when would you pull your plug

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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by potty » Mon Jul 14, 2014 9:25 pm

good post taabarang :)

i will leave, when the fate says i should. whenever this is, will be ok for me.

im glad, i wont have to worry about leaving back a helpless canary or so...
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by Mrs Stroppy » Tue Jul 15, 2014 3:54 pm

I've been contemplating this post for a couple of days now.

Just before moving to PP we got to spend 4 months in the same city as my dad. He's just been put into a home after stroke no 5 and my step mum couldn't care for him anymore. He's nothing like the man he used to be and it caused me to re-evaluate my life and make some changes. We would visit almost daily if not every second day. It was hard to see him there at first but the facility was brilliant. Over time we got to witness allot of joy and happiness in a place that you would expect to be sad. There are some incredible people working in this home giving dignity and joy to the elderly.

I also watched my mum suffer (silently) with bone cancer. So i can see an argument for being in control of your own death and having dignity in the process.

Either way, this is a tough, very personal decision that should not be taken lightly. But don't give up on life too easily add there is a lot of joy to be experienced even at the end of life.
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by Kung-fu Hillbilly » Tue Jul 15, 2014 4:45 pm

If it has got to the stage where I'm dependent on others for my day to day care, then I think it would be time to cash in the chips, although it's difficult to know what or how I'd feel at that time.

I've told the family if I'm living in a developing country and experience a stroke or other debilitating occurrence then they are to get me the hell outa there. Luckily I, like most others here,come from a country that at least has the facilities and inclination to aid the ailing and elderly - we're very fortunate in that regard.Old age with ailing health isn't something I wish to experience in Cambodia, it really isn't!
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by Cowshed Cowboy » Tue Jul 15, 2014 7:33 pm

I took my mother to hospital yesterday, and during the course of sitting there I got my usual hospital induced depression looking at some of the older people is obvious pain, shuffling along with the grim reaper floating invisibly above their heads waiting patiently for his moment. My dad went from healthy and active to an alzheimers vegetable in only 7 years and thankfully for himself and my mother's own health succumbed a couple of years ago. I dread the thought of the day when I end up spending more time visiting a hospital than I do my local bar. If I was physically incapable in some way and too much of a burden for others that would be it for me.
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by StroppyChops » Tue Jul 15, 2014 7:50 pm

That's a painful journey with your dad, CC, one that is usually only relieved through death. But it leaves scars, I know. Hope your mum is doing okay.
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by potty » Tue Jul 15, 2014 8:16 pm

are ill people in need of much care (and not asking for assisted check-out) then
- inconsiderate
- reckless
- cowards
?

why are they going through all this, if there is such an easy way out (apparently)..?
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by vladimir » Tue Jul 15, 2014 8:27 pm

I watched my mother waste away over the course of a year and a half in a hospital.

In the end, she asked that the plug be pulled, and when we hesitated, she did it herself.
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by phuketrichard » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:06 pm

vladimir wrote:I watched my mother waste away over the course of a year and a half in a hospital.

In the end, she asked that the plug be pulled, and when we hesitated, she did it herself.
:thumb: :thumb: :thumb:

She is in a much better place.
Shame on you being selfish an not acting on her wishes
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by Mrs Stroppy » Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:36 pm

phuketrichard wrote: Shame on you being selfish an not acting on her wishes
Not cool!
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Re: when would you pull your plug

Post by Cowshed Cowboy » Tue Jul 15, 2014 11:29 pm

StroppyChops wrote:That's a painful journey with your dad, CC, one that is usually only relieved through death. But it leaves scars, I know. Hope your mum is doing okay.
Cheers Stroppy, I think her biggest fear is suffering the same thing herself having lived with the effects. Unfortunately as we know dementia/Alzheimer's cases are on a very sharp rise with longer life.
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