How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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Re: How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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Kammekor wrote: Sun Jan 19, 2025 9:49 am
Doc67 wrote: Sun Jan 19, 2025 9:41 am
So, warm beer is diluted by frozen tap water crushed up by filthy machinery. Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse.
Nope, beer is kept in (orange) cooler boxes with a block of ice, so the beer is nice and cold. In case you're in a hurry they will put the ice, with some water, and the beer in a metal pan and your beer will be cold in 10 minutes.
People in the boonies have thought it all out before you even were aware there are boonies. :stir:
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Just don't forget to wipe your can before sipping. Cheers! :beer3:
Of course it can get worse, Doc!

That orange cooler box that Kammekor mentioned might look nice on the outside, but the inside hasn't been cleaned since they acquired it.
The inside of the cooler box is slimy as are the cans.

And, the advice of wiping your can before sipping isn't for the purpose of drying the can. Take a good look around the rim of the can. It can often accumulate excess slime which turns a dark color and will definitely affect your stomach. So, when wiping the can, pay extra attention to the rim.

btw, don't think I'm kidding. :hattip:
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Re: How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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newkidontheblock wrote: Sat Jan 18, 2025 10:01 pm
ItWasntMe wrote: Sat Jan 18, 2025 7:38 pm
newkidontheblock wrote: Sat Jan 18, 2025 7:30 pm If you’re sure she is the one for you and marriage is next step, then do like I did. Build a small room to western standards for you to stay in. I did. Life saver for me and my parents for the wedding later on.
That's a solid move and will not set any type of expectations regarding future payouts :good:
Just dating a foreigner is setting expectations of future payouts.

Might as well make a comfortable existence of it.

Won’t work for the Cheap Charlie’s but it did for me. What they do with it afterwards is up to them.
Hey Kid! What was the cost and size of your room? Was it stand alone or attached or where? That's kind of cool I like to learn more.
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Add this to the list of reasons not to go.

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You need to go. But you need to manage the things that make you most uncomfortable.
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Doc67 wrote: Mon Jan 20, 2025 9:29 am Add this to the list of reasons not to go.

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You're planning for some 'amour' between the cassava plants?
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Re: How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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What about these two options ?

1 : you go there and show some respect to your girlfriend's family and some interest to where she is from, where she grew up, like a man would do in a foreign country. You'd be respected back for who you are and not only for your pension. You can sleep in town in case there's no electricity, even if they let you sleep on the only mattress in their house.
2 : you tell her the truth : you're not here to meet illiterate local people, especially in the boonies, and your beer time in Harry's bar or wherever you stay is too precious to be spend with your (ex) future in-laws.
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Rent a car and drive yourself downthere, take a fancy hotel in Battambong and go around lunch time with kilos of food and beers. When it approches 5.30 tell them you drink more then enough and dont like to drive in darkness in cambodia. Go back to your Battambong hotel, shower, take a dive in the pool and order a cocktail at the pool-bar. But you have to meet them for sure, then you will understand where all your KHR are going to . . . P.S. Dont start drinking khmer whiskey with them, bad idea for the car, yourself and the afterwords discussing/fights with the uncle drunk from next door !!
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Re: How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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The only way you will get any respect from them (admittedly tempered with resentment) is if you put your foot down and do things the way you want.

It's an entirely different situation visiting a wife's family rather than a girlfriend's. In the first case you really have to adapt to their culture, which can sometimes feel like you are adopting them all.

It can be a useful tactic to allocate your gf a budget of entertainment funds. Give her some cash before you go and if any brothers or uncles demand money for more beers or methanol cocktails refer them to her. She will find it much easier to refuse.

And don't forget to be courteous and respect the Golden Rule: he who has the gold makes the rules.
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Username Taken wrote: Sun Jan 19, 2025 1:15 pm Of course it can get worse, Doc!

That orange cooler box that Kammekor mentioned might look nice on the outside, but the inside hasn't been cleaned since they acquired it.
The inside of the cooler box is slimy as are the cans.
The worst case of food poisoning I had in Cambodia was after drinking a can of Nestle coffee from one of those eskies. Driving from Siem Reap to Kampot, I was falling asleep and reluctantly stopped for a drink. The water inside the eskie looked like it came from the nearby pond. Within a couple of hours, I was sick like a dog.
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Re: How to avoid visiting girlfiend's parents in the boonies

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Cant you just buy a mattress and a mosquito net there, or prehaps bring it with you? The rest of the discomforts doesn't sound like anything that should be much of an issue if it is only for 2-3 days. Especially if your interest in the girl is genuine, leaning to know her parents, family and enviroment should keep you plenty busy for such a short time. Me, I would only be worried about how to make a good impression and building positive and respectful relations with them. However, if you dont actually care for her, then let her go I think. Don't waste other peoples time. Life is short for all of us, but especially for women the years in which you can find a good quality partner and create a family, are few and short.
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