pootylicious wrote: ↑Thu Mar 17, 2022 1:24 pm havent read through the thread - do people here still need blood donated? wheres the closest place i can go ? (i live towards the original aeon mall)

Not at this moment in time. Thanks for asking.

Nak, had over a week at her family home in the countryside, unfortunately they don't want her there, too the extent she was only aloud to sleep with the livestock under the main household, not allowed to use the shower or toilet but the land behind the house.
She bought her son a smartphone, he didn't like it because it was not state of the art, she had to buy him another, he helped her with her daily meditation. I arrived at the family home on the early evening of the 6th day, the members of the family bolted the house door not to even acknowledge my arrival. I took Nak to stay at a hotel down the road from her childhood home. It was actually Nak who sold all her own cattle to have the present home built, and 3 years ago I paid for a new roof putting on the house.
We stayed at the hotel for 3 nights', Nak would still return daily to the family home, seeing her son, but unfortunately at a cost, giving monies here and there, $50 per time, when she stopped doing so, her son disappeared with his new girlfriend. He has rung her since but only for money, and her mother also wants Nak to pay for medicines because she has become sick also.

Nak had not faired very well back in Phnom Penh on her return. Today she left to go back to Kampong Cham to her half-sister's home, another family member whom is outcast. I have arranged with the family to have a self-contained room built on the lower level of the house, with hopes of keeping Naks wellbeing in mind.

What a way to treat family.

atst wrote: ↑Thu Mar 17, 2022 2:50 pm What a way to treat family.

Yea no wonder houses be burning, Jesus Christ on a stick that ranks pretty high on worst families ever.

AndyKK wrote: ↑Thu Mar 17, 2022 2:33 pm Nak, had over a week at her family home in the countryside, unfortunately they don't want her there, too the extent she was only aloud to sleep with the livestock under the main household, not allowed to use the shower or toilet but the land behind the house.
She bought her son a smartphone, he didn't like it because it was not state of the art, she had to buy him another, he helped her with her daily meditation. I arrived at the family home on the early evening of the 6th day, the members of the family bolted the house door not to even acknowledge my arrival. I took Nak to stay at a hotel down the road from her childhood home. It was actually Nak who sold all her own cattle to have the present home built, and 3 years ago I paid for a new roof putting on the house.
We stayed at the hotel for 3 nights', Nak would still return daily to the family home, seeing her son, but unfortunately at a cost, giving monies here and there, $50 per time, when she stopped doing so, her son disappeared with his new girlfriend. He has rung her since but only for money, and her mother also wants Nak to pay for medicines because she has become sick also.

Nak had not faired very well back in Phnom Penh on her return. Today she left to go back to Kampong Cham to her half-sister's home, another family member whom is outcast. I have arranged with the family to have a self-contained room built on the lower level of the house, with hopes of keeping Naks wellbeing in mind.

I hope you’re talking about building under the “outcast” half sisters home? and not the “families” (I’m using the term family very loosely here)
If it was just you they were treating like shit, I’d say grin and bear it. But when it’s your wife also, I’d say fuck them, life’s too short (sadly) to be putting up with that bullshit.

atst wrote: ↑Thu Mar 17, 2022 2:50 pm What a way to treat family.

It could happen anywhere in the world. But it does shock me a little when it is here. And I don't want to dwell too much on the fact, because there will be the usual handful of members here who will brand me of being anti Cambodian, or at least making up their own stories to what they know nothing about and presume are facts.
Also, I will never forget how helpful members had to come to the needs of Nak when she needed the most, she and I will always be thankful to you all for your help.
Like I said when I had arrived at the family home, she did look to be better suited for the country lifestyle. It's always been an option too, to build a small house behind the large family house, the little bit of land that belongs to her, but I say little, because her brother had stollen half of it when he recently built his house there. Again, previous, Nak or I had funded part of the building works. Now his house lays empty, due to him moving back to is other house in Battambang.
I refused to build house on what is her land because I would just be a means of ATM to the whole family who don't care anyway, believe me this has caused so many disagreements between us over the years. Nak was self-sufficient at one time, being that of a low ranked officer in the military police. Her father was an immigration officer up to his death some years back, don't think Nak ever got over that, being that they we're close, and Nak being the eldest child was thought by his Muslim teachings. The other sisters and brother followed the mother in Buddhist ways.
There again was another worry of her situation, again for both of us! What would happen if she passed away here in the city?

My own health has been detreating of late, Nak has also picked up on this fact, it was probably the best answer to the ongoing problems, for me to fund the new room for her, where she will have at least one or two family members with her all of the time. Also, if she is feeling up to it, she can go and fish with her sisters Chinese fishing net, I remember having hours of fun with the two of them while they brought in the daily catch time after time, although just now I think its shell season.

I will keep the post going when I get new updates of the situation.

I think you should build the room for nak if you both think this is best for her, PP obviously isn't from the sounds of it.
I myself are very reluctant to spend money over here even to improve one's lifestyle, as it's dead money and like giving it away, whatever you do it's not yours. I know from my own experience nothing you do to improve others living standard is appreciated, because your barang you have money to much why you care giving it away.
I sometimes laugh at myself , example buying a stereo you know it's not yours once you bring it home so you go as cheap as possible, but if back home buying for your home nothing but the best, go figure!
Coming from a background of working and saving to improve one's lifestyle it's very hard to then freely give it away to lazy cnts
Good luck to you Andy and Nak these last few months have been terrible for you both, let's hope things change for the better.

atst wrote: ↑Thu Mar 17, 2022 5:12 pm I think you should build the room for nak if you both think this is best for her, PP obviously isn't from the sounds of it.
I myself are very reluctant to spend money over here even to improve one's lifestyle, as it's dead money and like giving it away, whatever you do it's not yours. I know from my own experience nothing you do to improve others living standard is appreciated, because your barang you have money to much why you care giving it away.
I sometimes laugh at myself , example buying a stereo you know it's not yours once you bring it home so you go as cheap as possible, but if back home buying for your home nothing but the best, go figure!
Coming from a background of working and saving to improve one's lifestyle it's very hard to then freely give it away to lazy cnts
Good luck to you Andy and Nak these last few months have been terrible for you both, let's hope things change for the better.

Quote - I myself are very reluctant to spend money over here even to improve one's lifestyle, as it's dead money and like giving it away, whatever you do it's not yours.

I could not agree with you more so, but atst, I must also disagree in a way of what most of us are, and I like to think that we are really caring barang, and when like me, you have been with that person day in and day out for 7 years and counting, life becomes very valued, more so with her having a terminal illness, time of life has unfortunately its own course.

It's not been the best of times for both of us, but she is my main concern, to get her through the illness the best possible way, and that I see is to give her medicine she needs and that of a caring environment, of where she is happy, where hopefully she will have comfort and peace of mind.

Update - I find myself at the present time to be ailinated by the family and the surounding community! Why you may ask, simply because of interference and opportunitists of outside parties.
I care for Nak's condition and that of her needs on a daily basis.
But the other day her sister was aproched by some person who has treated people in the past with the same condition has Nak's illness with 100% success rate, being a drip into the back of the hand at a low cost of $1000.
It took me a long time to explain that if that was the case of this medicine, the people would be recognized the world over, for their breakthrough of new medical science. But even so the locals now question my intentions for the wellbeing of Nak and more so monies.