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Re: Dating and Money in Cambodia

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epidemiks wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 1:44 pm
Raider wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 1:08 pm
epidemiks wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 12:50 pm Yes, the host is expected to pay.

If there's no clear host, it's usually a fight for who can pay for everyone and it's polite to at least attempt.

Food here is about being together and sharing what you have, not the bill, and most things like this are reciprocal - you come to my wedding/birthday and give me $50 in the envelope, I'm obliged to go to your wedding/birthday/whatever and give you $50.
We just decided to go meet her friend and there was not really any clear host expectations. I paid for most of it (usually I have more cash on me all the time), I just couldn't cover the entirety of the bill in this particular instance.
Then your girlfriend just expected you would be the one grabbing the bill. As phuketrichard said, it was a loss of face for her that you couldn't pay.
I see, thanks for clearing that up.
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epidemiks wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 12:50 pm Food here is about being together and sharing what you have, not the bill.
Absolutely spot on! Actually, I consider that as very much the norm in SEA.
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If I invited someone for a drink, and at the end I was 5 USD short and had to ask my guest for five bucks, I would feel ashamed no matter if the person I went with was a boy or a girl.

In your situation you did not just plan badly, you also lost face in front of your your girlfriend. And worse, she lost face in front of her friend when she was probably planning to show off with you. You messed up mate.
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Yes you were expected to pay, but at the same time a girl who cannot understand that you fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell.
No respect for all this Asian bullshit, but if you are old and don't have a big choice (no offense), I understand that you prefer to follow the rules.
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cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:29 pm Yes you were expected to pay, but at the same time a girl who cannot understand that you fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell.
No respect for all this Asian bullshit, but if you are old and don't have a big choice (no offense), I understand that you prefer to follow the rules.
Maybe stop dating a girl if you "fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell"?

I would stop dating a girl that would "fuxxin don't care my stupid Western culture thing should go to hell" for sure....
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Kammekor wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:35 pm
cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:29 pm Yes you were expected to pay, but at the same time a girl who cannot understand that you fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell.
No respect for all this Asian bullshit, but if you are old and don't have a big choice (no offense), I understand that you prefer to follow the rules.
Maybe stop dating a girl if you "fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell"?

For what I use them, not only Khmer but anybody else, I do not really need to respect them...
And no, I do not do the dirties in bar, so some "normal" girls have to be victims.
In my country of birth I would not ask any girl to follow stupid rules or traditions, so anywhere else in the world I also explain them where they can put these things.
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cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:38 pm
Kammekor wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:35 pm
cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:29 pm Yes you were expected to pay, but at the same time a girl who cannot understand that you fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell.
No respect for all this Asian bullshit, but if you are old and don't have a big choice (no offense), I understand that you prefer to follow the rules.
Maybe stop dating a girl if you "fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell"?

For what I use them, not only Khmer but anybody else, I do not really need to respect them...
And no, I do not do the dirties in bar, so some "normal" girls have to be victims.
In my country of birth I would not ask any girl to follow stupid rules or traditions, so anywhere else in the world I also explain them where they can put these things.
youve been carrying your negative Karma for a while CannabisTourist, start watching how you post or you will end up on Mod Preview
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Kammekor wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:20 pm If I invited someone for a drink, and at the end I was 5 USD short and had to ask my guest for five bucks, I would feel ashamed no matter if the person I went with was a boy or a girl.

In your situation you did not just plan badly, you also lost face in front of your your girlfriend. And worse, she lost face in front of her friend when she was probably planning to show off with you. You messed up mate.
It was not planned I think you misread what I wrote. We met up with her friend on a whim and I was not aware I was expected to pay for her friend too. I get I messed up, but I just moved here hindsight is 20/20.
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Jamie_Lambo wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 4:06 pm
cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:38 pm
Kammekor wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:35 pm
cannabistourist wrote: Thu Jul 26, 2018 3:29 pm Yes you were expected to pay, but at the same time a girl who cannot understand that you fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell.
No respect for all this Asian bullshit, but if you are old and don't have a big choice (no offense), I understand that you prefer to follow the rules.
Maybe stop dating a girl if you "fuxxin don't care her stupid Asian face thing should go to hell"?

For what I use them, not only Khmer but anybody else, I do not really need to respect them...
And no, I do not do the dirties in bar, so some "normal" girls have to be victims.
In my country of birth I would not ask any girl to follow stupid rules or traditions, so anywhere else in the world I also explain them where they can put these things.
youve been carrying your negative Karma for a while CannabisTourist, start watching how you post or you will end up on Mod Preview


I was thinking that you were better here, maybe I was wrong ?
So just like all forums managed by idiots who do not like different opinions we cannot tell her what we think even when it's the truth ?
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Re: Dating and Money in Cambodia

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when i go out and eat/drink or do anything with my Khmer friends, i naturally want to pay, to treat my friends, but as its often them inviting me out, they try and pay for everything, if i manage to pay first then they often try and give me the money for their share, they treat me like an equal, its nice, but thats with friends...
on the flip side, if it was my girlfriend, it would be my duty to pay, for her and her guest, if i couldnt, id be embarrassed and im sure she would too... id of had to slyly say i was off to the toilet or something and sneak off to the ATM if i thought id need more cash
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