When Asian Women Are Harassed for Marrying Non-Asian Men

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When Asian Women Are Harassed for Marrying Non-Asian Men

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By Celeste Ng
October 12th, 2020


We are gonna kill a whole lot of white motherfuckers and their sell out Asian bitches.

The men who harass me know three things: I’m Chinese-American, my husband is white, and our son is multiracial. You hate Asian men, they insist; you hate your own child. You hate yourself. I once received 27 tweets — calling me everything from “irrelevant” to “liar” to “coward” to “neglectful gaslighting mother” — in 48 hours, from one person. I save these messages in a folder on my computer to document the abuse. Whenever I upgrade my laptop, I copy them over, little packets of poison I must keep and carry forever.

On Reddit, users speculate freely about Asian women’s sexual relationships. “Perhaps she settled for a black guy because she couldn’t snag a white boyfriend?” suggests a thread on writer Jenn Fang, who is the founder of the Asian-American blog Reappropriate — and is married to a black man. Another reads: “She probably dated a village of White guys before she dated the black guy to be ‘edgy’ and further her SJW career.”

Other times, the implied violence is more subtle. About half the women I spoke with shared messages in which harassers called their children (or hypothetical children) “the next Elliot Rodger.” Elliot Rodger was a 22-year-old who killed 6 people and wounded 14 others near the UC Santa Barbara campus in 2014 — leaving behind a “manifesto” blaming his mixed-race heritage and rejection by women as his motive — and the harassers invoke his name frequently as an argument against interracial dating and multiracial children.

Officially, AZNidentity describes itself as “a Pan Asian (East, Southeast, South, Central) community against all forms of anti Asian racism.” Though some of the posts on the forum do focus on Asian identity and fighting racism, on the day I checked, 18 of the 30 most recent posts — and 20 of the 30 top posts of all time — explicitly discussed Asian women’s choice of sexual partners. Derogatory and misogynistic language is common: “Lu,” “self-hating AF” [Asian female], “colonial mentality,” “white worshipping.”

To this community, it’s a scarcity model: Asian women who succeed are accused of succeeding “at the expense of” Asian men. The worst scarcity, they believe, is in the dating pool: Asian women who “marry out” are perpetuating the stereotype that Asian men are undesirable. (The reverse, however, is not true — relationships between Asian men and white women are celebrated, with AZNidentity even crowdfunding a porno based on such a couple.) Asian women who have mixed children, it’s assumed, will raise them to prefer non-Asians, perpetuating the cycle.

“I will fight anyone who wants to emasculate Asian men,” YA author Ellen Oh wrote me. “But I won’t do it at the expense of misogynistic hate toward my sisters. There are many enlightened Asian males out there who are able to see that Asian women who promote women’s rights, including the right to date and marry whoever the hell they want, are not the enemy.”

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I can’t figure out why the ladies didn’t like him??

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There's a whole subreddit called HAPAS (Asian Pacific Halfies) full of self-loathing individuals, there's rarely anything positive on it.
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r/aznidentity on Reddit is a definite toxic stew. Here's one of the latest posts. :stir:

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Let them hate themselves, if it makes them happy!
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Seems to be just a normal American moronic mindset, like we see every day in the news. I was married to a Lao lady for 25 years in NZ, never came across anything like that, in her community or mine. We traveled together in Europe and lived in Vietnam, spent a lot of time with her rellies in Laos and Thailand, never got so much as a funny look. Never went to PRC though, maybe its different there. But certainly the bloody Seppos appear to have the market cornered on all kinds of hating. I hope Trump gets reelected...they deserve the bastard.
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lagrange wrote: Tue Nov 03, 2020 12:14 am Seems to be just a normal American moronic mindset, like we see every day in the news. I was married to a Lao lady for 25 years in NZ, never came across anything like that, in her community or mine. We traveled together in Europe and lived in Vietnam, spent a lot of time with her rellies in Laos and Thailand, never got so much as a funny look. Never went to PRC though, maybe its different there. But certainly the bloody Seppos appear to have the market cornered on all kinds of hating. I hope Trump gets reelected...they deserve the bastard.
That’s not what my Maori mates have told me. They seem to have an incredible list of complaints about racism in NZ and the white folks there.

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This is as one blogger here correctly pointed out a part of the everyday racism in ... and doesn't happen much in Cambodia. Infact many women and ..... their wider family are better off after marrying a Barang. So you have to keep in mind that this Report came from a New York based website and reflects the situation there, not here ! I suggest you move this thread to "the Rest of the World" section.
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