how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by JUDGEDREDD » Mon Feb 25, 2019 10:28 pm

Like incest, it's all relative.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by atst » Tue Feb 26, 2019 4:31 am

Do volunteer work, was thinking about this a while back as getting bored in PP same thing most days
Where do you go to find volunteer work?
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by Ghostwriter » Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:15 am

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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by explorer » Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:42 am

atst wrote:
Tue Feb 26, 2019 4:31 am
Do volunteer work, was thinking about this a while back as getting bored in PP same thing most days
Where do you go to find volunteer work?
1. Look on the internet.

2. Travel to various places, find the NGOs, drop in and talk to them.

3. Find a remote school, which doesnt have an English teacher, and ask if they want you to teach English, or help in some other way.

Also think about what skills you have, what you enjoy doing, and look for a place where you can do that type of thing.

Some places are happy to have volunteers, others may not want you. Some places want you to pay to volunteer, others dont. Some places want qualified people, others dont. etc. etc.

You need to find a place where they want you, you agree with what they are doing, and you are happy with what you do there.

You may spend some time in several places, to find one you really like.

4. You can do your own thing. For example, I assist students from poor families to get a good education. To do this, you just need to meet students from poor families with a good attitude.

I sometimes just spend time with people learning English, and help them a little.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by explorer » Tue Feb 26, 2019 7:23 am

It is fun to just travel to different places in Cambodia, explore those places, and get to know people.

People looking for something to get involved in, will come across opportunities when traveling to different places.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by Queef » Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:12 am

How to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP? Simple. Take care of yourself, workout, learn a new language (doesn't have to be Khmer), don't hang out in Riverside.

I don't like PP. I basically have to force myself. To me, moving here was a failure. By far my biggest failure in life. That definitely made me cynical and bitter until recently. But guess what? I stopped being a whiny bitch, washed the sand outta my vagina, and everything fell into place! I got a great job, weird friends, a Khmer gf that makes bomb ass "western" food, and I also got to visit Myanmar, Vietnam, Laos, and Malaysia within a year (PP is centrally located. Very easy to get to other countries in the region).

Sure, you wouldn't hang out with some of the people you meet here if you were still back home, but I'm pretty sure they feel the same way about you. Get outta your comfort zone and you'll be just fine. You might be surprised! Not everyone here is trying to bang underage kids.
The locals get on your system? Yea? You're not the only one. You can't stand how they drive? The local food is as tasty as dried dog shit? You may have to travel more then. You'll find the same negative aspects in a lot of countries (including developed ones). Don't sweat the small stuff (especially things you have no control over).

Oh I almost forgot: Cambodia? 28 public holidays... That gives you plenty of time to get outta PP and recharge your batteries.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by Bluelabel » Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:38 am

If your bitter and cynical its because your bitter and cynical.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by orussey98 » Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:46 am

First step : Live out of city center. Go live in a borey , it's cheaper and better.

City center is ok but not all the time. So just move out and go enjoy the city center when you need/want.
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by Captain » Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:47 am

"bomb ass "western" food" Tossed salad by any chance?
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Re: how to avoid becoming cynical and bitter in PP

Post by curiosity » Tue Feb 26, 2019 3:38 pm

what I meant was that a lot of people I met in PP had some kind of hidden agenda. Sure, we have that back home too, but not to the extent I experienced it here. Be it money, sex, stroking somebody's ego, the need to always "win" or some other shit. First people suck up to you, then after while they casually state their "request" and if you do not give them what they want... Boom!!! they completely blow their stack. You got to live with people not always giving you what you want. Because back home, you also do not always get what you want. Not sure why that is so hard to understand.
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