “Dousing the Kindlers,” Psychology Today, January, 1985, p. 28]
71% of high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. [National Principals Association Report on the State of High Schools]
75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. [Rainbows f for all God’s Children]
70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father. [US Department of Justice, Special Report, Sept. 1988]
85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home. [Fulton County Georgia jail populations, Texas Department of Corrections, 1992]
Fatherless boys and girls are: twice as likely to drop out of high school; twice as likely to end up in jail; four times more likely to need help for emotional or behavioral problems. [US D.H.H.S. news release, March 26, 1999]
Census Fatherhood Statistics
64.3 million: Estimated number of fathers across the nation
26.5 million: Number of fathers who are part of married-couple families with their own children under the age of 18.
Among these fathers –
22 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old (among married-couple family households only).
2 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative.
2.5 million: Number of single fathers, up from 400,000 in 1970. Currently, among single parents living with their children, 18 percent are men.
Among these fathers –
8 percent are raising three or more of their own children under 18 years old.
42 percent are divorced, 38 percent have never married, 16 percent are separated and 4 percent are widowed. (The percentages of those divorced and never married are not significantly different from one another.)
16 percent live in the home of a relative or a non-relative.
27 percent have an annual family income of $50,000 or more.
85 percent: Among the 30.2 million fathers living with children younger than 18, the percentage who lived with their biological children only.
11 percent lived with step-children
4 percent with adopted children
< 1 percent with foster children
Recent policies encourage the development of programs designed to improve the economic status of low-income nonresident fathers and the financial and emotional support provided to their children. This brief provides ten key lessons from several important early responsible fatherhood initiatives that were developed and implemented during the 1990s and early 2000s. Formal evaluations of these earlier fatherhood efforts have been completed making this an opportune time to step back and assess what has been learned and how to build on the early programs’ successes and challenges.While the following statistics are formidable, the Responsible Fatherhood research literature generally supports the claim that a loving and nurturing father improves outcomes for children, families and communities.

Children with involved, loving fathers are significantly more likely to do well in school, have healthy self-esteem, exhibit empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid high-risk behaviors such as drug use, truancy, and criminal activity compared to children who have uninvolved fathers.
Studies on parent-child relationships and child well being show that father love is an important factor in predicting the social, emotional, and cognitive development and functioning of children and young adults.
24 million children (34 percent) live absent their biological father.
Nearly 20 million children (27 percent) live in single-parent homes.
43 percent of first marriages dissolve within fifteen years; about 60 percent of divorcing couples have children; and approximately one million children each year experience the divorce of their parents.
Fathers who live with their children are more likely to have a close, enduring relationship with their children than those who do not.
Compared to children born within marriage, children born to cohabiting parents are three times as likely to experience father absence, and children born to unmarried, non-cohabiting parents are four times as likely to live in a father-absent home.
About 40 percent of children in father-absent homes have not seen their father at all during the past year; 26 percent of absent fathers live in a different state than their children; and 50 percent of children living absent their father have never set foot in their father’s home.
Children who live absent their biological fathers are, on average, at least two to three times more likely to be poor, to use drugs, to experience educational, health, emotional and behavioral problems, to be victims of child abuse, and to engage in criminal behavior than their peers who live with their married, biological (or adoptive) parents.
From 1995 to 2000, the proportion of children living in single-parent homes slightly declined, while the proportion of children living with two married parents remained stable.


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Children raised by same-sex parents do as well as their peers, study shows
A comprehensive review in Medical Journal of Australia concludes the main threat to same-sex parented children is discrimination
The review of three decades of peer-reviewed research by Melbourne Children’s found children raised in same-sex-parented families did as well emotionally, socially and educationally as their peers......
www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2017 ... tudy-shows

FactCheck: are children ‘better off’ with a mother and father than with same-sex parents?

the most stable, safe and nurturing environment for children is when their parents are, and remain, married to one another.
There are studies that support these assertions. This research supports the importance of family stability, quality relationships between parents and children, and the need for access to socioeconomic resources – but not the need for parents to be heterosexual.

Douglas Allen’s 2015 paper is a critical, but not systematic, review of more than 60 studies relating to same-sex parenting and/or child outcomes. This paper does not present findings related to child outcomes.
http://theconversation.com/factcheck-ar ... ents-82313

RB your bias is showing, children of same sex parents do as well as children with a mother and a father. Time to get your head and heart out of the dark ages. Next time you see a couple of gay men with a child, know their child will grow to be as successful as your child.

Study: Racism Affects Even Young Kids’ Mental and Behavioral Health


Young children who experience discrimination are at heightened risk for mental health and behavior problems, but less so if they have a strong sense of racial and ethnic identity, a new study suggests.

Researchers at UC Riverside and Clark University, Mass., studied more than 170 children attending schools in Southern California’s Inland Empire. The children were recruited as part of a larger, ongoing study on resiliency in youth who face adversity growing up. More than half of the children were Latino, about 20 percent were black, and the rest mixed raced.

At age 7, the researchers explained the concept of discrimination in simple terms to the children, and asked if they’d ever felt discriminated against by peers, teachers or others because of their skin color, language, accent, culture or country of origin. More than half of the children reported such experiences.....
http://www.calhealthreport.org/2018/10/ ... al-health/

And if one or both of your parents are racist or holocaust deniers, then your parents negatively impact your mental health. Give that a little quiet time and thought.
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With due respect RB - So what?
What's you point, other than to point the finger?

No child and almost no parent has much choice in this.
Why detail and catalogue the failings of one class of people.

It sure hasn't made me feel any better this morning.
I already know how fucked up I am. Thanks.
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SternAAlbifrons wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 5:57 am With due respect RB - So what?
What's you point, other than to point the finger?

No child and almost no parent has much choice in this.
Why detail and catalogue the failings of one class of people.

It sure hasn't made me feel any better this morning.
I already know how fucked up I am. Thanks.
Because he is not in that class of people would be the obvious reason.
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Same sex couples may be able to raise successful children...despite having much higher rates of alcohol and drug abuse, and domestic violence than traditional couples. However, Same sex couples will never be as healthy for a child as a father and mother. A man can be a great single father, but it is impossible for him to provide the feminine, nurturing energy that a mother provides. Likewise, decades of experience shows that children suffer greatly without fathers.
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Lonestar wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 6:09 am Same sex couples may be able to raise successful children...despite having much higher rates of alcohol and drug abuse, and domestic violence than traditional couples. However, Same sex couples will never be as healthy for a child as a father and mother. A man can be a great single father, but it is impossible for him to provide the feminine, nurturing energy that a mother provides. Likewise, decades of experience shows that children suffer greatly without fathers.
I raised three children as a single parent. I do not for a minute believe that a home filled with acrimony is better than a home filled with love. 2 happily married parents is the optimum, there is little doubt. But what if the parents are not in love and constantly bicker? Please show me your data showing same-sex parents are not the equal of heterosexual parents. I am heterosexual, never had a gay experience in my life, so you will not offend me if I am wrong. But from what I can glean off the interweb, there is little data to support your claim, lot's of opinion though. respect, I am not flaming you in any way.
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I read the report with fascination. Never once did it occur to me that it said anything negative about Same Sex couples.

The reason is is relevant and important is because our choices seem to have a huge affect on our offspring. If its too late for us, its not too late for our children, and we can do what we can to help them choose their partners wisely, give good counsel, and support them through their hard times. We can also relay this information, which is very valuable should they wish to weigh in the collateral damage of their choice to remain together or give it up.

**** even my thread title does not indicate I have any prejudice to same sex couples.
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RickyBobby wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 6:47 am I read the report with fascination. Never once did it occur to me that it said anything negative about Same Sex couples.

The reason is is relevant and important is because our choices seem to have a huge affect on our offspring. If its too late for us, its not too late for our children, and we can do what we can to help them choose their partners wisely, give good counsel, and support them through their hard times. We can also relay this information, which is very valuable should they wish to weigh in the collateral damage of their choice to remain together or give it up.

**** even my thread title does not indicate I have any prejudice to same sex couples.
Once again, with all due respect RB.
You did post approx 100, carefully itemised, negative comments about myself and millions more. Those of us who did not have the benefits of two loving parents.

You may not be prejudiced, I dont't see you that way at all
- but pointing out in great detail just how fucked up we are, should lead to something with a bit more substance than homilies on "making better choices".
It hits deeply personal buttons for a lot of people.
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SternAAlbifrons wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 7:20 am
RickyBobby wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 6:47 am I read the report with fascination. Never once did it occur to me that it said anything negative about Same Sex couples.

The reason is is relevant and important is because our choices seem to have a huge affect on our offspring. If its too late for us, its not too late for our children, and we can do what we can to help them choose their partners wisely, give good counsel, and support them through their hard times. We can also relay this information, which is very valuable should they wish to weigh in the collateral damage of their choice to remain together or give it up.

**** even my thread title does not indicate I have any prejudice to same sex couples.
Once again, with all due respect RB.
You did post approx 100, carefully itemized, negative comments about myself and millions more. Those of us who did not have the benefits of two loving parents.

You may not be prejudiced, I don't see you that way at all
- but pointing out in great detail just how fucked up we are, should lead to something with a bit more substance than homilies on "making better choices".
It hits deeply personal buttons for a lot of people.
Thank you for sharing and I am sorry you feel that way.

Are you refuting the information at all? Do you think it is better we do not know it?

I am not a victim, even though many shitty things have happened to me, even in my childhood.

None of us are to be faulted or blamed for the decisions or choices of our parents or ancestors.

I am not from a broken home, but it was very dysfunctional. My father was plenty absent. But, my mother, coming from a broken home and herself broken because of it, determined with all her might that she would not allow her own children to experience that. A tribute to her strength and resilience. She taught me its not always about me.

The tombstone was just made for my late father, it will be placed this week. It has her name beside his, and her resting place is chosen.

My own children are damaged because of my own marriage failure. Do you think I should ignore this information because its painful to think about that fact?

Do you really think this thread should be about me and you and our feelings or something bigger?

For example, perhaps a lot of this result is socio-economic. While I do believe that its better for kids to grow up with two parents, I also think single family parents suffer to provide as well. This is not only monetary however, it is the simple fact that single parents are stretched too far, and even kids that have two parents and go between, are often alone more often.

Again, sorry you feel shitty about this data. It was not my intention. But, the only person we can really control is ourselves, and we can choose every day to TRY to be the best we can be. That is all we can do. And we cannot change the past, but our choices will influence our future.
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RickyBobby wrote: Wed Apr 24, 2019 6:47 am I read the report with fascination. Never once did it occur to me that it said anything negative about Same Sex couples.

The reason is is relevant and important is because our choices seem to have a huge affect on our offspring. If its too late for us, its not too late for our children, and we can do what we can to help them choose their partners wisely, give good counsel, and support them through their hard times. We can also relay this information, which is very valuable should they wish to weigh in the collateral damage of their choice to remain together or give it up.

**** even my thread title does not indicate I have any prejudice to same sex couples.
If you can show me a child of two lesbians that is not fatherless, I will gladly retract my criticism of your post.
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