phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sat Jun 24, 2017 8:44 pm

Jamie_Lambo wrote: ↑Sat Jun 24, 2017 7:23 pm

phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sat Jun 24, 2017 7:13 pm

"....and im in Asia and i see blokes in their 40's and 50's and even 60's still living the dream "

everyone has different dreams;

I know some people that have never left there home state and are very very happy with their lives and living their dreams

i never specified what that dream was?
in the loosest form, its just blokes living out their lives in a nice hot tropical country surrounded by wonderful culture etc, instead of being stuck back in their dull motherlands

in a more direct form to me, i go out and see blokes of said age, going out and still doing exactly what im doing, which goes to my point, theres no rush to grow up

me and my sisters husband talk about this (including your point) as his "dream" is the family settled down marriage life,

i thought with this being an expat forum of a southeast asia, most people that would be discussing this was a little bit more adventurous than the average joe back home...

so what its a expat forum, not everyone needs adventure to feel their life is full.
why do u say average joe? just cause they choose to live in the western world?? Its not that big a deal to up root ur life and move to asia or as adventurous as u make it out to be. Its just a personal choice.

I followed my dreams and heart which led me to asia
I made a life, raised a family, got divorced, found a new love. Same as many do the world over.



for many its the Peter pan syndrome

Puer aeternus
Puer aeternus Latin for "eternal boy", in mythology, is a child-god who is forever young. In psychology, it is an older person whose emotional life has remained at an adolescent level. The puer typically leads a provisional life, due to the fear of being caught in a situation from which it might not be possible to escape. He covets independence and freedom, opposes boundaries and limits, and tends to find any restriction intolerable.

Jamie; hope u make the move, but as long as ur heading back home to work ur tied to back there. For many of us this is our home, after 10-15 years its not that big an adventure...its just life.

i used the term average joe, because most average people dont venture further than their mother land whether it be comfort or fear, some are quite comfortable in their lives and dont feel the need to change, others would prefer to live somewhere else but to scared to uproot and start fresh, i dont know why you find it so hard understanding things these days, maybe its oldage?
if it was that easy/not big deal, then why do 95% of my friends back in England say they are jealous of my lifestyle, and they say they wish they could do, but dont because of the reasons i stated above..

i spend 7/8 months of the year living in Cambodia and 4 months in England, i go back to England to visit family, as their is always something going on, mum had cancer, sister got married, brother and sister had babies (not together lol), another sister got married etc... the fact that i work there for 4 months means i dont have to work the rest of the year in Cambodia,
a semi retired lifestyle you could call it,
if i wanted to i could take looking for work seriously in Cambodia and settle down for good, which, after my brothers wedding in February next year, is something im going to start taking seriously, as im going to start focusing on my own life, which will be easier now my families got used to the fact of me living away (were a close family) but im much more independent,
but to say im tied there, im not, im self employed, i work as and when i want, i dont need to pay tax, i dont own any property in England i have no ties, other than my family connections

you say "its just life" whilst living on an island in Thailand on the other side of the world from your motherland...

Barang chgout wrote: ↑Sat Jun 24, 2017 7:36 pm 27 years with a western wife....decided there was more to life. Who the fuck wants to judge?

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27 years? ive only ever been with one bird longer than 27 weeks! lol and only a handful more than 27 days hahaha the dreaded 3week peak

You've got a great lifestyle Jamie....I'm in the same boat as you now...i work a few months of the year and spend 6 months in Asia,mostly thailand now.......but i'm twice your age..and the reason I couldnt do it at your age was I had a wife and 4 kids to take care of.....tbh,I think if I had the time again,I'd skip the wife and kids bit.theyre grossly overrated anyway........I realised too late (the vast majority of)Western women are a waste of time.......You've got a great formula already....earn in the West,spend in the East....If youre worried about your "future",then,If youve got any spare cash,put the deposit on a house in the uk and rent it out to cover the mortgage...in 25 yrs time,it'll be paid off (by other people) and worth a shit load more.....By the way,I'm in the same game as you,have you thought of working in Oz ?.....good money on the trowel over there also

Jamie_Lambo wrote:

Barang chgout wrote: ↑Sat Jun 24, 2017 7:36 pm 27 years with a western wife....decided there was more to life. Who the fuck wants to judge?

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27 years? ive only ever been with one bird longer than 27 weeks! lol and only a handful more than 27 days hahaha the dreaded 3week peak

Yeah, I thought I'd wait a little while to see if I liked her or not....

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peppermintpaddy wrote: ↑Sun Jun 25, 2017 4:00 am You've got a great lifestyle Jamie....I'm in the same boat as you now...i work a few months of the year and spend 6 months in Asia,mostly thailand now.......but i'm twice your age..and the reason I couldnt do it at your age was I had a wife and 4 kids to take care of.....tbh,I think if I had the time again,I'd skip the wife and kids bit.theyre grossly overrated anyway........I realised too late (the vast majority of)Western women are a waste of time.......You've got a great formula already....earn in the West,spend in the East....If youre worried about your "future",then,If youve got any spare cash,put the deposit on a house in the uk and rent it out to cover the mortgage...in 25 yrs time,it'll be paid off (by other people) and worth a shit load more.....By the way,I'm in the same game as you,have you thought of working in Oz ?.....good money on the trowel over there also

yeah, as i mentioned in an earlier post too, i hear that a lot, and what encourages me to carry on the way i am
yeah ive got a bit of money stashed away to put towards the deposit of a house, and has been my plan for a whle and its something im going to look to do over the next year,
yeah tried working in Oz, didnt rate it at all tbh, i made the mistake of going to Melbourne because i had friends there, should have gone to Perth where the money is, but i think the gold rush of 10 years ago is over, prices in the UK arent bad again now, were on £400/1000 and £12m2
i was working long 12 hour days, getting paid $240 a day, day rate, boshing up timber framed houses, i wouldnt get out of bed for that in the UK, i can earn £2-300 in a 6 hour day in the UK on price, ive always got work here, ive got guaranteed work here for the next 4 years on my mates site if i want it local

Duncan, it would be a cold day in hell before I married a bar girl. My ex-wife comes from a wealthy Chinese family and graduated from college in the US. You are a total idiot and a loser.

It's a different story once you tie the knot, in the west and the east. I once had a western wife, also a Thai, and alas a Khmer. All finished now.

Ronny wrote: ↑Mon Jun 26, 2017 12:10 pm Duncan, it would be a cold day in hell before I married a bar girl. My ex-wife comes from a wealthy Chinese family and graduated from college in the US. You are a total idiot and a loser.

Don't know how I held myself together but I think a few beers and 2 Xanax helped,




Well I dont think you are holding together very well. May I suggest you take another 2 Xanax and go back and ask your ex if she will give you back your SOH. Your going to need it if you stay on this forum or end up in Cambodia.


Oh,, And by the way,, I dont get into the silly childish game of name calling.

SOH? I haven't the slightest clue what that is. But thanks, Duncan. If there were more people like you in this world my oh my how wonderful it would be- NOT!