Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

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Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

Post by UKJ » Thu Aug 14, 2014 10:38 am

It's a saying I can't remember hearing until recently, and suddenly it's being thrown around as an insult all the time. It doesn't make much sense. It's hurled at the most non aggressive people imaginable. I don't know if it's mainly used by aggressive people who want to spin things round and appear they are the victim. It sounds like it was dreamt up by a divorce lawyer.
And accusing someone on a forum of it seems pretty ludicrous. Here's what one psychotherapist says about it.
http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk ... -behaviour" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
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Re: Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

Post by Kuroneko » Thu Aug 14, 2014 11:17 am

UKJ wrote:It's a saying I can't remember hearing until recently, and suddenly it's being thrown around as an insult all the time. It doesn't make much sense. It's hurled at the most non aggressive people imaginable. I don't know if it's mainly used by aggressive people who want to spin things round and appear they are the victim. It sounds like it was dreamt up by a divorce lawyer.
And accusing someone on a forum of it seems pretty ludicrous. Here's what one psychotherapist says about it.
http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk ... -behaviour" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
A fairly explicit article regarding passive agressive personality disorder, with a good list of examples. Here is what the DSM IV has to say:

The Disease Perspective
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV), for research purposes, describes Passive-Aggressive Personality
Disorder as a pervasive pattern of negativistic attitudes and passive resistance to demands for adequate performance, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:

Passively resists fulfilling routine social and occupational tasks
Complains of being misunderstood and unappreciated by others
Is sullen and argumentative
Unreasonably criticizes and scorns authority
Expresses envy and resentment toward those apparently more fortunate
Voices exaggerated and persistent complaints of personal misfortune
Alternates between hostile defiance and contrition
http://www.mooddisordersmanitoba.ca/wp- ... ds/133.pdf

Sounds very much like my wife when angry :lol:
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Re: Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

Post by Rain Dog » Thu Aug 14, 2014 5:44 pm

UKJ wrote:It's a saying I can't remember hearing until recently, and suddenly it's being thrown around as an insult all the time. It doesn't make much sense. It's hurled at the most non aggressive people imaginable. I don't know if it's mainly used by aggressive people who want to spin things round and appear they are the victim. It sounds like it was dreamt up by a divorce lawyer.
And accusing someone on a forum of it seems pretty ludicrous. Here's what one psychotherapist says about it.
http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk ... -behaviour" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
I have seen the "Passive aggressive" label thrown around at various posters for as long as I have seen internet forums --- it is nothing new. Kuorenko's definition is a good one clinically. The term was created by the US Military in the late 1940s to describe a type of insubordination sometimes encountered.

In an Internet forum sense it usually refers to a poster that wants to be "liked" and thus tries to be "nice" and non-confrontational but maybe indirectly snipes away or undercuts his/her adversary while still trying to appear "nice" and avoiding any direct confrontation with his/her adversary.
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Re: Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

Post by potty » Thu Aug 14, 2014 5:50 pm

passive agressive is, when they wet clean the floor behind you or the stairs, so that you hopefully slip when turning around...
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Re: Passive Agreesive - Oxymoron?

Post by Rain Dog » Thu Aug 14, 2014 5:53 pm

potty wrote:passive agressive is, when they wet clean the floor behind you or the stairs, so that you hopefully slip when turning around...
lol definitely a case in point
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