77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by StroppyChops » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:08 pm

As a kid, had to regularly choose between the belt and the metal-edged ruler. Often beaten unconscious by the old man when he was drunk, or just feeling mean. Occasionally concussed by my mother banging my brother and my heads together. Forgiven, never forgotten. There's a line between discipline and abuse, but the old man seemed to have the understanding of that line beaten from him by the Christian Brothers, and possibly his old man before he was abandoned.
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by juansweetpotato » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:29 pm

John Bingham wrote:
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My parent's weren't too strict, but I remember getting thrashed by them a few times too (usually for good reasons, like throwing rocks at passing cars etc). Teachers used to be fairly nasty when I was in school. After corporal punishment got banned around 1984 they didn't even acknowledge it and they beat the shit out of us worse than before. In this period I had both eardrums perforated, one time by a lay teacher and the next by a fucking monk.
So anyway I don't generally hit my kid, unless he does something really dangerous. His mom is one of those 77%, which wouldn't bother me except that the punishments always seem very arbitrary, and I can't see what the point is except just perpetuating obedience to idiocy.
Did she beat your kid when she found out that the gold braclet had been stolen?

I had to leave Westline because they were doing things like whacking 10 year olds in the face with ac remotes. The kids didn't deserve that treatment.
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by John Bingham » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:32 pm

Jamie_Lambo wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 10:55 pm
i see nothing wrong with a kid getting a spanked bottom as a line of discipline
How many kids do you have Jamie?
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by John Bingham » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:37 pm

juansweetpotato wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:29 pm


Did she beat your kid when she found out that the gold bracelet had been stolen?
No, that was blamed on me! She's more likely to get into silly tit-for-tat escalations with him, she's not really brutal or anything. It just never seems to make much sense why he's being punished other than they have been at loggerheads for a while.
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by juansweetpotato » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:42 pm

Kuroneko wrote:
Sun Jun 11, 2017 8:35 pm
Luigi wrote:
Sun Jun 11, 2017 8:11 pm
Kuroneko wrote,
'' When wearing a hat, it would be suitable etiquette to take it off when going indoors, into a shop or when talking to a lady on the street.

Wondering why this is. Any ideas where it originated.
Heres a couple of reasons:

“A relic of the ancient custom of taking off the helmet when no danger
is nigh. A man takes off his hat to show that he dares stand unarmed
in your presence.”

In the 16th to the 18th centuries in England, the donning and doffing of hats was governed by a code of etiquette and custom that it is hard for us now to appreciate. Every man of standing wore a hat, and the form of hat and the rules governing when it could be removed or for whom it should be raised in acknowledgement were bewilderingly complex. Hat doffing was an accompaniment to bowing and the depth of the bow determined how far the hat was lifted.

A bit like five versions of performing Sampeah in Cambodia

Edit: Highly relevant I think :thumb:
AE86 wrote:
Sun Jun 11, 2017 8:31 pm
My mum would say this to me too (removing my hat indoors). Told me it was disrespectful to the homeowner because it was implying the house was not a hospitable place to the point of still needing one's hat. She also received somewhat of a British education as well if that matters.
Have you read any Scottish history? If you have you will note that most of the perceived English Victorian etiquette, actually comes from Edinburgh during the Scottish enlightenment. They wanted to show they were better than their English counterparts, and wrote many books on the subject. Some of which became popular guides to English etiquette.
Ref: Smoute - A history of the Scottish People.
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by Jamie_Lambo » Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:51 pm

John Bingham wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:32 pm
Jamie_Lambo wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 10:55 pm
i see nothing wrong with a kid getting a spanked bottom as a line of discipline
How many kids do you have Jamie?
none, not that it makes much different
my kids would be likely to get a spanked bottom if they deserve it
its not like bringing out the belt is it
the spank is more to do with the shock factor rather than actually hurting the kid
(im a parenting expert obviously lol)
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical g against children.

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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by Jamie_Lambo » Tue Jun 13, 2017 1:50 am

too many special snowflakes in this politically correct social media generation, its cringey
my mates trying to find a labourer to work for him, his last one quit after a few hours because "he was working him too hard"
his record in 3 in 1 week before
pfft
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by AE86 » Tue Jun 13, 2017 8:06 am

Jamie_Lambo wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:51 pm
John Bingham wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 11:32 pm
Jamie_Lambo wrote:
Mon Jun 12, 2017 10:55 pm
i see nothing wrong with a kid getting a spanked bottom as a line of discipline
How many kids do you have Jamie?
none, not that it makes much different
Actually it makes a huge difference when it happens. I'm not saying you're wrong in your views of raising children, just saying that being single and open vs. being a commited parent very much changes you.
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Re: 77% of Cambodian parents use physical punishment against children.

Post by Duncan » Tue Jun 13, 2017 8:33 am

There are three times over the past years when I have got involved in mothers ? hitting kids. Twice on riverside and once at Wat Phnom. The one I remember most was on r/side , I ended up grabbing the stick off the lady and throwing it into the river, then looked at the blood on my hand caused by several small nails that were in the stick. Only then to be attacked by the lady with another stick and I was saved by a guy wearing his moto helmet who attacked her.

I have a crazy crazy 5 yo [ nearly 6 ] in my family and hitting her would be no big deal for her. She would just laugh and enjoy the punishment, so her punishment is usually missing out on being given something or left at home while her sister goes somewhere.


Could be a problem solved by using Ritalin ?
Cambodia,,,, Don't fall in love with her.
Like the spoilt child she is, she will not be happy till she destroys herself from within and breaks your heart.
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