Hi all,

So here is my case, I have thrown out my wife today whom I was married (unhappy) two long years to.

Alot of crying on her part, but I did purposely not show any emotion I felt, because she knows to damn good how to play with them. I really felt sorry for her, but as she just called me on the phone, I sensed some blackmail, witch is a good thing because all my sad feelings just disappeared, hah!

So here is how it went:
-You have thrown me out of your house, now you have to give me money.
*Oh, ok, I will give you nothing
- Multiple times; I am not going to go nowhere, I am not going nowhere, you not give me money I will not go. You will not win that game.
* I am not up to playing games, I just want to move on with my life, I give you nothing. You have my wedding ring, sell that if you want.
(and she repeat herself some time, then i close the phone)

So what would you do in this case? She is crazy, and can be very persistent, I know she will try in a desperate move to extort money from me, but it is not going to happen. Tomorrow she comes back to pick up her stuff. I informed my neighbor that I have finished the relationship, and luckily I have good relations with all my neighbors. I live in a residential area with many people around in daytime.

I can take some precautions, my tv, laptop,... (anything breakable), will put them under my bed in the case she goes in crazy/aggressive mode tomorrow.
Will put all her stuff ready by the door so I can in worst case trow everything out with her included.

As I write I am a little bit concerned, but I will not show that to her ether as it will not let her control my life anymore.

PS: I am still very young, this was my first 'real' relationship so don't be judgmental to me. You all can guess what person she was when we met !

Thanks for any help and advice!

I was maybe not very clear what kind of advice I seek.
This is Cambodia, so I don't know if police can help me here if something get out of hand. I am definitely not looking for relationship advice.
But I hope anyone with similar experciences could help me out what the worst outcome could be. BTW, she was a bargirl when we met...
Many thanks for reading this wall of text...

If you're good with the neighbours, maybe you could invite someone over so it wouldn't be just you two - she may behave better ? Just a thought. I definitely wouldn't call the police. Pack up all her stuff, put it outside and lock the door ?
I have no experience in crazy ex-wives, so maybe someone else will have some better advice.

Thanks for your reply!

This is a good advice, but in my case this would not matter a lot I guess.
As my house is a Kmher shophouse with a big front gate in full streetview,
I always open everything in the day, and from the street you can see the whole inside.
This could temper the beast inside of her... (I hope)

I'll be blunt. I know two people who had similar situations in PP. They said; Bye! Then their exes arranged for some young, angry gentlemen to visit them a week or two down the line. It took one of them the best part of 6 months to start walking again. Bar girls... for all the bollocks talked on other threads... are prostitutes. Here, that means they normally have some kind of "mafia" tie and an expectation of being able to call on it. You ought to bugger off from where you're living to somewhere else for a few months (or ideally a few years). The police will be of no use whatsoever. At least until after you've taken the beating.

Marrying an impoverished Cambodian woman and living with her for two years and then suddenly throwing her out of the house and saying "get lost, just keep the ring" is a dickish and unreasonable thing to do. She's your wife, you should make arrangements so that she isn't homeless and is taken care of and she can transition into a stable environment.

If you want out of the marriage, you should move out of the house, tell her you'll pay the rent for a reasonable period of time until she makes other arrangements, and yes, give her money to help her get back on her feet.

Thanks for the replies.

Cam Nivag, I didn't see it from that point yet, but you are absolutely right I think. I will do my best to talk through it and see if we can make some arrangement where I pay some rent for some months maybe + some money for food.

My troubled mind cannot think straight but I think that could help to reduce the damage for her. She saw it coming from a long time and I had warned her a lot, but she never took my words serious I guess.

Anyway the lesson for my case is, you cannot change people even if you want very hard. I am so sad she did not want to finish her school and made bad friends just like when I met her.

TheGrinchSR, this sound like an absolutely nightmare, but I don't think she will is bad like that. These guys must have been very unlucky to be with an evil person like that.

I am thankful for your answers.

I belive she is legally entitled to 50% of everything you have acquired after the wedding...

you are actually in a potentially dangerous situation that you have escalated beyond your own control.
Your next encounter could be the last chance to negotiate.

move far away at once. I mean in the next hour if you can.
take your stuff and leave the keys for her.
Don't use your normal tuktuk, use one from far away.

Cam and the Grinch have given excellent advice.
Yes, you will have to pay her i think for a while.

Cam Nivag is right. If she doesn't listen to reason/ a decent offer, RUN.