Unsure if anyone else has had this experience---

When possibly making plans to meet up and things change --- some of my khmer friends (male/female) will be like.." why you lie me"

haha.. obviously i wasn't lying but they are interpreting it as a lie. Or do they realize its not a lie but don't have a strong enough grasp of the language so all they know how to express it as a lie?

I was trying to explain.. it just became to frustrating -- this was via text... maybe in person would of been different

thoughts?

becaw you promise!

hanno wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:14 am You want to discuss the finer points of bar girl English? What time is it in your time zone? Not 3 am by any chance?

not only bar girls... ...and at the moment it is 8pm

Jamie, the image doesn't come up for me. Anyone else?

Ok, got it now.

BklynBoy wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:05 am Unsure if anyone else has had this experience---

When possibly making plans to meet up and things change --- some of my khmer friends (male/female) will be like.." why you lie me"

haha.. obviously i wasn't lying but they are interpreting it as a lie. Or do they realize its not a lie but don't have a strong enough grasp of the language so all they know how to express it as a lie?

I was trying to explain.. it just became to frustrating -- this was via text... maybe in person would of been different

thoughts?

the logic here is simple,
if you say something, and it doesnt happen, it means you lie...
never say anything unless you are certain it will happen, if plans change, be prepared for the wrath
you get used to it after a while
never make any promises
if you make promises that dont happen, you will never be forgiven

Jamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2017 10:40 am

BklynBoy wrote: ↑Tue Feb 21, 2017 6:05 am Unsure if anyone else has had this experience---

When possibly making plans to meet up and things change --- some of my khmer friends (male/female) will be like.." why you lie me"

haha.. obviously i wasn't lying but they are interpreting it as a lie. Or do they realize its not a lie but don't have a strong enough grasp of the language so all they know how to express it as a lie?

I was trying to explain.. it just became to frustrating -- this was via text... maybe in person would of been different

thoughts?

the logic here is simple,
if you say something, and it doesnt happen, it means you lie...
never say anything unless you are certain it will happen, if plans change, be prepared for the wrath
you get used to it after a while
never make any promises
if you make promises that dont happen, you will never be forgiven

hahah that made me laugh... the bullshit guy part.... but on a serious note when people make plans,,,things change, shit comes up..anything can happen.. doesn't that happen in khmer culture?
when someone makes a commitment but then somethign comes up? you reach out and explain.... doesn't that happen in any culture?
or am i taking this shit waaaay to serious?

also @lambo... how can you be certain anything will happen? in life, shit comes up.. people get delayed.. plans change or modified... but i hear you on getting used to it..after a certain point, i just was like whatever..and its not only bar girls... some dude said i told him we would hang out..which i did... i think one time i said i am going out if he wants to meet at bar... he couldnt make it... then later said i lied cause we didn't hang out.. i said dude.. you have a mouth also right? you can ask me to make plans... don't put it all on me.. lol wtf.. anyway thats that..

"if you make promises that dont happen, you will never be forgiven..."
That is of course a one way street in Cambodia.
Taam piet samdai min applies usually when they make a threat. On other occasions there is a lot of leeway and squirm room.