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Post by frank lee bent » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:33 pm

being right on the river front of Kampot everyone passes daily.

there is an old gal who is bent double from osteoporosis pulling her recycling cart and another old gran that can barely walk that i always give a little money too. they are about my age.

there is also a blind fiddler with his grand daughter maybe, and a dwarf with 2 tiny kids getting round. i buy a few cans of those tomato sardines to hand out to them. they are delighted and astonished to get that food instead of cash.

i think they are kind of surprised that anyone actually thought to feed them.

oh and there is a little monk about 7 years old i give to. he asked my name today and told me his was "money" LOL
can't make it up.
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Re: giving

Post by that genius » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:40 pm

Hope you have time to sit and watch the sunsets, flb
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Re: giving

Post by frank lee bent » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:42 pm

yep- it just skirts the edge of the Bokor range
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Re: giving

Post by taabarang » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:45 pm

oh and there is a little monk about 7 years old i give to. he asked my name today and told me his was "money" LOL
can't make it up.

Actually his name could have been "prak" which means money and is either a first or family name.
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Re: giving

Post by Kung-fu Hillbilly » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:46 pm

I don't care how much people talk about it. Should be a regular point of conversation, as I see it. I'm a giver, to a fault some would wager. I don't care.

One example.I get my late night fried noodles at the same street-side cart most nights. There's a guy who sets up at four in the afternoon. and he's the last there at four in the morning also packing up. Deaf and dumb his duties are simple, wash the plates, boil water...rinse and repeat. He knows his cigarettes and a bit of carry around change is covered while I'm here. What I enjoy most is we sit occasionaly and we talk through basic gestures and pen and paper about his family, girls, how he loves fishing and girls again. Good guy wants nothing from me, just got a bum deal.
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Re: giving

Post by frank lee bent » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:53 pm

it is not like it really costs us anything- and a hungry belly is a fucked up thing.
i only give to people who need it.
they actually bless me in a formulaic way.
i mean according to their religion, they praise me to their God.
right in front of me!
kind of embarrassing.
i really enjoy giving food to the old girls- they are trying hard to survive and have dignity.
the one old ejai lady is amazing. i bet it has been 10 years since she could stand up straight.
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Re: giving

Post by timmydownawell » Sun Feb 11, 2018 6:59 pm

I noticed all the monks in Kampot seemed to be children. Why is that? Homeless kids with nowhere else to go?

I don't have much in the way of spare cash but I keep an eye out for a few regulars and they appreciate it. On a per-income basis I am a much bigger giver now than I ever was in Australia.
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Re: giving

Post by Arget » Sun Feb 11, 2018 7:11 pm

I think most normal expats here do the same and target those who need a hand instead of those touting for money.A couple of years ago I bought some kids who were selling bangles some food and they took it over to their "handler" on riverside. She took the food from them and scoffed it all.
After that I would make them eat with me or get them ice cream and sit them in the shop to eat it. The old bag would just stare at me and scowl.
I always "take away" dont eat and give it away. I don't waste food.
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Re: giving

Post by Arget » Sun Feb 11, 2018 7:13 pm

FLB you will be missed buy more people than you know. I hope you find what you need and visit here again when you are ready.
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Re: giving

Post by phuketrichard » Sun Feb 11, 2018 8:25 pm

i give very very seldom and never to kids. its their karma be as you see them... and i dont mean that as a bad thing
I noticed all the monks in Kampot seemed to be children. Why is that? Homeless kids with nowhere else to go?
many are homeless and it used to be at least 1 male would enter the monk hood from each family
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