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Re: why you lie me?

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BklynBoy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:46 am
Jamie_Lambo wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:40 am
BklynBoy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:05 am Unsure if anyone else has had this experience---

When possibly making plans to meet up and things change --- some of my khmer friends (male/female) will be like.." why you lie me"

haha.. obviously i wasn't lying but they are interpreting it as a lie. Or do they realize its not a lie but don't have a strong enough grasp of the language so all they know how to express it as a lie?

I was trying to explain.. it just became to frustrating -- this was via text... maybe in person would of been different

thoughts?
the logic here is simple,
if you say something, and it doesnt happen, it means you lie...
never say anything unless you are certain it will happen, if plans change, be prepared for the wrath
you get used to it after a while
never make any promises
if you make promises that dont happen, you will never be forgiven

hahah that made me laugh... the bullshit guy part.... but on a serious note when people make plans,,,things change, shit comes up..anything can happen.. doesn't that happen in khmer culture?
when someone makes a commitment but then somethign comes up? you reach out and explain.... doesn't that happen in any culture?
or am i taking this shit waaaay to serious?

also @lambo... how can you be certain anything will happen? in life, shit comes up.. people get delayed.. plans change or modified... but i hear you on getting used to it..after a certain point, i just was like whatever..and its not only bar girls... some dude said i told him we would hang out..which i did... i think one time i said i am going out if he wants to meet at bar... he couldnt make it... then later said i lied cause we didn't hang out.. i said dude.. you have a mouth also right? you can ask me to make plans... don't put it all on me.. lol wtf.. anyway thats that..
in the past 5 years if i had a beer for everytime i heard "Bong Kohok" id probably be an alcoholic
ive even got "Mindael Kohok Mindael Yom" (never lie never cry) tattooed across my wrist in Khmer lol
as i say you get used to it
its the same with most things out here, especially with the girls, they take everything you say seriously or at face value
so if you say something, they will trust you that it will happen
if it doesnt happen, then that trust has been broken
thats why you are seen as a liar

if your making plans where there could be a possibility of something coming up,
adding words like "i will try" or "i cant promise, but will do my best" will at least give them the idea to take it less seriously
if im making plans for the future i will be vague of the date "will meet soon, maybe 1 day next week" then organise the date closer to the time
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taabarang wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:51 am That is of course a one way street in Cambodia.

haha many things can be that, espesh when dealing with bargirls :facepalm:
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Bklyn Boy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:46 am
some dude said i told him we would hang out..which i did... i think one time i said i am going out if he wants to meet at bar... he couldnt make it... then later said i lied cause we didn't hang out.. i said dude.. you have a mouth also right? you can ask me to make plans... don't put it all on me.. lol wtf.. anyway thats that..
Was that when you were you were following No Joke Howard around like a lost puppy?
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John Bingham wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 11:06 am
Bklyn Boy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:46 am
some dude said i told him we would hang out..which i did... i think one time i said i am going out if he wants to meet at bar... he couldnt make it... then later said i lied cause we didn't hang out.. i said dude.. you have a mouth also right? you can ask me to make plans... don't put it all on me.. lol wtf.. anyway thats that..
Was that when you were you were following No Joke Howard around like a lost puppy?
hahaha i wasnt following him around... . i was not a lost puppy either.. actually we didn't really hang like that.. i invited him to hang to go out to the bars etc but he never made it... i was referring to a khmer guy.
your buggin out about the lost puppy thing...but whatever .. maybe i can follow you around?
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Jamie_Lambo wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 11:02 am
BklynBoy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:46 am
Jamie_Lambo wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:40 am
BklynBoy wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:05 am Unsure if anyone else has had this experience---

When possibly making plans to meet up and things change --- some of my khmer friends (male/female) will be like.." why you lie me"

haha.. obviously i wasn't lying but they are interpreting it as a lie. Or do they realize its not a lie but don't have a strong enough grasp of the language so all they know how to express it as a lie?

I was trying to explain.. it just became to frustrating -- this was via text... maybe in person would of been different

thoughts?
the logic here is simple,
if you say something, and it doesnt happen, it means you lie...
never say anything unless you are certain it will happen, if plans change, be prepared for the wrath
you get used to it after a while
never make any promises
if you make promises that dont happen, you will never be forgiven

hahah that made me laugh... the bullshit guy part.... but on a serious note when people make plans,,,things change, shit comes up..anything can happen.. doesn't that happen in khmer culture?
when someone makes a commitment but then somethign comes up? you reach out and explain.... doesn't that happen in any culture?
or am i taking this shit waaaay to serious?

also @lambo... how can you be certain anything will happen? in life, shit comes up.. people get delayed.. plans change or modified... but i hear you on getting used to it..after a certain point, i just was like whatever..and its not only bar girls... some dude said i told him we would hang out..which i did... i think one time i said i am going out if he wants to meet at bar... he couldnt make it... then later said i lied cause we didn't hang out.. i said dude.. you have a mouth also right? you can ask me to make plans... don't put it all on me.. lol wtf.. anyway thats that..
in the past 5 years if i had a beer for everytime i heard "Bong Kohok" id probably be an alcoholic
ive even got "Mindael Kohok Mindael Yom" (never lie never cry) tattooed across my wrist in Khmer lol
as i say you get used to it
its the same with most things out here, especially with the girls, they take everything you say seriously or at face value
so if you say something, they will trust you that it will happen
if it doesnt happen, then that trust has been broken
thats why you are seen as a liar

if your making plans where there could be a possibility of something coming up,
adding words like "i will try" or "i cant promise, but will do my best" will at least give them the idea to take it less seriously
if im making plans for the future i will be vague of the date "will meet soon, maybe 1 day next week" then organise the date closer to the time
makes sense... i think i even did that as well.. i was just asking to hear someone else's perspective on the "you lying" thing..
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OP new to the bar scene eh?
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bolueeleh wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 11:31 am OP new to the bar scene eh?
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Jamie_Lambo wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 5:51 pm
bolueeleh wrote: Tue Feb 21, 2017 11:31 am OP new to the bar scene eh?
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Please tell me she's a porn actress being interviewed on Howards Stern or some such radio show? :please:
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she is cute
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