Random experience in a girls bar

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Random experience in a girls bar

Post by KevinT » Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm

Hi all, how can I start... I have a non Cambodian GF. And on the other hand, some days ago I started to have special feelings for a bar girl. I met this girl around 1y ago. I am about much older than her. She was the prettiest in the place, a butterfly? probably, and I started to feel something for her around those days. Then I stopped going to bars. But lately I had a couple of chances of going there again. And this time it was all more intense. In my comeback, she said she missed me, and she liked me, said I want to be your boyfriend, bla bla crap, and she kissed sooo good (yes, don't say it, because I am not stupid, I know she is a hooker). And I told her what I felt too. I was a bit drunk, but not super. After all this, my feelings started to get a bit stronger. And the stupidity of the situation made me feel more anxious than normal, I think of her all the day. I have this annoying feeling in my chest like when you are a stupid teenager in love but in a toxic way. Watching her stupid posts in FB, etc (she publishes without restriction, of course). All in all is a mistake from my side.

Last night of the 2 I saw her in this 2 week period, we talked and had fun together. I know she is a professional, and she knows how to make a customer feel as he is the great king of Persia. Yes, I know the theory about bar girls, but I still have this pressure in my chest. We even went a bit further than kisses... You know what I mean. She seems lovely to me even when she yells "hooker style" like if she wasn´t aware of how charming she is and didn´t care about rules, so natural. Normally she is calmed and speaks softly. I just feel so protective towards her, which of course she doesn't need, I know for her it's just a job, and not a nice one. I just have all these mixed feelings in my mind, between protection (she must be really poor like almost all Cambodians), pitty, attraction, admiration for her hard life, and stupidness from my side. I know our cultures are tottally opposite in everything (from way of chewing food to reading books). I guess I will overcome this in some weeks, because I planned not doing this ever again. But I am somehow feeling sad, like I wanted to give it a try but knowing it´s impossible. For my engaged situation and for the obvious differences. It´s not even a possibility. I think something is not working well inside me. Maybe Phnom Penh is making me go a bit insane...
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by violet » Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:12 am

I stopped reading at 'she said she missed me ... Blah blah blah'.
I have people I've met once tell me they miss me the next time they see me. Gives me the shits but I tell myself it's just a language/programming thing.
She wants you to be her boyfriend? She wants every guy she says it to to be her boyfriend.
It's not you, it's what you have to offer her.
End your relationship if you no longer are committed to your partner.


You are using PP as an excuse.
Man up.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by prahocalypse now » Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:33 am

KevinT wrote:
Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm
I know she is a professional, and she knows how to make a customer feel as he is the great king of Persia.
I did the most sensible thing a man could do when I once had a similar experience with a Cambodian hooker who made me feel like the King of Persia.

I ran.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by phuketrichard » Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:34 am

i got as far as....I started to have special feelings for a bar girl.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by Duncan » Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:38 am

prahocalypse now wrote:
Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:33 am
KevinT wrote:
Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm
I know she is a professional, and she knows how to make a customer feel as he is the great king of Persia.
I did the most sensible thing a man could do when I once had a similar experience with a Cambodian hooker who made me feel like the King of Persia.

I ran.
But did you run in a complete circle and end up where you started ?
Cambodia,,,, Don't fall in love with her.
Like the spoilt child she is, she will not be happy till she destroys herself from within and breaks your heart.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by prahocalypse now » Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:50 am

Duncan wrote:
Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:38 am
prahocalypse now wrote:
Wed Jun 27, 2018 7:33 am
KevinT wrote:
Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm
I know she is a professional, and she knows how to make a customer feel as he is the great king of Persia.
I did the most sensible thing a man could do when I once had a similar experience with a Cambodian hooker who made me feel like the King of Persia.

I ran.
But did you run in a complete circle and end up where you started ?
Yes. Until I'd had enough of that shiite.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by Arget » Wed Jun 27, 2018 8:04 am

Your little head is over ruling your big head.

Enjoy the company in the bar but leave it there.You have a GF.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by Cam Nivag » Wed Jun 27, 2018 8:11 am

KevinT wrote:
Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm
Hi all, how can I start... I have a non Cambodian GF. And on the other hand, some days ago I started to have special feelings for a bar girl. I met this girl around 1y ago. I am about much older than her. She was the prettiest in the place, a butterfly? probably, and I started to feel something for her around those days. Then I stopped going to bars. But lately I had a couple of chances of going there again. And this time it was all more intense. In my comeback, she said she missed me, and she liked me, said I want to be your boyfriend, bla bla crap, and she kissed sooo good (yes, don't say it, because I am not stupid, I know she is a hooker). And I told her what I felt too. I was a bit drunk, but not super. After all this, my feelings started to get a bit stronger. And the stupidity of the situation made me feel more anxious than normal, I think of her all the day. I have this annoying feeling in my chest like when you are a stupid teenager in love but in a toxic way. Watching her stupid posts in FB, etc (she publishes without restriction, of course). All in all is a mistake from my side.

Last night of the 2 I saw her in this 2 week period, we talked and had fun together. I know she is a professional, and she knows how to make a customer feel as he is the great king of Persia. Yes, I know the theory about bar girls, but I still have this pressure in my chest. We even went a bit further than kisses... You know what I mean. She seems lovely to me even when she yells "hooker style" like if she wasn´t aware of how charming she is and didn´t care about rules, so natural. Normally she is calmed and speaks softly. I just feel so protective towards her, which of course she doesn't need, I know for her it's just a job, and not a nice one. I just have all these mixed feelings in my mind, between protection (she must be really poor like almost all Cambodians), pitty, attraction, admiration for her hard life, and stupidness from my side. I know our cultures are tottally opposite in everything (from way of chewing food to reading books). I guess I will overcome this in some weeks, because I planned not doing this ever again. But I am somehow feeling sad, like I wanted to give it a try but knowing it´s impossible. For my engaged situation and for the obvious differences. It´s not even a possibility. I think something is not working well inside me. Maybe Phnom Penh is making me go a bit insane...
Where's you girlfriend when you're in Phnom Penh? You've got to be careful about friending you hooker friend on Facebook. If she's friends with you she can tag you in any post at any time and your GF will see it, unless you disable that.

Maybe you should get unengaged to your girlfriend if you are falling in love with hookers. Good luck.
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by frank lee bent » Wed Jun 27, 2018 8:16 am

pics?
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Re: Random experience in a girls bar

Post by clutchcargo » Wed Jun 27, 2018 8:30 am

KevinT wrote:
Tue Jun 26, 2018 11:07 pm

I think something is not working well inside me.
Don 't worry, it's a primal thing..something about wanting to sow your wild oats..
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