The cost of company...
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Good list, highlighted with my essentials and one extra.Khmu Nation wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 5:31 am There is always an exchange of something in any relationship, even if you are unlucky enough to go out with some super ambitious career woman back home. It's just played out in different ways.
Looking for 'love' is fine and dandy - when your 20 years old..But after a certain age relationships surely become an exercises in box ticking and practicality. For the man AND the woman.
Here are some of my boxes that need ticking -
Pretty
Reasonable
Responsible
Culturally aware
Potential good mother
Calm demeanor
Good family
Good relationship with her parents and siblings
Parents and siblings civil towards me
Great ass
Can cook
Great tits
Decent enough English
Slim
Non smoker
No drugs at all
Decent in the sack
Minimal or zero alcohol consumption
Aged 25 to 35
No children
]Single when you meet her
No ex husband
No former white long term boyfriend
Doesn't go out late at night
Has never been to an expat bar and doesn't want to go to one
Doesn't go to nightclubs
Doesn't like karaoke
Has a job when you meet her
Pays her own rent and bills when you meet her
Is keen to learn new things
Has some business acumen
Good with money
Is intelligent
Culturally curious
Has no desire to leave se Asia for life in the west
But will leave se Asia with you if that's the way things pan out
Has some good friends living nearby that she sees regularly
Can entertain herself when you are not around
Doesn't see you as a walking ATM
Understands that you have a past and there is usually a reason why you are living here
Is acceptable and accepted by your own family
Has never worked in a hooker/hostess bar in any capacity and has no friends that work in one either
The expats who end up with total nutter assholes are almost always total nutter assholes themselves.
Amen to that.
But this list is for someone who want marriage and kids. I want neither (been there, done that) so finding a good one is a lot more difficult. If she has no kids the relationship is doomed. She will want marriage, she will want kids, she will, if she is intelligent, ask if that is what you want - her box ticking process.
For me, her need for more children is an absolute deal breaker, and if it comes up while out for dinner, it will likely be the last dinner.
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If you don't want kids and you reckon a relationship with someone with no kids is doomed, then sounds like it's not only more difficult.. but impossible.Doc67 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 9:40 am Good list, highlighted with my essentials and one extra.
But this list is for someone who want marriage and kids. I want neither (been there, done that) so finding a good one is a lot more difficult. If she has no kids the relationship is doomed. She will want marriage, she will want kids, she will, if she is intelligent, ask if that is what you want - her box ticking process.
For me, her need for more children is an absolute deal breaker, and if it comes up while out for dinner, it will likely be the last dinner.
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I assume you guys are all under 21 to expect to enter a relationship with no baggage or history.
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violet wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 9:08 amGenuine question. Why is it you can have a history and reform, yet your partner should be free of that? Why does she not deserve the same second chance?Khmu Nation wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 7:16 amI didn't say all - I said 90%! My wife meets most of those criteria - admittedly she doesn't have a great ass or great tits. Very pretty face though.johnny lightning wrote: ↑Tue Aug 24, 2021 6:51 am Christ you don't want much do you? I would venture to say that NO woman is going to meet all those criteria, Khmer or not.
I think there are loads and loads of women out here who meet most of the criteria. Thousands of them, hundreds of thousands of them in fact. But if you limit your search to a handful of expat bars, a couple of clip joints, a nightclub and tinder then it won't seem so. (Although I did meet my wife through badoo) If what is listed is too complicated or comes across as over-demanding and pedantic then here is the simplified version in FOUR BASIC RULES:
1 You almost certainly won't meet a good woman in SE Asia who is out on the town after seven in the evening.
2 You almost certainly won't meet a good woman in a bar out here - any time of day.
3 All the good women have a job when you first meet them - whether that be factory worker, nurse, ceo of a cosmetics company, it doesn't matter what job - but they will have a job.
4 All of the good ones are family orientated and will be in very regular touch with their parents and siblings.
Get those 4 boxes ticked and if you tick her boxes then you could be on to a winner. Yes, of course, there are exceptions to all rules and the hooker with the heart of gold might not be a myth. I am talking in broad strokes here, and based upon my own experiences, this isn't an exact science. This is the core of it all though:
If you want to meet a good woman you got to be a good man in the first place.
I only became a decent man 4 years ago, before that I was an irresponsible man child piece of shit liability alcohol and drug abusing barfly butthurt poor me asshole. Since becoming a responsible adult with values and who is accountable for my actions I have settled down with the best woman I have ever been with.
This isnt a coincidence
Follow my box ticks or the 4 Basic Rules. Finally, always remember she has her own boxes she needs to tick too!! So find out what those boxes are asap.
Thank me at your wedding.
If I implied that it was not my intent. I couldn't give a fuck what someone did in the past provided it still isn't in their present. So with this in mind if she has children it's a deal breaker for me.
No not based on moral high ground - it's that I don't want to get emotionally attached to someone else's child. I have done that and when I split up with the kid's mother it was harder leaving the kid than the mother. In fact I still miss the boy and I know he was crushed when I went my own way.
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Regarding no ex husband stipulation well I don't have an ex wife.
The former long time white boyfriend isn't a deal breaker necessarily - but it is if the guy is back in his home country still sending her money or he still lives in country and they are in contact then no thanks, I will find someone else.
The former long time white boyfriend isn't a deal breaker necessarily - but it is if the guy is back in his home country still sending her money or he still lives in country and they are in contact then no thanks, I will find someone else.
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KN: I want a girl who's good in bed but has no ex husband/ boyfriends, who has no desire to leave Cambodia but will do so if I request it, has no history or baggage but understands that I have more than the Ever Given.
Her:
Her:
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I didn't say no ex boyfriends did I? I don't want an ex husband though as that probably means she has children.
Anyway you do what you want.
You almost certainly won't meet a decent woman out in this part of the world who is out after sunset.
Anyway you do what you want.
You almost certainly won't meet a decent woman out in this part of the world who is out after sunset.
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What’s curious is the perception of who is better.
Here’s a brief run down of a few barang/Khmer relationships that went south, leaving the Khmer Girlfreind/Wife fending for themselves
Good friend of SWMBO- Partner dumped the family entirely. Partner left the city, is now staying with her family in the province.
Due to Covid, American boyfriend got stranded in the states. Supported pregnant girlfriend for a few months, then changed his phone number, Facebook account went quiet. She’s a mother, now, with not much support.
A cousin of SWMBO got married a while back. Now she’s living in the province, new baby arrived a few months back, but the husband hasn’t been heard from since before the baby arrived.
In all of these case, COVID was the obvious reason, but these fellas haven’t really shown themselves to be dependable, reliable, resourceful, committed, faithful, caring, considerate… these are all tick box items, right?
It’s not a great track record
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I guess I was really lucky. She dreamed about meeting me way back in high school. All her family and friends were against me when it happened. A foreigner impossible to be true. So she took a big leap and decided to tie her future into mine.
The perfect one for you is just perfect.
Want imaginary (name the body part)? Tons of fantasy porn out there. As well as mainstream movies. Go to the movies together and enjoy fakery at the same time!
That’s my opinion. There’s always the perfect one out there for you. It may take a lifetime to find that person, however. Or you may never find that person.
The perfect one for you is just perfect.
Want imaginary (name the body part)? Tons of fantasy porn out there. As well as mainstream movies. Go to the movies together and enjoy fakery at the same time!
That’s my opinion. There’s always the perfect one out there for you. It may take a lifetime to find that person, however. Or you may never find that person.
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Seriously dude? How old are you? It's great that you finally found love late in life but give it a rest with the professor tone and fairy tale delusions. We aren't all naive and superstitious.
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