pczz wrote:if the village or anyone in it need something they will go your wifes family and ask her to get you to help. Then it gets tricky and you can wind up being an ATM for the entire village if you are not careful

Does this actually happen to people? My mother in law wouldn't suffer any fool that tried that on.

phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 4:11 pm 1. how old are you and she?
2.is she from the city or country?
3. is/was she a working girl?
4.is she and/or her family educated?
5.do they own a car

these will affect asking price

sorry ,forgot one

6.is/was she a virgin when u met her?

If she's still a virgin he's already paid.

Actually the purpose of this question is to get general filling of the attitude of the family and the wife. I understand that the help with in the family is required. But how demanding can be the family, is there huge pressure on the groom regarding problems in the family? Also whats the attitude of the wife? Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place? Can she draw a line when she thinks that her duty to help is done? Because I really want to keep the family out of problems and pressures. But I dont mind helping and honoring the duty that my wife might have towards her family.

John Bingham wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 3:46 pm What the hell is sin sod?

Actually I heard the term in one Thia clip on youtube. I didnt know how it is called in Cambodia. I changed the title now. I hope everybody happy now

kocdim wrote:Actually the purpose of this question is to get general filling of the attitude of the family and the wife. I understand that the help with in the family is required. But how demanding can be the family, is there huge pressure on the groom regarding problems in the family? Also whats the attitude of the wife? Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place? Can she draw a line when she thinks that her duty to help is done? Because I really want to keep the family out of problems and pressures. But I dont mind helping and honoring the duty that my wife might have towards her family.

Every one is different but in my experience her family always came first, annoyed me enough to end the marriage (along with other reasons).

I never paid a cent for the “honor” of marrying her but I did support her mother, while she was alive, with a small monthly income.

Everyone I know has had different experiences and had different ways of dealing with this. The best is to talk to the Mrs and lay out what you will and will not find acceptable before getting married. If you can’t find a mutual agreement / arrangement seriously think if this is someone you want to spend the rest of you life with. The problems won’t go away and she may even resent you for not helping her family which will never mean a healthy marriage.

epidemiks wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 6:10 pm

pczz wrote:if the village or anyone in it need something they will go your wifes family and ask her to get you to help. Then it gets tricky and you can wind up being an ATM for the entire village if you are not careful

Does this actually happen to people? My mother in law wouldn't suffer any fool that tried that on.

Depends on your mum inlaw. We had a few incidents. Mum inlaw was too embarrassed to say her daughter and or barang wouldn't do it, so she was lending people her own money

kiwiincambodia wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 6:54 pm

kocdim wrote:Actually the purpose of this question is to get general filling of the attitude of the family and the wife. I understand that the help with in the family is required. But how demanding can be the family, is there huge pressure on the groom regarding problems in the family? Also whats the attitude of the wife? Does the wife puts her husband and her kids on the first place? Can she draw a line when she thinks that her duty to help is done? Because I really want to keep the family out of problems and pressures. But I dont mind helping and honoring the duty that my wife might have towards her family.

Every one is different but in my experience her family always came first, annoyed me enough to end the marriage (along with other reasons).

I never paid a cent for the “honor” of marrying her but I did support her mother, while she was alive, with a small monthly income.

Everyone I know has had different experiences and had different ways of dealing with this. The best is to talk to the Mrs and lay out what you will and will not find acceptable before getting married. If you can’t find a mutual agreement / arrangement seriously think if this is someone you want to spend the rest of you life with. The problems won’t go away and she may even resent you for not helping her family which will never mean a healthy marriage.

Thanks. This helps. I know every person is different. But it always helps to get some info from other people.

It's called a 'bride price' in English.

The word 'dowry' only refers to a payment made to the groom's family.

you also need to consider your legal obligations to the family in case of divorce, especially if you have relatives living with you

prahocalypse now wrote: ↑Sat Jan 13, 2018 8:03 pm It's called a 'bride price' in English.

The word 'dowry' only refers to a payment made to the groom's family.

Ok. Whatever I need to change the title again . Ok Thanks
P.S.
Can not change the title anymore. Maybe is time limited not sure.