One less rude Khmer butting in line...

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One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by OrangeDragon » Tue Jul 22, 2014 7:20 pm

So we were just at the supermarket and a chick with 1 thing stepped right in front of me at the register, I didn't mind at the time because I thought she was with the person checking out. Then the money came out and I realized they weren't together and sort of scoff-chuckled at it. She caught it and apparently speaks English... we had a nice conversation about how rude it was to jump in line, even if you only have one thing, without first asking the permission of the person you're getting in front of. Smiles the whole time.

On the way to the car my wife informed me that the woman won't go back to Samudera now because she lost so much face in front of the staff.

Perhaps this is the solution... we don't get mad, we just openly have a friendly conversation about what they just did terribly wrong in front of the workers until they lose enough face they'll stop coming back.

Apparently it was because I didn't just say one thing and let her apologize, but kept explaining it all the way out each time she presented an excuse with her apology until she finally just said she was sorry without an excuse.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by giblet » Tue Jul 22, 2014 7:27 pm

Four years in and I'm still confounded by face. Does your wife think you also lost face for not accepting her initial apology? Making someone else lose face seems to also qualify as a loss of face.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by StroppyChops » Tue Jul 22, 2014 7:40 pm

Apparently barang do not lose face.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by ExPenhMan » Tue Jul 22, 2014 7:56 pm

Isn't that effed up? They do NOT "lose face" for being rude, but lose face for being called out for being rude. Talk about inside out.

Thing is, some shops act in a way that makes me think they expect you to push your way to the front and if you don't act fast, someone jumps right in front of you.

I've sent line jumpers packing. And counter clerks have done so too here in Thailand. They may answer an interloper's question but they continue to serve me despite the pushy jumper who's sticking cash in the clerk's face and demanding something. Line jumping doesn't happen so much anymore in Thailand, even at 7-11s. The only exception has been phone shops, oddly enough.

Oh, don't get me started on Indian customers . . .
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by StroppyChops » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:04 pm

Happens in China too - I was buying a SIM card when someone jumped in mid sentence. I stopped them and told them I was being served and had not finished yet. They looked like I had slapped them, and the guy serving me took a lot of pleasure in slowing right down.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by StroppyChops » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:06 pm

ExPenhMan wrote:Oh, don't get me started on Indian customers . . .
Yeah, the problem with Indian is that once you get started...
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by General Mackevili » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:20 pm

OrangeDragon wrote:...I didn't mind at the time because I thought she was with the person checking out. ...
Ha! That awkward moment when I don't know if I should start making a big scene and call them "cha-loi" or simple smile at them because they're just getting back in line with their friend.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by Garry.Crabtree » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:40 pm

Steady on. I hate when those little Khmer midgets complain when I push in front of them in the queue at Lucky's.

Hey, they can kiss my arse.
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by Bitte_Kein_Lexus » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:43 pm

I dunno, I kind of like getting angry
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Re: One less rude Khmer butting in line...

Post by OrangeDragon » Tue Jul 22, 2014 8:52 pm

giblet wrote:Four years in and I'm still confounded by face. Does your wife think you also lost face for not accepting her initial apology? Making someone else lose face seems to also qualify as a loss of face.
Apparently not because I didn't lose my temper and when she started to leave insisted that she stay there and that it was fine, but that she should know doing so without asking was very rude.
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