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B1.Barang wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 12:52 pm . . . as I love myself.
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Agree with the posters who seem to think Cambodian women want everything for them.

At the large apartment complex where I live, everyday I see men head off to work, some as early as 5:45am, generally returning about 6-6:30pm.

What poses me off is how fucking stupid they must be. I don't work, so I am around all day to see what their wives and gf's (don't) do.

The bitches just sit in the main foyer, and chat with ask the other moms, occasionally playing cards, and rarely, if ever, taking what would be considered good care of their toddlers, who routinely escape their mothers attention and are found in distant parts of the complex, occasionally wanting to come into my apartment. A stern shout occasionally gets the mom's attention. About every other day, some, not alot of, laundry gets done.

Seriously?? I realize I'm highly sensitive about thE equality bullshit that gets beat into any male American's skull and how we need to always go out of our way to help women because they just have such a hard life, but does an effort such as what I've described in any way compare to having to negotiate the dreaded rush hour traffic twice a day, deal with problems all day, and doing what other things that are involved with ones job? I ABSOLUTELY THINK NOT.
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Tarndog wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:05 pm Agree with the posters who seem to think Cambodian women want everything for them.

At the large apartment complex where I live, everyday I see men head off to work, some add really add 5:45am, generally returning about 6-6:30pm.

What poses me off is how fucking stupid they must be. I don't work, so I am around all day to see what their wives and gf's (don't) do.

The bitches just sit in the main foyer, and chat with ask the other moms, occasionally playing cards, and rarely, if ever, taking what would be considered good care of their toddlers, who routinely escape their mothers attention and are found in distant parts of the complex, occasionally wanting to come into my apartment. A stern shout occasionally gets the mom's attention. About every other day, some, not alot of, laundry gets done.

Seriously?? I realize I'm highly sensitive about thE equality bullshit that gets beat into any male American's skull and how we need to always go out of our way to help women because they just have such a hard life, but does an effort such as what I've described in any way compare to having to negotiate the dreaded rush hour traffic twice a day, deal with problems all day, and doing what other things that are involved with ones job? I ABSOLUTELY THINK NOT.
I would never accept that. IMO, Men need to make women more accountable for being stay-at-home 'moms'. And if they don't, it's no longer the woman's fault.
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Tarndog wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:26 pm
Tarndog wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:05 pm Agree with the posters who seem to think Cambodian women want everything for them.

At the large apartment complex where I live, everyday I see men head off to work, some add really add 5:45am, generally returning about 6-6:30pm.

What poses me off is how fucking stupid they must be. I don't work, so I am around all day to see what their wives and gf's (don't) do.

The bitches just sit in the main foyer, and chat with ask the other moms, occasionally playing cards, and rarely, if ever, taking what would be considered good care of their toddlers, who routinely escape their mothers attention and are found in distant parts of the complex, occasionally wanting to come into my apartment. A stern shout occasionally gets the mom's attention. About every other day, some, not alot of, laundry gets done.

Seriously?? I realize I'm highly sensitive about thE equality bullshit that gets beat into any male American's skull and how we need to always go out of our way to help women because they just have such a hard life, but does an effort such as what I've described in any way compare to having to negotiate the dreaded rush hour traffic twice a day, deal with problems all day, and doing what other things that are involved with ones job? I ABSOLUTELY THINK NOT.
I would never accept that. IMO, Men need to make women more accountable for being stay-at-home 'moms'. And if they don't, it's no longer the woman's fault.
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violet wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 5:20 pm Sure, there are likely to be some commonalities, like, he doesn't punch me in the face or kick me in the stomach when I am pregnant, but we will have different ideas and prioritise each of the things we value differently.
That's setting the bar pretty low.
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Tarndog wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:05 pm Agree with the posters who seem to think Cambodian women want everything for them.

At the large apartment complex where I live, everyday I see men head off to work, some add really add 5:45am, generally returning about 6-6:30pm.
@ Tarndog. From your other posts, you don't seem to have a very good opinion of Cambodians in general, so I guess you see what you are looking to see.

From a different perspective, you might see women who get up at dawn, sweep and clean, get the household going, fix some food, go to the market, take the kids to school and then go to work. Then they come home for more of the same, plus the kids' homework.
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Anchor Moy wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:56 pm From a different perspective, you might see women who get up at dawn, sweep and clean, get the household going, fix some food, go to the market, take the kids to school and then go to work. Then they come home for more of the same, plus the kids' homework.
I thought that species of Khmer women were extinct. We're talking about wives, not maids, here aren't we?
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Username Taken wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 9:47 pm
Anchor Moy wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:56 pm From a different perspective, you might see women who get up at dawn, sweep and clean, get the household going, fix some food, go to the market, take the kids to school and then go to work. Then they come home for more of the same, plus the kids' homework.
I thought that species of Khmer women were extinct. We're talking about wives, not maids, here aren't we?
Definitely not. T-minus 3 days and counting until Freightdog junior arrives, and her-indoors is up at 6, a bit of a bull-headed dynamo, dealing with the two stroppy youngsters and a jet lagged barang. She needs reining in, just so that she takes care of herself.
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phuketrichard wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 2:09 pm my gf tells me i am one..

i dont fuck around, dont hit bars, dont drink, think of her feelings
help out at home, (cooking, cleaning,washing up etc)
dont wait till xmas / birthdays to buy small presents
tell her how i feel
being considerate


Although am not religious, i do follow the christian concept of
"Treat others as you would have them treat you"

He is out there for ya,keep looking
But what does she tell her friends :stir:
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Anchor Moy wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:56 pm
Tarndog wrote: Wed Mar 27, 2019 7:05 pm Agree with the posters who seem to think Cambodian women want everything for them.

At the large apartment complex where I live, everyday I see men head off to work, some add really add 5:45am, generally returning about 6-6:30pm.
@ Tarndog. From your other posts, you don't seem to have a very good opinion of Cambodians in general, so I guess you see what you are looking to see.

From a different perspective, you might see women who get up at dawn, sweep and clean, get the household going, fix some food, go to the market, take the kids to school and then go to work. Then they come home for more of the same, plus the kids' homework.
Try to stay on point. The original post had nothing to do with single moms.
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