Is this ethical?
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Haha, this is interesting.Anthony's Weiner wrote: ↑Sat Nov 23, 2019 5:44 am
Researchers have found that people show a greater stress response when lying in a second language because it is already more challenging to speak the second language and lying increases the cognitive stress.
Problem is no matter that I tell the truth, Khmer ladies still think I am lying. I mentioned before they don’t believe me when I say I had never had a Cambodian girlfriend. It’s because I speak Khmer to them.
What can science recommend? Keep telling the truth or start lying that yes, I did have a Cambodian girlfriend but we broke up long ago? And I am not ready to give up speaking Khmer to them because it’s part of the fun for me when being in another country.
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Told my daughter when she was around 4 and amazed that a grown up would lie for any reason
Once you start lying you have to constantly remember what you said and you will be caught out eventually..
When you tell the truth, nothing to remember, as its the truth
Once you start lying you have to constantly remember what you said and you will be caught out eventually..
When you tell the truth, nothing to remember, as its the truth
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He dates a khmer woman for a few months then imposes this test on her to determine her motivation for being with him.
I couldn't help thinking.... Why the need for this?
The reason seems to be
The test also suggests the guy does not know or would not normally find out until much, much later.
I would have thought that one could/would be able to discern a woman's motivations by what she says and how she acts that would serve as indicators or tell tale signs right from the start anyway?
I couldn't help thinking.... Why the need for this?
The reason seems to be
It sounds to me like the guy is looking for a shortcut so as not to waste any more time on the said woman and can move on quickly to another. In other words, he's not prepared to commit too much time and effort.he's grateful that he's learned something about her now rather than further down the line.
The test also suggests the guy does not know or would not normally find out until much, much later.
I would have thought that one could/would be able to discern a woman's motivations by what she says and how she acts that would serve as indicators or tell tale signs right from the start anyway?
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Ethical. Hhhmmmm sometimes i wonder is anything ethical in Cambodia. I married a khmer lady. I didnt realise i was also marrying mother,father,brotherand 3 sisters.xandreu wrote: ↑Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:32 pm I was recently chatting to someone who explained to me how he goes about deciding if the Khmer women he meets are keepers or not.
He says that he'll date a woman for a couple of months, get to know her, let her know that he's not exactly rich but is doing ok, and see where the relationship goes.
If it seems to be going ok, after a couple of months, he'll invent a story which puts him in a very negative financial situation. Usually something along the lines of a member of his family back home becoming very sick, and he has to start sending money back to help out. He'll make out that he can just about afford it, but he'll have to do things like find much cheaper alternative accommodation, stop eating / drinking out and basically cut right back on his (their) living expenses.
He keeps this up for a few weeks and gauges how his new girlfriend reacts to the new situation. He said many of them will find excuses to leave him, in which case, he's grateful that he's learned something about her now rather than further down the line.
If she sticks by him and is prepared to weather the storm so to speak, he knows she's a keeper. Once he's satisfied that she's not with him just for money, he'll simply say that the family member has recovered and all's back to normal.
I'm torn between thinking that this is genius and thinking that this is a pretty terrible thing to base a relationship on.
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Try dating with a girl from rich family, than you will find different result.
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It is amazing, foreigners don't date girls from rich families.
Then girls from rich families are all different individuals, some might be good, some might not.
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Foreigners date and marry women from rich and Okhna background.
Foreigners also date and marry Royal Family princesses.
High society women are also attracted to foreigners with high moral values and education, it’s not all about money.
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Foreigners also date and marry Royal Family princesses.
High society women are also attracted to foreigners with high moral values and education, it’s not all about money.
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It's obvious you did not check with other members married to Khmer woman first before you got married ?Kratom123 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 23, 2019 10:34 amEthical. Hhhmmmm sometimes i wonder is anything ethical in Cambodia. I married a khmer lady. I didnt realise i was also marrying mother,father,brotherand 3 sisters.xandreu wrote: ↑Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:32 pm I was recently chatting to someone who explained to me how he goes about deciding if the Khmer women he meets are keepers or not.
He says that he'll date a woman for a couple of months, get to know her, let her know that he's not exactly rich but is doing ok, and see where the relationship goes.
If it seems to be going ok, after a couple of months, he'll invent a story which puts him in a very negative financial situation. Usually something along the lines of a member of his family back home becoming very sick, and he has to start sending money back to help out. He'll make out that he can just about afford it, but he'll have to do things like find much cheaper alternative accommodation, stop eating / drinking out and basically cut right back on his (their) living expenses.
He keeps this up for a few weeks and gauges how his new girlfriend reacts to the new situation. He said many of them will find excuses to leave him, in which case, he's grateful that he's learned something about her now rather than further down the line.
If she sticks by him and is prepared to weather the storm so to speak, he knows she's a keeper. Once he's satisfied that she's not with him just for money, he'll simply say that the family member has recovered and all's back to normal.
I'm torn between thinking that this is genius and thinking that this is a pretty terrible thing to base a relationship on.
Cambodia,,,, Don't fall in love with her.
Like the spoilt child she is, she will not be happy till she destroys herself from within and breaks your heart.
Like the spoilt child she is, she will not be happy till she destroys herself from within and breaks your heart.
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Seems to me that the underlying questions are :
1- Do people from there lie more than people from here ?
2- Is it good to tell a lie in order to know the truth ?
1- It's a PTSD recovering country, and you look like an efficient potential victim, so expect to attract some mosquitoes, fair enough
2 Seems a good idea, but no. Why raise the suspicion first ?
Playing tricks is ok toward a proven trickster, but not to be served as an appetizer for your relationship straightforward.
Takes time, but great feedback when you never lie. Good stuff go to you, because people can smell honesty, feel the vibe. Consciously or not.
Lying in a foreign crowded gossiping land would be like running through a minefield, blindfolded. An erratic run with a random end.
Values and precautions only.
1- Do people from there lie more than people from here ?
2- Is it good to tell a lie in order to know the truth ?
1- It's a PTSD recovering country, and you look like an efficient potential victim, so expect to attract some mosquitoes, fair enough
2 Seems a good idea, but no. Why raise the suspicion first ?
Playing tricks is ok toward a proven trickster, but not to be served as an appetizer for your relationship straightforward.
Takes time, but great feedback when you never lie. Good stuff go to you, because people can smell honesty, feel the vibe. Consciously or not.
Lying in a foreign crowded gossiping land would be like running through a minefield, blindfolded. An erratic run with a random end.
Values and precautions only.
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