TBH, i am not happy with my life.

Samouth wrote:TBH, i am not happy with my life.

Well here is a way to try and make it better. Stand in front of a big mirror and if you see someone in it, ask that person who is to blame for making you so unhappy. Then ask them what you can do to make your life happier . The guy in the mirror is probably a dumb shit and not only will he not understand but will not have an answer.

I guess there is only one person that's going to make your life happy, and that's you.

Duncan wrote:

Samouth wrote:TBH, i am not happy with my life.

Well here is a way to try and make it better. Stand in front of a big mirror and if you see someone in it, ask that person who is to blame for making you so unhappy. Then ask them what you can do to make your life happier . The guy in the mirror is probably a dumb shit and not only will he not understand but will not have an answer.

I guess there is only one person that's going to make your life happy, and that's you.

Samouth, I admire Duncan and his lifestyle; everything he said is true and they are words of wisdom to live by but I want to add a corollary for that scenario for later in your life…perhaps 5-15 years later in your life Samouth.

Same scenario:
Stand in front of a big mirror and if you see someone in it, ask that person who is to blame for making you so unhappy and you will hear the same answer that it is you to blame and that you are probably a dumb shit, but that voice will not be coming from your head but from your WIFE. And in this version she will say YOU do not understand and YOU can't answer and so she will explain this to her lawyer.

Bottomline Samouth, you are responsible for your “happiness” (hate that word) when are you single,

but if you’re married, it takes TWO to tango. So marry well….or stay single. (hint hint wink wink).

But Duncan is also right also that there is only one person who can make you happy and I guess that person for you Samouth is YOU, although, I am old and wise enough to know that for me, that person is Nana Ogura.

In seriousness Samouth, life doesn't have to be about happiness; there's a quiet contentment I feel that I can't call happiness and is certainly not unhappiness.

Therapist wrote:

Duncan wrote:

Samouth wrote:TBH, i am not happy with my life.

Well here is a way to try and make it better. Stand in front of a big mirror and if you see someone in it, ask that person who is to blame for making you so unhappy. Then ask them what you can do to make your life happier . The guy in the mirror is probably a dumb shit and not only will he not understand but will not have an answer.

I guess there is only one person that's going to make your life happy, and that's you.

Samouth, I admire Duncan and his lifestyle; everything he said is true and they are words of wisdom to live by but I want to add a corollary for that scenario for later in your life…perhaps 5-15 years later in your life Samouth.

Same scenario:
Stand in front of a big mirror and if you see someone in it, ask that person who is to blame for making you so unhappy and you will hear the same answer that it is you to blame and that you are probably a dumb shit, but that voice will not be coming from your head but from your WIFE. And in this version she will say YOU do not understand and YOU can't answer and so she will explain this to her lawyer.

Bottomline Samouth, you are responsible for your “happiness” (hate that word) when are you single,

but if you’re married, it takes TWO to tango. So marry well….or stay single. (hint hint wink wink).

But Duncan is also right also that there is only one person who can make you happy and I guess that person for you Samouth is YOU, although, I am old and wise enough to know that for me, that person is Nana Ogura.

In seriousness Samouth, life doesn't have to be about happiness; there's a quiet contentment I feel that I can't call happiness and is certainly not unhappiness.

agree with some of these comments Samouth, while other people can make you happy, and other things can make you happy, it is YOU that is responsible for what you allow in your life, it is only You that can change the coarse of your life, if things arent going right, you cant sit around hoping that things will pick up and change, it is always best to make the change yourself, it works in nearly all points of life whether it be work, relationships, friends, school, relying on other people will only bring you misery haha if you ever need a chat mate you know where i am, you know from out chats on FB you can talk to me about anything mate

It's worth noting that there are limits on individual happiness. The book, The Happiness Hypotheses (bought my copy in Bohr's in Phnom Penh for $3), is a good exploration of the scientific drivers of happiness (and includes some ideas of how you can influence your own levels of happiness - it's worth noting that stern chats in the mirror have not proven effective).

It shows that we all have a base level of happiness - some people's are higher, some lower and that we can increase our happiness or decrease it but also to different fixed maximum and minimum points. In short, when I'm very happy - you might be moderately (or barely) happy and vice-versa.

There is even a condition, well recognized though hard to diagnose, in which individual sufferers are unable to feel any kind of happiness - this can lead to such distress that suicide is almost a compulsion.

Samouth, you are only young mate. Happiness and contentment is a lot harder to find when you are young imo. You haven't gone through the truly bad times yet that make you appreciate the good times. You are only just starting to feel the world out and you have many unanswered questions and feelings. Some people manage to find what they are looking for eventually, some don't. I think you will. Don't rush it, embrace the lessons and most importantly - learn from them mate.
Back to the OP - I'm 99.9% happy at the moment. And right NOW, THIS moment, is all I give a fuk about!

Samouth wrote:TBH, i am not happy with my life.

This is not necessarily a bad thing at your age.
I don't think you should be satisfied with your life when you are 22. There should be more things in life that you want to experience. If you are not happy with how things are, then you will have to work out how you can change them. Taking action will make you grow as a person. Dissatisfaction is a good motive for making changes.

Just keep going and eventually you will get somewhere, but you may not end up where you expect. And as you get older, your choices become more restricted - no, you will never be a world famous singer, you will not discover a new planet or be a millionaire at 20. It actually simplifies your life once a lot of "possibilities" are ruled out.

I am quite surprised where I am right now, and I am really ok with the idea that I don't know where (in every sense) I will be in 5 years for example. I probably have more idea where I won't be.

When you feel unhappy, remember:

800 million people went to bed hungry last night

Millions suffer from no access to clean drinking water, healthcare, are displaced refugees, have no access to a decent education, are blind, handicapped, or mentally ill, and millions live in fear of their lives everyday.

Millions will die without ever knowing the joy of love or having a child, or the simple pleasure of free time.

Time to man up and realise how goddamned lucky we are.

Everyone is inspiring!!

OP I'm neither happy nor unhappy. Really fine with this balance.

Hello everyone

You guys have been so supportive and very inspiring.

I actually agreed with a lot of things you have mentioned above.

It is really true that I am very young and I have never faced many hard time in my life so far. So, I should not have felt bad about my life and I should just have lived the life and be happy with it.

I have been so privilege as I have no problems going to school. My family is really so supportive mentally and financially and they do value the education. As some Cambodians, they might have been forced by their parents to drop out school, to get a job and earn the money to support the whole family. I went to two universities and studied two different subjects at the same time. I did got partial scholarship, but my family still has to pay more money for my education.

I got a job when I was studying in year three and I was paid reasonable salary. Therefore, I should have proud of myself as not many Cambodian would have got the chance that I got.

However, as a human being, I believe that there is time when you feel so down and everything seem to be not really like what you expect and hope for.

I think I might have reached that stage earlier that it should be. Just lately I felt so down and I felt like I lost everything and I had nothing. I started to feel tired about the rat race the modern society pressures.

I see most of my classmates are really successful with career and life while I don't know where I am right now. I am like in the middle of no where. Honestly I am not jealous with them. I am really happy seeing them successful. I just felt bad about myself and started to doubt about my ability and qualification. I felt like I couldn't do anything at all.

You guy might find it strange but this is how I am truly feeling right now.