John Bingham wrote: ↑Sun Jun 07, 2020 1:32 am

Brody wrote: ↑Sat Jun 06, 2020 4:33 pm

Username Taken wrote: ↑Sat Jun 06, 2020 3:51 pm Ridiculous levels of revenge.
Is there a solution to the mentality of some of these people.

I think there's a Khmer term for disproportionate vengeance or revenge.......something like "kome" or "kum"

I think this mindset pervades most of the culture here.

Individuals are given great allowances for behavior and actions here. More so than in the West.

In Western cultures, more or less, if you transgress a cultural norm, more often than not, you're going to hear about it from someone right away.

Displeasure gets vented and people go their separate ways after.

While in Cambodia, we see them as smiling and easy going, but in reality when someone does something shitty, they'll smile and just swallow the resentment.......until that resentment builds up and it reaches that unknown tipping point..........and then shit goes from 0 to 100.

Just my thoughts on it.......beware the smile, ha ha.

This paper describes the practice well:

A Head for an Eye: Revenge in the Cambodian Genocide

To outsiders, and often to ourselves, Cambodia looked peaceful enough. The farmers bound to their planting cycles. Fisherman living on their boats....The wide boulevards and the flowering trees of ournational capital, Phnom Penh. All that beauty and serenity was visible to the eye. But inside, hidden fromsight the entire time, was kum. Kum is a Cambodian word for a particularly Cambodian mentality of revenge—to be precise, a long-standing grudge leading to revenge much more damaging than the original injury.If I hit you with my fist and you wait five years and then shoot me in the back one dark night, that is kum...Cambodians know all about kum. It is the infection that grows on our national soul.
—Haing Ngor,
A Cambodian Odyssey

https://www.academia.edu/5661563/A_Head ... n_Genocide