luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
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Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
Dowry
A dowry is a transfer of parental property, gifts or money at the marriage of a daughter. Dowry contrasts with the related concepts of bride price and dower. While bride price or bride service is a payment by the groom or his family to the bride's parents, dowry is the wealth transferred from the bride's family to the groom or his family, ostensibly for the bride.
A dowry is a transfer of parental property, gifts or money at the marriage of a daughter. Dowry contrasts with the related concepts of bride price and dower. While bride price or bride service is a payment by the groom or his family to the bride's parents, dowry is the wealth transferred from the bride's family to the groom or his family, ostensibly for the bride.
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Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
Yep. Asians have in the wrong way round. In the uk , and i think most of europe, the bride paid the groom for taking her off their hands as women were considered a liability. Theyu couldn't fight the uglier the girl, the more the grooms parents got paidkocdim wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 8:42 pmOk. Whatever I need to change the title again . Ok Thanksprahocalypse now wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 8:03 pm It's called a 'bride price' in English.
The word 'dowry' only refers to a payment made to the groom's family.
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If your wife is the eldest daughter, there will be a lot of additional 'family responsibilities and expectations' from her parents and siblings. She will be the first one called when parents or siblings have any issues (regardless of your nationality).kocdim wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 6:41 pm Actually the purpose of this question is to get general filling of the attitude of the family and the wife. I understand that the help with in the family is required. But how demanding can be the family, is there huge pressure on the groom regarding problems in the family? Also whats the attitude of the wife? Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place? Can she draw a line when she thinks that her duty to help is done? Because I really want to keep the family out of problems and pressures. But I dont mind helping and honoring the duty that my wife might have towards her family.
"Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place?"
The pecking order as I see it goes:
-parents
-children
-siblings
-you (maybe) or that special aunt or uncle
Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
I always thought it was the oldest surviving member that was the family patriarch or matriach. ie grandparents etc.Username Taken wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 10:00 pmIf your wife is the eldest daughter, there will be a lot of additional 'family responsibilities and expectations' from her parents and siblings. She will be the first one called when parents or siblings have any issues (regardless of your nationality).kocdim wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 6:41 pm Actually the purpose of this question is to get general filling of the attitude of the family and the wife. I understand that the help with in the family is required. But how demanding can be the family, is there huge pressure on the groom regarding problems in the family? Also whats the attitude of the wife? Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place? Can she draw a line when she thinks that her duty to help is done? Because I really want to keep the family out of problems and pressures. But I dont mind helping and honoring the duty that my wife might have towards her family.
"Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place?"
The pecking order as I see it goes:
-parents
-children
-siblings
-you (maybe) or that special aunt or uncle
As to siblings, whom is more responsible, the eldest son or the eldest daughter?
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Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
The eldest daughter takes care of her parents. Other daughters also contribute. But, the eldest has the main responsibility.
The sons take care of their in-laws.
The sons take care of their in-laws.
Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
I think this may vary quite a bit across the country in different ethnic groups and social classes. My understanding is the oldest unmarried daughter looks after the family, as the others have their own family to look after. after that comes unmarried sons. in any event the assumption is any barang in the family are rich so I think they get tapped first if the family is poor and maybe last if the family is of a higher class and do not want to be seen relying on a foreigner for charityUsername Taken wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 10:26 pm The eldest daughter takes care of her parents. Other daughters also contribute. But, the eldest has the main responsibility.
The sons take care of their in-laws.
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Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
Here's a post by a female Khmer poster, prahkeitouj, replying to something similar I said previously.
cambodian-culture-and-language/why-shou ... ml#p111767
cambodian-culture-and-language/why-shou ... ml#p111767
Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
And who is the highest in the family, the eldest patriarch or the eldest matriarch? In reality is this always the same? And is it the same for the tribes other than Khmer?
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Re: luy tuk doh /groom dowry /sin sod
If she is original and there is less than a 10 year age gap follow tradition. If she is not then any money you pay is no different to buying a long term hooker.
The expats that are quoting tradition are forgetting a simple thing if tradition is such a strong thing and she has been married before then the previous husband has taken responsibility as tradition dictates.
I am sure they will justify their positions as previous husband no good and had run away, but all that does is confirm that the tradition bullshit is only brought into play when the ATM ( foreigner) turns up.
Simple question after you have paid the bride money and subsidized the family will you still have enough cash to support your parents if they need long term care or indeed any children from a previous relationship should the shit hit then fan and they are in need
The expats that are quoting tradition are forgetting a simple thing if tradition is such a strong thing and she has been married before then the previous husband has taken responsibility as tradition dictates.
I am sure they will justify their positions as previous husband no good and had run away, but all that does is confirm that the tradition bullshit is only brought into play when the ATM ( foreigner) turns up.
Simple question after you have paid the bride money and subsidized the family will you still have enough cash to support your parents if they need long term care or indeed any children from a previous relationship should the shit hit then fan and they are in need
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Oh, you thought that was a joke?kocdim wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:37 pmmmm I was looking for some serious feed back from people with some experience with all this. But I have to admit it was little funny.phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 2:22 pm lol
and dont forget u will be required to replace the dying buffalo, brothers education and dads second wife
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