Rutiger wrote:

Username Taken wrote:^^ Looking forward to the next installment . . . . . . . . . . . after you're married and have kids to raise.

Yeah, life is one thing when your a single, fit 28 year old and feel invincible and can't imagine a world when things aren't in your control. But there is another side and that ball keeps rolling (if you're lucky). Life happens, and young Jamie (et al) may very well find himself in his mid 30's with a woman and child to support and having to scramble to get it all together...and God knows what the world economy will be like when/if that time comes. And if so, the live fast/die young thing is out the window.

I'm not trying to pick on Jamie, he is just the one poster willing to express his views on such subjects. It's not that we disagree, really. I'm just pointing out that , yeah, those mopes back in Blighty working boring-ass office cubicle jobs may now seem like the suckers...and very well might prove to be the suckers who regret things later. That's a real possibility. But so is the possibility that young Jamie finds himself in a future medical and/or financial bind that leaves him in a state where he can't work as he used to and is now without the financial cushion that the boring office workers MIGHT have, if they were prudent. There is no right or wrong blanket statement to be found here... only possibilities that a responsible person should be well aware of and prepared for. That doesn't necessarily have to mean running back home and hiding from life experiences in a boring safety bubble, but surely some prudence and forethought is requisite.

I'm wondering if the difference in our points of view are from the difference in our ages (and therefore experiences) or the differences in our up-bringings. I've always been on the cautious side even when I was his age. I'm not saying that is a good thing. I wonder about it some times and how much that cautious mentality has held me back, if at all.

Jamie_Lambo wrote:

phuketrichard wrote:

...i live with a fuck the future attitude because ive lived long enough to know that no future is guaranteed i make most of my opportunities as and when they happen in the present, id rather enjoy my life now while im young and able to get away with it

Get back to me when ur in ur upper 50's/60's

i wont live that long haha

Jamie_Lambo wrote:i already know i will probably have to go back and work for a few years to get some financial cushion under me, but for now, im still 28 and shouldnt worry about that so much

phuketrichard wrote:Rutger ; Jealous?
otherwise why keep harping on my life

Rutiger wrote:

Jamie_Lambo wrote:i already know i will probably have to go back and work for a few years to get some financial cushion under me, but for now, im still 28 and shouldnt worry about that so much

So you're 28+ now. You already plan on going back to England in a few years and "for a few years" to earn some $$$. So lets say you are 31 when you get back there and work for 3 years after that. That makes you 31+3=34 years old when you return to Cambodia with enough cash (in your plan) to carry on full time there and raise your new family? First kid at age 36? Second at 38? How's that savings account holding up at age 45? Your'e my age before you know it.

You seem to oscillate between the "live fast/die young" mentality and "settle down with a traditional Khmer girl in Cambodia and have kids" within just a couple posts.

If you can figure out a money making business opportunity in one of the poorest countries in the world, then God bless ya. How many others have you met here that have actually done that? The "no plan - plan" doesn't work for me, but as I said, I've always been an overly cautious one. Especially when dependants are concerned.

But then again, you can follow phuketrichards example and smuggle drugs and precious gems around in your arse crack and then spend the next 30 years bragging about that fact on internet forums repeating the same drivel about "I wouldn't change one thing" while singing Sinatra's "I did it my way" until you actually start to believe it.

Jamie_Lambo wrote: why should there be a difference between living for the moment and settling down with a traditional khmer girl and having kids?

Samouth wrote:Also, in developed countries, people don't have to worry or feel the need to earn the money to support their family as their parents have their pension and saving account.

Also, they can always claim for the unemployment benefit while they are working for their favorite works that generate no income or nearly nothing.

By the way, it seemed like many people think that office job is the most horrible job. .