What's the craziest story you have with meeting up with a girl in Phnom Penh? or Cambodia in General

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White Knight Aaron you are either misunderstanding what violet wrote or intentionally twisting it for whatever reason.

She seems to be talking about women in general, not just from Cambodia. The part about "given how many women feel in a male dominated world that they are fighting for genuine equality in" is highlighting how women already feel subjugated in the world. This is why she has the view that "perhaps less women would respond positively because it triggers a feeling of violation/loss of control".

I dare say your post is likely to make her feel subjugated too.

Anyway, there was a news article about men forced to have sex a couple of years ago. It's quite shocking and might open some people's minds.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-49057533

When a man has penetrative sex with a woman without her consent, that's rape. But what if a woman makes a man have penetrative sex with her, without his consent? That's not rape under the law of England and Wales, but the author of a new study of the phenomenon says perhaps it should be.

Some readers will find this story disturbing

Dr Siobhan Weare of Lancaster University Law School carried out the first research into forced penetration in the UK in 2016-7, gathering information from more than 200 men via an online survey.

Her latest study, published this week - based on one-to-one interviews with 30 men between May 2018 and July 2019 - explores in greater detail the context in which forced penetration occurs, its consequences, and the response of the criminal justice system.
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im half asleep, but is it on this thread, we were talking about visiting girls in wooden houses ?

well as I was nodding off, i was just thinking about my friend i used to see in phnom penh, and her room there.

she had a house in province, but that's, not part of what I'm writing about (i didn't know this at the time, but the fucking idiot had taken a $1k loan off some loan sharks @about 5% per day, to pay for some fucking tiling she liked the look of, but that's another story).

I'm writing about this little room she rented round the back of one of the streets in district 1. it's own little community. little maze with people running around the little alleyways, living on top of each other. Her kind, friendly neighbours. I went round there quite a bit to meet her, before we went out somewhere normally. Anyway, it was just a concrete box. With a little alcove for a shower. That was it. I think there was a wardrobe in there. Maybe a little dressing table. But no finishes, no decoration, not even a fucking bed. She just lay on the floor. At one point she let 2 of her friends stay there as well, neither of which paid the fucking rent (and they nicked her clothes). She didn't complain. She didn't moan about it. She didn't say she should have more. And tbh, that was probably about as good as it got.

Anyway, I was just writing about the room. About how people live, and how desperately unfair this world is.

Did I not even buy her a fucking bed ? What the hell was I doing ?
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Didn't buy her a bed when she slept on the floor. I was a useless friend, and a useless boyfriend. I wasn't even much of a lover. With my 2 times a day limit. A dead loss. I even fucked her best friend. The one who didn't pay the rent. What an asshole. And after all that, the last day that it was really in my court to save it, she came to meet me for dinner 2 days after we'd had a blazing row. She turns up dressed to the 9s, looking gorgeous, and she greets me with hello baby. We sit down and she tells me she doesn't know what to do, and I say, well babe I'd already arranged to meet another girl before you called, and she's getting here soon so you need to go soon. And, you know what ? I could not work out why she finished with me. She jumped foot first into 7 tonnes of shit to get me out of her system and get me back for how I'd treated her., and all I could do was feel sorry for myself. I was a curse on that poor girl.
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I didn't even know that I loved her either. I did love her, but I didn't know. Her friend actually asked me one time before we snogged in Pontoon. She said do you love her. And I said no. And I thought I was telling the truth. I said I'm fond of her, and I want her to do well, but I don't love her. And then I kissed this girl, as their other friend sat and watched. Th friend that I later blamed for my friendship ending because I thought she'd told her I was no good.

The first time I started to realise I did love her, she came round for a bit. This was one of the last times. She didn't stay. I had a little balcony out front of my room, with a table and chair on, with the balcony leading on the stairs down and out of the hotel. And I sat in the chair as she was about to leave. She knew I was falling in love with her that day though ?? because she took forever to get into bed, making me wait. Knowing that I just wanted her lieing next to me so I could hold her naked body.

And...as I sit in the chair, she comes out to go, and she stands in front of me, and I hold her to me, and I put my head on her hip with her stroking my hair, and I say, "I think I'm falling in love with you". She just laughed, and said "bullshit", and walked off. And I nearly tried to stop her then. As she got to the bottom of the top flight of steps I nearly said "wait". But I didn't say anything. And the next time we spoke, was the row. And yeah that was the last time I saw her before I stood her up at dinner.

But you know the funny thing ? The funny thing doesn't matter. The funny thing's gone. A long time ago. It's not coming back. It's there, where you left it. But you are not. And neither is she.
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On the topic of houses. Just as the sorya beer mall was complete, so perhaps 2010? I met a beautiful girl in martini. I was young and still enamoured with all the freedoms that came with being a young male expat in PP at that time. She had a unique look about her, almost Japanese, and was super kind. I was scared to commit to anything in those days, but I really liked her.
She took me to where she was living one night. It was the rabbit warren opposite sorya mall on 51. Down an alley, up some stairs, along a corridor, into a room where 6 people slept on mats. The room was tiled floor to ceiling with a fluorescent tube light bouncing off all that white tile, and completely bare of anything other than these six sleeping people. In the corner was a tiny squat toilet and a ladder. The ladder lead up to a small deck, that was covered by the roof but completely open to the elements on the st51 side. That was where she slept. She had a mattress and nothing else, and kept her clothes in the corner. Some of her clothes made me laugh. All leopard print blouses and shoulder pads, with frills and huge collars like a middle aged market seller.
In those days, sorya mall had live khmer bands, so our eardrums were assaulted by that until around 2am. It was super hot in there too despite the lack of a wall.
She later took me to her family home in Takeo. Lovely family. They all slept downstairs in hammocks that night and let us have the room upstairs to ourselves. She was such a genuinely nice girl. She came to visit me in siem reap where I worked at the time, the furthest shed ever been alone on a bus. We went out to the temples and I took tons of photos of her and later spent hours photoshopping them to make them the best they could be, and got them printed up for her. Her dark skin, wide smile and perfect teeth against the backdrop of ancient stones and all that history was intoxicating for me.
I don't know why we split. I was scared to be tied down I think. She gave me a shirt as a parting gift. It actually fitted and was something I would have chosen myself, and didn't have any leopard print or shoulder pads. I saw her once years later, and she hadn't changed. Same quirky haircut. Same beaming smile. The same genuine warmth, perhaps a little jaded by all that comes with the life they choose or are forced to survive in.
I have many regrets from my years in this country. One of the biggest is not treating her with the same love and respect that she showed me.

Felger said karma drips from the trees in Cambodia, and I'm sure I've paid dearly over the years for being a young, selfish dude enjoying himself at the expense of the feelings of those less fortunate than I.
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This is just some weird larp from ahyou, such an odd thing to just make up stories like this.

I'm sure you're also an Ex seal
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Darkcel wrote: Sun Sep 19, 2021 8:55 am This is just some weird larp from ahyou, such an odd thing to just make up stories like this.

I'm sure you're also an Ex seal
what does ex seal mean ?

i not make up. was nice friendship but long time ago now.
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violet wrote: Fri Sep 17, 2021 12:14 am
Jerry Atrick wrote: Thu Sep 16, 2021 5:03 pm
violet wrote: Thu Sep 16, 2021 9:03 am
Dario wrote: Thu Sep 16, 2021 5:04 am In 2010 or 11 i was raped by an alcoholic nymphomaniac above shamrock? at Riverside.
The reason that was even possible is Cialis
Am ashamed for being somewhat proud to be able to brag about it.
I know some will roll their eyes at my response, but it’s evident you have no empathy for those who have experienced rape.

Rape is not a laughing matter. It’s not something to leverage to get a quick ego boost on social media about your self-perception that you have comedic skills
Rape isn't a laughing matter, no form of assault is - but as a guy I have on five different occasions so far in life gone to sleep and woke up a girl on my dick who I didn't invite to bed, didn't live in my house but was known to me. Is that rape? One is my significant other so she gets a pass.

If I went to a woman's room while she was asleep and put my dick in her it would be rape. If a dude is passed out above a bar and had a dick pill hard on and gets rode without consent by an "alcoholic nymphomaniac" it's still rape, right?

Not having a go - genuine question
I can only speak from the perspective of people I have actually known who have done and experienced these things. And I know men and women who have woken up to a partner getting it on with them. It’s not always ‘rape’ (at least not to me. I don’t know if the legal definition means it is)

If you don’t feel violated it isn’t rape so don’t label it as such. I suggest you don’t go shoving your dick into sleeping women unless you know they will respond favourably. Same for women - don’t go bouncing on a man’s morning glory / viagara rod unless you know he’s ok with it.

I think - and may be biased in my thoughts - that more often men would wake up thinking woo hoo. Perhaps less women would respond positively because it triggers a feeling of violation/loss of control, given how many women feel in a male dominated world that they are fighting for genuine equality in.


Hello violet, i've "known" you for a long time via your posts on this & tof, & i respect & like you.
Which is why i'm writing this hereo answer to you, more of a rebuttal i'm afraid.

Before i go any further, let's get this out of the way:

"If you don’t feel violated it isn’t rape so don’t label it as such"
Is totally WRONG, like TOTALLY

what do you make of Alanis Morissette's recent realization, that, with the help of years of psychotherapy she was indeed raped or constantly abused?
You know what? I'm with her

Still, i don't wanna go there, because that's a big big issue, that i'm fuck glad has finally come into the open
When i talk about a rape that i was the victim of, do i really have to be including the 99.99% of rapes that happen to women?

I will never start a hashtag #malesmetoo since i was not seriously traumatized by the experience
and i never thought it was funny, (maybe in hindsight), but crazy & that's why i posted it after having hesitated since the the thread had started
because my immediate reaction to the OP's question was: Yeah that crazy lady who raped me

I'm sorry if i've offended you & i think i get where you coming from

& maybe the punchline, which wasn't meant to be funny, probably showed my insensitivity

BUT!

As a matter of fact i was raped! there's no fuckin going around this. Thanks hburns for that link

some minutiae:
after a night out, boozing, we got back to my room. disrobing laying down, when she said: now we fuck. i said no, sleep first, she: no, now & probably at that time already grabbed my dick.
of course i gave in & apart from the fact that she rode me hard, i don't remember how it ended.

Before anyone accuses of making shit up, (like, apparently in now deleted posts above), she was a waitress at california 2, i'm sure some of you knew her & she had serious violent tendencies. Only when she started to hit me in earnest, out of anger, not "playfully" anymore i managed to break it up.

Now for contrast

Phuket, fall of 1992, some day, 7AM
I woke up feeling a slight hurt on my dick, opened my eyes to see my gf in the process of sitting on it. A tad too fast or she wasn't just not wet enough
D'you think i call that a rape too? No, best wake up call of my life!

Since the consent was permanently given
Whereas with the PP lady i explicitly said no. That's why

I never meant to demean the male on female rape issue, but the female on male is just in a completely different ballpark
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Pseudonomdeplume wrote: Wed Sep 15, 2021 12:08 am
Railroad wrote: Tue Sep 14, 2021 10:34 pm
MAGA wrote: Tue Sep 14, 2021 6:09 pm I can't read khmer, but in February 2016 a girl left her ID at my home. The only thing I could make out was ១ ៩ ៩ ៩.
Year of 'er birth, innit. :good:
Correct, but it was obviously her daughter's ID.
Edit: deleted, because I suck at maths :facepalm:
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