The Khmer way of love.
Re: The Khmer way of love.
I didn't pay one. Nor would I.
My wife didn't "want to be sold" in her words.
So there was no issue.
My best pal here, who is a Khmer guy, didn't pay any bride price either. Nor was he asked for one.
Some people here have actually entered the 21st century. You just have to find them.
They don't think foreigners are rich.They think all foreigners are very rich.
They just think they're suckers.
They're often correct.
Re: The Khmer way of love.
aggro wrote: ↑Tue Aug 04, 2020 2:41 pmI didn't pay one. Nor would I.
My wife didn't "want to be sold" in her words.
So there was no issue.
My best pal here, who is a Khmer guy, didn't pay any bride price either. Nor was he asked for one.
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I still don't think we have a clear definition of what entails (bride price)
Did you or your Khmer friend pay for the wedding? Is paying for the wedding considered bride price?
Do you consider giving an amount of money ( $10.000,5.000,2.000) to her parents purely as a gift not contributing to the wedding as a bride price?
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Re: The Khmer way of love.
True. Cambodians actually bluff a lot. That is they say you have to pay a certain amount, to see if the foreigner is gullible enough to pay it. A lot of foreigners think, we are in Cambodia so we have to do things their way and make them happy. The Cambodians think, foreigners are very gullible. So the scams continue.
The reality is, most foreigners do have more money than ordinary Cambodian people. But most foreigners in Cambodia are not rich.
Cambodians don't normally give money to people other than family, except small amounts to beggars. They think foreigners think like them. When they see foreigners giving money to poor Cambodians, they do think they have a lot of money, because they have money to give to people who are not family. They don't understand the kindness of foreigners, and how people who are not rich, help the poor. Because so many foreigners have given money to the poor, they think all foreigners are rich.
A large proportion of Cambodians think that foreigners think like them. A large proportion of foreigners think that Cambodians think like them. Foreigners who speak the language and have spent a lot of time with Cambodians, have a better understanding of how Cambodians think. Cambodians who have lived in another country, have a better understanding of how foreigners think.
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Re: The Khmer way of love.
I think the definition is very clear.Kohker wrote: ↑Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:44 pmI still don't think we have a clear definition of what entails (bride price)
Did you or your Khmer friend pay for the wedding? Is paying for the wedding considered bride price?
Do you consider giving an amount of money ( $10.000,5.000,2.000) to her parents purely as a gift not contributing to the wedding as a bride price?
No. No.
Yes.
Re: The Khmer way of love.
Thank you aggro for clearing that up.aggro wrote: ↑Tue Aug 04, 2020 5:29 pmI think the definition is very clear.Kohker wrote: ↑Tue Aug 04, 2020 4:44 pmI still don't think we have a clear definition of what entails (bride price)
Did you or your Khmer friend pay for the wedding? Is paying for the wedding considered bride price?
Do you consider giving an amount of money ( $10.000,5.000,2.000) to her parents purely as a gift not contributing to the wedding as a bride price?
No. No.
Yes.
But did you do the whole 3 day wedding and who paid?
Thank you for your response.
Re: The Khmer way of love.
My wife told me very early on she hated going to weddings even when she was a kid. Her mom later told me she remembers my wife crying when asked to go to a cousins wedding at age six or seven. She didn't like noise, gossip or being surrounded by drunks. She still doesn't. More reasons why she is my wife.
My friend did a nice little reception that lasted a few hours at a hall in Phnom Penh a few years ago. His family and the bride's family split the cost. His family does okay financially. Hers is not bad either. They have something to do with the rice industry in Battambang. The wedding was pretty good. I distinctly remember the music was played at a level that actually allowed guests to converse at normal voice. The bride wore a white dress, but they didn't exchange rings. They didn't do any of the traditional stuff with chanting and the strings and all that. They weren't interested. My friend and his wife both have an uncharitable view of monks that I won't repeat here.
They have a 2 year old baby boy now, and they run a little wholesale company that does okay. They share all the money and they really seem to love to each other. He doesn't cheat on her or go out to beer gardens and stuff like most other guys I've known. They're like best friends. The baby looks Chinese though. And neither parent does. So I constantly joke with him about it.
Re: The Khmer way of love.
Thank you for that story, it's nice to know other people's lives in Cambodia varies as much as mine.
Thank you sir.
Thank you sir.
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