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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by phuketrichard » Thu Jun 22, 2017 1:57 pm

all the kids selling post cards, books etc at Angkor wat are very nice
They ask, "you buy post card, book?"
u tell them "NO", and they respond,
"OK, maybe tomorrow?"
but its all done with smiles
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by John Bingham » Thu Jun 22, 2017 2:59 pm

StroppyChops wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 1:16 pm
We work with some very poor people, many of whom are always looking for a handout (because, let's face it, that's what white westerners do).
That's right. Hey Strops, spot us a twenty till payday mate?
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by Jerry Atrick » Thu Jun 22, 2017 3:20 pm

I emphasise, and nod, while saying in Khmer "I know, my paycheck is small, small and I have a wife and two kids"

Then change the subject.
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by StroppyChops » Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:29 pm

John Bingham wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 2:59 pm
StroppyChops wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 1:16 pm
We work with some very poor people, many of whom are always looking for a handout (because, let's face it, that's what white westerners do).
That's right. Hey Strops, spot us a twenty till payday mate?
:D I will not give you money today.
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by timmydownawell » Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:35 pm

rozzieoz wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 9:34 am
We regularly have Khmer people tell us their financial problems, and I feel so uncomfortable each time it happens.

Long-term friends, people we have just met, random strangers - they all want us to know their dramas.

How do you deal with it when it happens to you?
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by StroppyChops » Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:39 pm

timmydownawell wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:35 pm
rozzieoz wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 9:34 am
We regularly have Khmer people tell us their financial problems, and I feel so uncomfortable each time it happens.

Long-term friends, people we have just met, random strangers - they all want us to know their dramas.

How do you deal with it when it happens to you?
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Dibs! So, lend us a tenner, mate?
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by saigonjackpot » Thu Jun 22, 2017 7:35 pm

Westerners like my self make 5000 USD a month as a labourer in our home country's easy.

And with the amount of hours they work it would be close to 10 k a month AUD in Australia .

And you guys are talking about holding back 2.5 usd cents
Or 100 riel.

Bloddy farkin hell what horribul c*nts live in Cambodia nowadays
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by timmydownawell » Thu Jun 22, 2017 8:48 pm

StroppyChops wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:39 pm
timmydownawell wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:35 pm
rozzieoz wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 9:34 am
We regularly have Khmer people tell us their financial problems, and I feel so uncomfortable each time it happens.

Long-term friends, people we have just met, random strangers - they all want us to know their dramas.

How do you deal with it when it happens to you?
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Dibs! So, lend us a tenner, mate?
LOL too late!
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by timmydownawell » Thu Jun 22, 2017 8:53 pm

timmydownawell wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 8:48 pm
StroppyChops wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:39 pm
timmydownawell wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 6:35 pm
rozzieoz wrote:
Thu Jun 22, 2017 9:34 am
We regularly have Khmer people tell us their financial problems, and I feel so uncomfortable each time it happens.

Long-term friends, people we have just met, random strangers - they all want us to know their dramas.

How do you deal with it when it happens to you?
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Dibs! So, lend us a tenner, mate?
LOL too late!
...if only I'd seen your post two hours ago... I feel bad now. I blame myself.
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Re: How do you respond when people tell you their financial problems?

Post by Anchor Moy » Thu Jun 22, 2017 10:27 pm

We regularly have Khmer people tell us their financial problems, and I feel so uncomfortable each time it happens.

Long-term friends, people we have just met, random strangers - they all want us to know their dramas.

How do you deal with it when it happens to you?
You probably do this anyway, but as a general rule, if people talk about their financial problems when you're out socializing and you're not being directly hit for a loan, then empathize about times being tough, commiserate, and pay them a meal, some drinks, or whatever you can afford or feel like. That's ok. That's what friends are for. If they want a loan they will probably ask you for it.

But what you are really asking, Roz, is how to stop feeling so uncomfortable, isn't it ? I think we have to work out that for ourselves. There's no one answer fits all.
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