kiwiincambodia wrote:That was in the expat ghettos though Grinch, you didn't see the "real China" like our resident nutjob bkktrapper.

(Sarcasm intended)

Satiated Parrot wrote:Grinch - when did you live in Guangzhou?

Jamie_Lambo wrote:

prahkeitouj wrote:Are you sure tha bar can work till two months? Hehehe it is funny!

most bar girls claim to have only been working at the bar "2 months" haha

Rutiger wrote:

Duncan wrote:Just to complicate the discussion between the difference between love and sex, we know that it is not unusual for one person to have sex with two [ or more ] people , but is it possible for one person to love two [ or more ] persons in a relationship. [ Hey, I'm not going to discuss my relationship ]
If for example,, a female can love all her children and family, why would she not be able to love a husband , and several boyfriends ?

Mabye she can, but how many men are willing to share a woman's affections in such an open relationship? I'm guessing jealously and posessiveness usually kick in. And some men wouldn't accept helping raise and support another man's kids, especially if that other man is still in the picture.

TheGrinchSR wrote:

Duncan wrote:Just to complicate the discussion between the difference between love and sex, we know that it is not unusual for one person to have sex with two [ or more ] people , but is it possible for one person to love two [ or more ] persons in a relationship. [ Hey, I'm not going to discuss my relationship ]
If for example,, a female can love all her children and family, why would she not be able to love a husband , and several boyfriends ?

I tend to agree with this. I don't think love is a finite resource and I think it is 100% possible to love more than one person at the same time. This goes for both men and women. Unfortunately I think societal conditioning is a hard thing to overcome and many folks out there are going to always want to follow a monogamous line than try to step outside the box. This is changing for the current generation in the West but it's going to take way longer to change elsewhere in the world.

prahkeitouj wrote:

TheGrinchSR wrote:

Duncan wrote:Just to complicate the discussion between the difference between love and sex, we know that it is not unusual for one person to have sex with two [ or more ] people , but is it possible for one person to love two [ or more ] persons in a relationship. [ Hey, I'm not going to discuss my relationship ]
If for example,, a female can love all her children and family, why would she not be able to love a husband , and several boyfriends ?

I tend to agree with this. I don't think love is a finite resource and I think it is 100% possible to love more than one person at the same time. This goes for both men and women. Unfortunately I think societal conditioning is a hard thing to overcome and many folks out there are going to always want to follow a monogamous line than try to step outside the box. This is changing for the current generation in the West but it's going to take way longer to change elsewhere in the world.

Maybe just one person can't give us enough because no one is perfect. But it is not a good solution to add one more person when we can't get something else from our lover. I faced to this problem when I felt like two people at the same time, but I'd to follow my inner heart. I chose the one who I like the most to start a relationship. It is hard to understand our feeling but we need to choose one , otherwise we get no one. We still can have both, but main thing we will be a cheater and on one trust in us.

TheGrinchSR wrote:
You don't have to cheat on someone if you love more than one person. You just have to explain it to both of them and if they are cool with that - you're not cheating. Sometimes it's better to have a hard conversation than to avoid what you really want.