What to expect when getting engaged in Cambodia

fred_stone · Post by **fred_stone** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:00 am

Being clueless what should I expect when getting engaged in Cambodia? Is anyone able to tell me the processes.

daeum_tnaot · Post by **daeum_tnaot** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:05 am

The legal aspect or the social aspect?

PSD-Kiwi · Post by **PSD-Kiwi** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:07 am

Have you ever been to a Cambodian Wedding Ceremony & party? That is what to expect.

newkidontheblock · Post by **newkidontheblock** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 1:29 am

But it’s shorter and less painful overall.

xandreu · Post by **xandreu** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 2:03 am

The process from your point of view is extremely simple - Ask your partner if they'll marry you. Wait for the answer. Hopefully they say yes. They say yes - Job done. Simple. They say no - lick your wounds, move on.

It starts to get much more complicated depending on who else's point of view you're asking about. You need to be much more specific if you're asking about anyone else other than you and your intended wife.

Marriage in Asia works a little like a mini economy - everyone seems to want their piece of the pie depending on how close to the cherry in the middle they are.

fred_stone · Post by **fred_stone** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 3:29 am

daeum_tnaot wrote: ↑Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:05 am The legal aspect or the social aspect?

More of the social aspect. I dont think theres much on the legal side. Its not a marrage. I was told that she will change her dress 3 to 5 times. Im just kinda in the dark about what i do. I was told that i can rent my outfit.

Lonestar · Post by **Lonestar** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 5:57 am

Show up and do as your told.

newkidontheblock · Post by **newkidontheblock** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 6:25 am

I’ve never heard of a Khmer girl refusing a formal engagement offer from a foreigner. Even an English teacher often makes more than Khmer doctors. Maybe a foreigner proposing marriage to a girl from an okhna family might be refused. Okhna families have silly crazy money. Like rolls of $10,000 USD bills and gold, silver, and diamonds for the offering.

Bring whatever she tells you to bring - usually money and clothes. Firstly, money. The bride price for her. Usually shown again at the wedding ceremony. Secondly, bring formal clothes, including tie and shiny shoes. Think business attire. Maybe 2 outfits. It’s about a half day or so ceremony and may or may not include the temple headman, monks, etc. Expect the village to show up and a mass feeding.

Between the engagement and the wedding is pre-wedding pictures. It’s a full day.

OP - congrats. And may you and your better half live a full and happy life together.

RandyN · Post by **RandyN** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 7:12 am

fred_stone wrote: ↑Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:00 am Being clueless what should I expect when getting engaged in Cambodia? Is anyone able to tell me the processes.

Are you planning to apply for a K-1 fiance visa to the USA?

If so, you might able to use that as en excuse to quash or minimize the engagement ceremony. "Sorry, we can't have a ceremony that looks like a wedding, it could jeopardize the fiancee visa application." Offer to do a Western style engagement dinner or a very small private photo shoot instead so she has pictures.

Try to avoid the 8 a.m. engagement ceremony with the piles of fruit and 100 relatives and the sitting in awkward positions and the photographers touching your face and posing you every ten seconds.

daeum_tnaot · Post by **daeum_tnaot** » Sat Jun 27, 2020 10:53 am

fred_stone wrote: ↑Sat Jun 27, 2020 3:29 am
daeum_tnaot wrote: ↑Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:05 am The legal aspect or the social aspect?
More of the social aspect. I dont think theres much on the legal side. Its not a marrage. I was told that she will change her dress 3 to 5 times. Im just kinda in the dark about what i do. I was told that i can rent my outfit.

Apparently there are some minor legal aspects, which are actually more like navigating the social environment related to law enforcement.

There have been a few reports on here of the police actually busting up engagement ceremonies. The consensus response was that you should inform the local police of your ceremony and make sure they are "happy".

From the social side, can't your fiance tell you what to expect? I hope you can both speak the same language. In any case, I'm sure everyone will be very nice to you, you will rarely be made to feel out of place or that you did something wrong. I wouldn't worry about it.

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