Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
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Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
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Used to read these stories frequently but it's been quite a while. Wonder what's changed.
My favourite advice was to a victim of a bg stalker. The suggestion - sleep with her once more and give her $10 in the morning, she won't come back.
But, sorry OP, I don't think that will work in this case. Sounds to me that one of the problems is that she is embarrassed at having given it for free. If she gets dumped after that, cue major loss of face.
The easiest way to deal with it is to be just as crazy as her (many creative suggestions already) but I don't think your personality permits that.
Remember, it is just another form of power game - she feels (correctly) that she can dominate you.
The obvious solution is to give her money but that seems to be impossible. You need to find a way that lets her friends think you have given her money.
My favourite advice was to a victim of a bg stalker. The suggestion - sleep with her once more and give her $10 in the morning, she won't come back.
But, sorry OP, I don't think that will work in this case. Sounds to me that one of the problems is that she is embarrassed at having given it for free. If she gets dumped after that, cue major loss of face.
The easiest way to deal with it is to be just as crazy as her (many creative suggestions already) but I don't think your personality permits that.
Remember, it is just another form of power game - she feels (correctly) that she can dominate you.
The obvious solution is to give her money but that seems to be impossible. You need to find a way that lets her friends think you have given her money.
Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
Go see her parents and negotiate a settlement.THink of it as severance pay
Failing that go see some tuk tuk drivers and ask them to speak to her quietly
Failing that go see some tuk tuk drivers and ask them to speak to her quietly
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so what is it that she wants from you, she must have told you during these altercationsJamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:18 pmso what does she say to you when she is waiting outside your place or turning up at your school?nouseforaname wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:14 pm So far, no good advice just irrelevant questions. Vietnamese and Cambodian, she is relentless you have no idea, she is very well connected. I am not sure what she wants from me b/c she knows I have no money. Just a simple guy who is low key.
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Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
Jamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:32 pmso what is it that she wants from you, she must have told you during these altercationsJamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:18 pmso what does she say to you when she is waiting outside your place or turning up at your school?nouseforaname wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:14 pm So far, no good advice just irrelevant questions. Vietnamese and Cambodian, she is relentless you have no idea, she is very well connected. I am not sure what she wants from me b/c she knows I have no money. Just a simple guy who is low key.
She says she wants him back. The geniuses here are interpreting that to mean "I want money"
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so she turns up at the school shouting "nouseforaname... i want you back... please take me back... i lub you so mutt!!!"Cam Nivag wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:38 pmJamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:32 pmso what is it that she wants from you, she must have told you during these altercationsJamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:18 pmso what does she say to you when she is waiting outside your place or turning up at your school?nouseforaname wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:14 pm So far, no good advice just irrelevant questions. Vietnamese and Cambodian, she is relentless you have no idea, she is very well connected. I am not sure what she wants from me b/c she knows I have no money. Just a simple guy who is low key.
She says she wants him back. The geniuses here are interpreting that to mean "I want money"
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Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
1. Get a backbone.
2. You've got a "friend with benefits", enjoy when the spirit moves you.
3. Does she have any attractive friends? Then she can stalk her friend
4. Find another girlfriend.
IF you can't do any/all of the above then its time to pack up and move to Thailand or back to wherever home is.
If the first time she showed up you had smiled and made some sort of joke about how your always fighting off attractive women I suspect it would have also been the last time. But my real guess is that when you were first seeing her there was talk about family and moving and you became the golden ticket out of Cambodia. If so, you reap what you sow.
2. You've got a "friend with benefits", enjoy when the spirit moves you.
3. Does she have any attractive friends? Then she can stalk her friend
4. Find another girlfriend.
IF you can't do any/all of the above then its time to pack up and move to Thailand or back to wherever home is.
If the first time she showed up you had smiled and made some sort of joke about how your always fighting off attractive women I suspect it would have also been the last time. But my real guess is that when you were first seeing her there was talk about family and moving and you became the golden ticket out of Cambodia. If so, you reap what you sow.
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Post from the Facebook version of this thread:John Bingham wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 2:37 pmI hope for his sake she's not the proprietor of a certain cake shop.
Tom Steinmetz: Sounds so familiar to me
Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
Do you have mates? Have your mates go with you when you are likely to meet her. Have them tell her you have finished with her, you dont want her, and she is crazy for chasing you. Instead of one against one, she will be outnumbered and feel humiliated.
If you do lose your job, cut off all contact, and move to another town. If she finds you move again.
For those who have not experienced anything like this, some girls do things you wouldnt believe. This type of thing really does happen.
It is important to get her out of your life. Some men who have been put in jail as a result of false charges by ex girlfriends, and others have been beaten up by her brothers or friends.
If you do lose your job, cut off all contact, and move to another town. If she finds you move again.
For those who have not experienced anything like this, some girls do things you wouldnt believe. This type of thing really does happen.
It is important to get her out of your life. Some men who have been put in jail as a result of false charges by ex girlfriends, and others have been beaten up by her brothers or friends.
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Re: Stalker ex-girlfriend (Help)
This was my summation: there was talk about moving to the USA, and he was the golden ticket. But now, he's not. Nouseforaname: confirm or deny?TWY wrote: ↑Tue Feb 26, 2019 9:42 pm 1. Get a backbone.
2. You've got a "friend with benefits", enjoy when the spirit moves you.
3. Does she have any attractive friends? Then she can stalk her friend
4. Find another girlfriend.
IF you can't do any/all of the above then its time to pack up and move to Thailand or back to wherever home is.
If the first time she showed up you had smiled and made some sort of joke about how your always fighting off attractive women I suspect it would have also been the last time. But my real guess is that when you were first seeing her there was talk about family and moving and you became the golden ticket out of Cambodia. If so, you reap what you sow.
And also, you need to get out of the city she's in. You shat in your own nest, sadly. She sounds like the terminator, and she's the alpha in this situation. You've probably taken her back before, so why not this time? She's upping the ante until you cave.
Move, to a different country if you must. Also, NO conversations, as any talk with her friends will be considered negotiations. Cut all contact. If you need to pay her some severance money, arrange that too.
"Love and Loss in Cambodia: a memoir" available on Amazon.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578537788
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578537788
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