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Re: SERIOUS QUESTION

Post by Samouth » Mon Jun 01, 2015 4:46 pm

Jamie_Lambo wrote:i dont have kids, girlfriend, wife, house, a lot of money etc..
i do have a good successful job (when i actually work)
i was successful in kickboxing/boxing
ive traveled to 21 countries and lived in cambodia for most of the past 2.5 years
i believe ive lived a very successful life, life is there to be lived, its not the amount of years in your life but the life in your years that count
ive done more things by the age of 28 than most do in a life time,
although i am getting to the age where i want to feel a little more settled
Actually i also don't have all of those things too, no kid, girlfriend, wife, house or money. I don't have any problem in daily life as i have job and enough salary to support myself, however i just want to get a bit more for life.

I don't think my job is bad, but i just feel like i have been doing in the same position for too long, i should do something different. Wow Jamie, i have to behave well with you. :)

Travelling is what i will have to do before i get married. So far, i have only been to Vietnam. This was the only foreign country i have visited.
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If you know a lot, know enough to make them respect you, if you are stupid, be stupid enough so they can pity you.
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Re: SERIOUS QUESTION

Post by bvanfossen » Tue Jun 05, 2018 8:57 pm

Human nature, we are never content. The millionaire that owns everything is still not content and doesn't feel as if they have it all.
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Re: SERIOUS QUESTION

Post by clutchcargo » Wed Jun 06, 2018 8:50 am

Rama wrote:
Sat May 30, 2015 1:11 am
Sounds like you've been successful by your own criteria and through your own hard work GrinchSR. Well done.

My advice for Samouth, for what it's worth would be to set goals. You need to know what you want to achieve and then you can measure your own personal success by how successful you've been in achieving them...also it's a long lonely life, and you just keep on trying to achieve your goals and never giving up. Heck, you might not achieve them but you'll get close to them if you believe in yourself.

I'm not American, but I sincerely believe goals are vitality important and useful.

"If you want to live a happy life tie it to goals, not people or things"

They give you a sense of purpose and also you'll make your own luck whilst you pursue them that will help you along.

"The purpose of life, is a life of purpose."
Yes, seems to me Americans/westerners are very much goal orientated. I guess it's fine to have goals and purpose in life.

However, it is also problematic and a cause of a lot of unhappiness. Once you start to constantly strive towards goals, your focus shifts from the present to the future and your happiness starts to be measured/based on how well you are going in achieving them. Then you lose sight of the enjoyable things you do in the present day.

There's a lot of unhappiness in the western world including stress, anxiety and depression. What is the cause of anxiety? Unrealised expectations. When you don't get what you want (as opposed to what you need), don't achieve your plans, you try to keep up with the Jones's etc And expectations are tied to plans and goals.

One thing I have found too in life is that often the best laid plans are dashed as life tends to throw curved balls/unexpected events at you..so you find yourself having to readjust your expectations.

The other thing is.. what if you don't know what you want out of life? What makes you happy? What you regard as successful? When I was in high school some of my friends knew they wanted to be an engineer, architect whatever and went on to do that.. Many others including myself had no idea. When you are young I think it's a case of self discovery and finding oneself. Maybe try many pursuits, hobbies, experiences etc and see what you are drawn to/good at/enjoy and just go with the flow. Let your heart rather than your head draw you..

Another poster mentioned don't forget to enjoy the journey...I think this is the best advice...if you are too focused on your goals and achieving them, there is the risk of not enjoying the journey.
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Re: SERIOUS QUESTION

Post by Jamie_Lambo » Wed Jun 06, 2018 12:42 pm

clutchcargo wrote:
Wed Jun 06, 2018 8:50 am
Rama wrote:
Sat May 30, 2015 1:11 am
Sounds like you've been successful by your own criteria and through your own hard work GrinchSR. Well done.

My advice for Samouth, for what it's worth would be to set goals. You need to know what you want to achieve and then you can measure your own personal success by how successful you've been in achieving them...also it's a long lonely life, and you just keep on trying to achieve your goals and never giving up. Heck, you might not achieve them but you'll get close to them if you believe in yourself.

I'm not American, but I sincerely believe goals are vitality important and useful.

"If you want to live a happy life tie it to goals, not people or things"

They give you a sense of purpose and also you'll make your own luck whilst you pursue them that will help you along.

"The purpose of life, is a life of purpose."
Yes, seems to me Americans/westerners are very much goal orientated. I guess it's fine to have goals and purpose in life.

However, it is also problematic and a cause of a lot of unhappiness. Once you start to constantly strive towards goals, your focus shifts from the present to the future and your happiness starts to be measured/based on how well you are going in achieving them. Then you lose sight of the enjoyable things you do in the present day.

There's a lot of unhappiness in the western world including stress, anxiety and depression. What is the cause of anxiety? Unrealised expectations. When you don't get what you want (as opposed to what you need), don't achieve your plans, you try to keep up with the Jones's etc And expectations are tied to plans and goals.

One thing I have found too in life is that often the best laid plans are dashed as life tends to throw curved balls/unexpected events at you..so you find yourself having to readjust your expectations.

The other thing is.. what if you don't know what you want out of life? What makes you happy? What you regard as successful? When I was in high school some of my friends knew they wanted to be an engineer, architect whatever and went on to do that.. Many others including myself had no idea. When you are young I think it's a case of self discovery and finding oneself. Maybe try many pursuits, hobbies, experiences etc and see what you are drawn to/good at/enjoy and just go with the flow. Let your heart rather than your head draw you..

Another poster mentioned don't forget to enjoy the journey...I think this is the best advice...if you are too focused on your goals and achieving them, there is the risk of not enjoying the journey.
yeah good post
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