phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sun Aug 25, 2019 1:39 pm

sigmoid wrote: ↑Sun Aug 25, 2019 11:52 am Based on rather bizarre posts like this on this site and various others, it really seems like the 'expats' of today are a completely different breed.

A couple of decades ago, being an expat meant leaving the west behind, looking for adventure, exotic experiences, going native (to some degree), sampling street food, drinking in the market, etc.

Thesedays, people want to bring everything with them and attempt to replicate the comfort and convenience of their lives back home.

and i want add
they want to tell all those back home where they are & what they are doing.

just makes you feel sick to your stomach doesn't it!

So my heartfelt thanks to those concerned about my well-being and flagging the risks of dating bargirls. This is something every middle-aged, divorced, unattached male expat (and those attached or not divorced!) moving to Camnodia should have drilled into them before their visa is issued at the airport. I am new to cambodia, but I have been around Asia for a while now so I do have some awareness of this.

I am fortunate that I am able to live and travel around many countries and whenever moving, I rely very heavily on expat forums such as CEO to educate myself and short-circuit the learning and pitfalls others have spent years experiencing. I am perfectly capable of making my own new and novel mistakes (that's part of the fun, excitement and adventure), then the same mistakes of those who have come before.

I also try to give a little back by sharing my experiences back to the boards I have benefited from. Hopefully those who are already here will be entertained by my anecdotes and share some advice where warranted. Hopefully those who come after me will find their own mistakes to make and entertain me and the rest of us.

On the topic of my 2 dates; lots of wild speculation about them and my romantic life (I wish it were that exciting!).

My only real thought on this is: I'm guessing anyone here spending 3-4 hours talking to someone over dinner would be able figure out if that person was genuinely who they represented themselves to be or an uneducated fraud working semi-skilled employment.

The point of the anecdote wasn't that I was not dating bargirls; it was to amuse everyone with a mild warning that just because you you don't think your dating someone sketchy, it doesn't mean there won't be surprises.

phuketrichard wrote: ↑Sun Aug 25, 2019 1:39 pm

sigmoid wrote: ↑Sun Aug 25, 2019 11:52 am Based on rather bizarre posts like this on this site and various others, it really seems like the 'expats' of today are a completely different breed.

A couple of decades ago, being an expat meant leaving the west behind, looking for adventure, exotic experiences, going native (to some degree), sampling street food, drinking in the market, etc.

Thesedays, people want to bring everything with them and attempt to replicate the comfort and convenience of their lives back home.

and i want add
they want to tell all those back home where they are & what they are doing.

And don't forget when they went there, the earlier the better to show your cred

CamExpat wrote: ↑Mon Aug 26, 2019 12:42 pm
My only real thought on this is: I'm guessing anyone here spending 3-4 hours talking to someone over dinner would be able figure out if that person was genuinely who they represented themselves to be or an uneducated fraud working semi-skilled employment.

A hint of experience with a dash of skepticism will go a long way in every situation.

Know your limits and limit who you know, if you know what I mean

You won't meet a good woman after 9pm.

The Seawolf wrote: ↑Fri Aug 30, 2019 9:50 am You won't meet a good woman after 9pm.

As it should be.

What floats one boat may sink another... Concur about the kids mulling around but if u think about it... The parents probably make pennies so paying for school can be a challenge.

A lot of the issues i see are through Western lenses so I try to take things one step at a time n try my best not to be judge Judy

CamExpat wrote: ↑Mon Aug 26, 2019 12:42 pm I'm guessing anyone here spending 3-4 hours talking to someone over dinner would be able figure out if that person was genuinely who they represented themselves to be or an uneducated fraud working semi-skilled employment.

The most successful scammers are those who you believe to be genuine.

Spending time with girls, you can see who is simple, and who is well educated.

Most people are not fooled by the simple girls, and are less likely to be scammed by them, except simple men.

But then some people have girlfriends or wives based on sympathy. She is poor, and needs me. These people often get girls who are not going to put much effort into life. She just needs money so she can have a life of ease.

So you date a well educated girl. These are much better girls to date, and you have a much higher likelihood of getting a genuine girl.

But there are some well educated girls who still think of you as a walking ATM. She may be a university student, or have a good job. She may speak fluent English. She is sophisticated, and communicate intelligently. She is much more clever at convincing you she genuinely loves you, and you believe her.

She tells you a story of how she or her family needs money for something important. You think about it. Then her friend comes along and tells you about the same situation, which convinces you it is true. So you help her out with money. It is the independent person verifying the story that convinces you. You just didn't know that Cambodians work together when scamming foreigners.

Having said that, I still recommend dating well educated girls. There are a lot that are genuine.

Hey man, I enjoyed your original post. I'm also moving to Cambodia in a few weeks.

Just wanna know more about how you got your internet connection. Was the transaction straightforward? And what payment methods does SINET accept?