Ex daughters wedding
- John Bingham
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Re: Ex daughters wedding
What's the big deal? It sounds like some of the family still like you. Weddings are boring but all you have to do is turn up with a few dollars in the envelope and then enjoy the food and drink and dancing. It's not like they are about to kidnap you and torture you for your PIN. Chill out and enjoy yourself.
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- phuketrichard
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I understand its not HIS child but he was part of her life for 6-7 years. The most formative years of her life.IraHayes wrote: ↑Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:48 pmNd their level of reading comprehension amazes me too..phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:02 pmWTF>>>
why not be involved in ur daughters life,? just cause you an the ex fell out is no reason to abandon ur kid you raised for years.
some people on here i am amazed at how they think
Let’s see.
1. It’s not his daughter. He met the mother when the daughter was 11
2. The spilt was absolute with no further contact by either side for a year.
3. Faxs’ point was that the OP has no intention of being a part of the girls life in the future so why give her the impression he cared.
Richards reply reads like the OP abandoned the mother of “his” child which is clearly not the case. No info has been provided on the closeness of the step daughter relationship but I am guessing it wasn’t that close and would certainly have been soured by the scorned ex wife. It’s women’s only recourse in a confrontation. Men sort it out with physical violence while women up use malicious gossip and character assassination to achieve their goals. So yeah, what relationship the op had with the girl is now dust.
Surely he must have some feelings towards the girl, even if he an the ex are bitter enemies.
Its only a wedding and him being their might mean alot to the daughter
than again, maybe i am completely bonkers and the daughter hates him for leaving.
we will never know
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Re: Ex daughters wedding
A lot of us are happily marriedAnchor Moy wrote: ↑Sat Jan 11, 2020 7:58 pm Lol. Comments are raining down from the truly happily married posters here.
The OP wife put his face in the dirt and then has the gall....
It's a no-brainer.
The prospective groom has not even come to see him, or any attempt at a face saver from what he has told us.
I would only go with two vastly prettier younger women than the ex as my escort.
Re: Ex daughters wedding
The girl was 17 when he broke up with the mother. If she cared so much a 17 year old is old enough to stay in contact and make it obvious.
On the contrary, the mother probably never told the rest of the family about the breakup one year ago and now doesn’t want to lose face at the wedding.
You’ve lived too long in Thailand to throw your hands in the air and say that we will never know. This is face culture 101.
Re: Ex daughters wedding
My point remains. Who is asking OP to attend the wedding? Ex or ex-step-daughter? If the relationship with step-daughter was maintained, then up to the OP. If it is the ex that is pursuing, then I would give it a very wide berth.
Re: Ex daughters wedding
From the OP "messages your daughters getting married this date they want their father at the wedding" - not "Im getting married"
That's why most are siding with keep clear...
Re: Ex daughters wedding
The kids hated speaking English refused to learn. Talking face to face was OK but a phone call was short and easily misunderstood
What gutted me is the EX told her town I'm no good. Based on that I'll look like an idiot turning up.
Other than money being the motivator like the mother losing face somehow in Khmer culture is what I'm asking
What gutted me is the EX told her town I'm no good. Based on that I'll look like an idiot turning up.
Other than money being the motivator like the mother losing face somehow in Khmer culture is what I'm asking
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Stop worrying about the mother losing face.
She ruined your good name among her townfolk.
Think about YOUR FACE..
Don't go there under any circumstances.
Full wallet.. Empty wallet...gift...
Don't feel one iota of guilt.
She is playing you.
What face is she saving if you show up?
Don't listen to these people advising you to go.
My wife gets asked to weddings and house warmings by people she grew up with in Kapong Cham all the time. Cousins, nieces, friends. etc.
She was very poor and motherless as a kid.
She goes and gets hurt when people don't talk to her.
I begged her to stop going and setting herself up to be hurt by the same people that treated her like shit when she was a kid.
I give you the same advice Sir.
Don't Go!
She ruined your good name among her townfolk.
Think about YOUR FACE..
Don't go there under any circumstances.
Full wallet.. Empty wallet...gift...
Don't feel one iota of guilt.
She is playing you.
What face is she saving if you show up?
Don't listen to these people advising you to go.
My wife gets asked to weddings and house warmings by people she grew up with in Kapong Cham all the time. Cousins, nieces, friends. etc.
She was very poor and motherless as a kid.
She goes and gets hurt when people don't talk to her.
I begged her to stop going and setting herself up to be hurt by the same people that treated her like shit when she was a kid.
I give you the same advice Sir.
Don't Go!
- Sweet Lemon
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Re: Ex daughters wedding
fax wrote: ↑Sat Jan 11, 2020 8:41 pm
It’s not his daughter. It is his ex girlfriend’s daughter from an earlier relationship with somebody else, alas his ex stepdaughter at most. The girl was 11 when he started dating her mother.
Of course he should be involved in his kid’s life. This is not his kid.
I have learned from this website and TOF that it is customary when an expat male begins dating a local woman that within two weeks he will refer to her as his "missus" and refer to her children as "my kids."
Last edited by Sweet Lemon on Sun Jan 12, 2020 8:49 am, edited 1 time in total.
Re: Ex daughters wedding
Thanks everyone reading this has made my morning
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CEO can be funny sometimes
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