Is sex addiction a thing?

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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by Toxic Turtle » Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:18 pm

That is weird man.

Any news on OP?
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by scott61 » Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:30 pm

I agree with everyone on this thread.
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by Anthony's Weiner » Thu Nov 01, 2018 8:46 pm

Toxic Turtle wrote:
Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:18 pm
That is weird man.

Any news on OP?
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by PhnomPenhPat » Thu Nov 01, 2018 10:23 pm

This topic seems to have been really gone off the point.
After Viewing a video, and assessing my lifestyle, I simply asked if people thought it was an addiction. I'm in my early 40s, I've been here for 4 years and Vietnam before that. Where my lifestyle was similar. As for lotion, I buy it at Lucky Sihanouk, why go all the way down to sabay sabay street to buy it?
And anyway, I dont do drugs, so not particularly fond of he walking dead at Sorya mall area. Most my habit is around street 130 or 118.

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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by Multipox » Thu Nov 01, 2018 11:56 pm

Toxic Turtle wrote:
Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:14 am
How old are you?
Why is that relevant? What is your qualification to judge someone's condition based on age?
Toxic Turtle wrote:
Thu Nov 01, 2018 7:14 am
Whether or not sex addiction is a thing is something you can research online as you already have numerous other things, in particular nymphomania, or maybe research hypomania, OCD, and bipolar disorder.

Just seek out and utilize scholarly resources or academic studies and citations.
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mmm, all wonderful words invented by psychologists.

Let's see you access these "scholarly articles and academic studies. Post the websites here.
When I need advice about life, I just check in here.
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by Toxic Turtle » Fri Nov 02, 2018 6:50 am

PhnomPenhPat wrote:
Thu Nov 01, 2018 10:23 pm
This topic seems to have been really gone off the point.
After Viewing a video, and assessing my lifestyle, I simply asked if people thought it was an addiction. I'm in my early 40s, I've been here for 4 years and Vietnam before that. Where my lifestyle was similar. As for lotion, I buy it at Lucky Sihanouk, why go all the way down to sabay sabay street to buy it?
And anyway, I dont do drugs, so not particularly fond of he walking dead at Sorya mall area. Most my habit is around street 130 or 118.

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Well, I admire your honest and seeking legitimate advice about a legitimate concern and observation about yourself.

We change a lot as men over the years, both emotionally and physically which is why I asked. It seems less relevant as to where you've been and how long you've been there vs. the possibility of how long you might have been suffering from depression, or anxiety, or other things that make you feel (possibly either) extremely low and impotent, or extremely high and hyper active with sexual activities - its why I've mentioned the resources and terms that I have.

That's good that you don't do drugs, they are really bad for you.

I would also avoid the blue pill or any other "bumble bee super sex drive" pills, loads of coffee, etc. its bad for your heart man.

I remember taking 2-3 in one day over in HK for lack of better judgement and was actually having a hard time catching my breath, felt a little dizzy, and my eyes were a little blurry - however I proceeded to drink at the bar shortly afterwards anyway. The choices we make as men.
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by Jamie_Lambo » Fri Nov 02, 2018 9:47 pm

Toxic Turtle wrote:
Fri Nov 02, 2018 6:50 am
I would also avoid the blue pill or any other "bumble bee super sex drive" pills, loads of coffee, etc. its bad for your heart man.

I remember taking 2-3 in one day over in HK for lack of better judgement and was actually having a hard time catching my breath, felt a little dizzy, and my eyes were a little blurry - however I proceeded to drink at the bar shortly afterwards anyway. The choices we make as men.
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by RickyBobby » Thu Apr 11, 2019 5:59 am

I have some insight, my ex gave me the label, so I set out to learn all about it. I even joined a 12 step group(s) for Sex Addiction. There are a few different organizations that follow the general 12 step AA protocol of Addiction recovery.

I am not big on the labels; Addict, Syndrome, Disorder, etc. which most often are more for the benefit of professionals who wish to treat people with a collection of similar symptoms. With that in mind, I didn't/do not like the label.

Call it what you will, addiction or not, but if anything causes you to lose control of other aspects of your life, it is a problem. In addiction, people obsess about their drug of choice (doc) and self medicate with it. It is used so much that it replaces all the other healthy aspects of a normal and balanced life.

(The dopamine connection is real, the body pumps the endorphins in the same way runners are addicted to the feeling of it.)

Relationships suffer, hobbies wane, resources are misdirected, and the obsession takes over. If it is addiction, that is when you know you have a problem.

Lets agree to use the term, even though I am not saying its real. Sex 'addiction' is a lot more different than substance addictions; even gambling or other destructive behaviors, because sex is something that can and should be a good part of a healthy persons life. Therefore, it is hard to simply abstain from it like booze or drugs. It's more like food and that's why people have a much harder time with eating disorders too, because you cannot just stop.

Sex addiction can cover a lot of different sub types of behavior that could be labelled differently.

Porn addiction is not the same as a person who is constantly seeking out new sexual partners for example.

For those people who struggle with obsessive porn and masturbation, there is a lot of positive progress in that realm lately, as the focus has shifted from the moral to the physical health benefits of abstinence.

There are now no-fap groups and other men's groups that teach men that porn and masturbation is robbing them of healthy sexual relationships with women and also keeping them down and that if they give it up and re-boot, they will see themselves thrive in career and life. Its a thing; look it up.

PIED is 'porn induced erectile dysfunction'. Young men are having performance problems because they are masturbating so much. They also have objectified women so much on the screen, they need something so specific in front of them that they cannot even fuck anymore. Once they have had a couple of 'fails' in performance, they lose their sexual confidence, and that anxiety alone causes more failure as they worry and over think the encounter and it is a downward spiral from there.

If a guy stops looking at porn and stops masturbating, he recovers his ability to concentrate, his cognitive function improves, he starts to view and appreciate women more, and natural desire returns. He has stronger and longer lasting erections and can actually cum like a normal person as sensitivity returns.

If you do not have any of these problems, or also are not re-directing too much of your time or financial resources towards this obsession, you may not have a problem. Its not enough to say (in this day and age) that this is normal. It's 'normal' in as much as it is common. But that does not make it good. If you stopped fucking hookers and fapping so much, you would re-boot to a healthier view of and desire for women and relationship. It would draw you towards doing the work to find and keep a good woman.
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by SternAAlbifrons » Thu Apr 11, 2019 6:55 am

An alcoholic, a sex addict, and a stoner are all in hell...
The devil comes up to each of them and says he'll grant them each one wish.

So the devil goes and asks the alcoholic what he would like to wish for and the alcoholic responds "I wish for all the liquor I can drink!" The devil grants his wish.
The sex addict wishes to be able to sleep with any woman whenever he wants. The devil grants his wish.
The stoner in turn wishes for an endless supply of high quality marijuana. The devil grants his wish and leaves.

A 1000 years pass in hell and the devil decides to check up on each of them.
The alcoholic has been dead for a while due to severe alcohol poisoning.
The sex addict has also been dead for a long while due to excessive rashes, itches and worse.

The devil then goes to check on the stoner and finds him completely surrounded by bags of weed.
Stoner to Devil "Hey bro, ' you got a lighter?
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Re: Is sex addiction a thing?

Post by newkidontheblock » Thu Apr 11, 2019 8:10 am

So hypothetically speaking what if you are addicted to your partner and your parter is addicted to you? So much so that you only about want to be with her and not anyone else and she only to you? And it’s a life long addiction?

It’s preventing you from whore mongering or whatever CEO deems is healthy behavior?

Is there a cure?

Ok, that was tongue-in-cheek.
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