Therapist wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote: I never heard anyone call men that butterflies. I don't know any bar gir or bar boy. Just wonder why women are called by bad words.

I agree that it is a double standard and it’s not fair. In the West and in some north east asian countries there is greater push for equality between the sexes and including which words are used.

Now, in some American universities professors have to ask what pronoun the students wish to be called and there is a push to find gender neutral pronouns instead of he or she. Personally, I don’t understand what’s going on over there in American anymore, but gender equality is important in Cambodia and I realize things are unfair.

However, maybe because you and your generation know it is not fair, you and your generation will be able to change things in Cambodian society in the future?

If it makes you feel better you can call me butterfly although I am not one; I am a moth.

Anchor Moy wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:[
I never heard anyone call men that butterflies. I don't know any bar gir or bar boy. Just wonder why women are called by bad words.

Little salary, for the same behaviour women are judged differently from men because it is the men who decide what is acceptable in most societies. If it was the women who decided what is or is not acceptable, then things would be diffferent.
Whatever, I personally don't think that it is ok to call any woman names because she chooses to sleep with whoever. I don't think that is any of my business.
But as I said before, I think that " butterfly" has a different meaning in Khmer than English. In English it's not so bad.

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Anchor Moy wrote: I personally don't think that it is ok to call any woman names because she chooses to sleep with whoever.

What if she is already married, as in the OP?

prahkeitouj wrote:It makes sense when you explain it. Sneak is not an offensive word for Cambodians. but if you call a man " Ah Veak", it means the man is stupid that doesn't know his girl is cheating him. Veak is same name of a kind of sneak, cobra.

Samouth wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:It makes sense when you explain it. Sneak is not an offensive word for Cambodians. but if you call a man " Ah Veak", it means the man is stupid that doesn't know his girl is cheating him. Veak is same name of a kind of sneak, cobra.

continue from little salary explanation, it is really bad when someone called you ah veak and every men actually wished not to be called ah veak. This word is really offensive. As little salary explained it means you are stupid and you don't know that your wife or girlfriend cheated you and even though you knew that she cheated, you wouldn't do anything and just let her do it, because you are afraid that you will lose her.

Veak here literally mean ladle. Cambodians believed that ladle is just a thing that people could use to do whatever they want and they can decide how they want to use it. We used it to symbolize the stupid man.

Should we have another thread: have you ever called Ah Veak?

prahkeitouj wrote:I think I wrote Ah Veak wrong. Can you write it easy way to read , Samouth?